Would you assume that if you were looking in your son's room and he was sleeping with his g/f in his arms, that they had sex?? Would you trust them to be alone together?? Why or why not??
2006-12-14 10:25:49 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Would you assume that if they were ok with this than they already had sex?? My friend says yes.
2006-12-14 10:27:55 · update #1
I know they are close b/c they have been together for 3 years. I know all his friends have had sex, so are the chances higher then that they(him and his g/f) had sex
2006-12-14 10:39:22 · update #2
You need to ask him ... HOWEVER, he should not be allowed to have his girlfriend in his room when he's alone ... period! That should not be allowed while he lives under your roof.
2006-12-14 10:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is never good to assume. Did they have their clothes on? Was the door locked? How old are they? If they are young and you feel that they are not ready for sex, I would probably nix the "sleeping together in the bedroom". Wasn't too long that I was a teenager and my b/f and I had sex while family was in the next room...believe me, they will find a way if they want. Just talk to your son about behaving responsibly and make sure he has condoms if he isn't going to practice absitenance. Thats about all you can do. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-14 10:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying is when you assume something, u make an a** out of u and me .... don't assume anything, ask him straight up what the deal is. They may or may not be sexually active - you can't stop them from doing this but you can educate them as to the importance of practicing safe sex and the reasons that they should/shouldn't wait (depending on what your beliefs are about what sex means, emotional impacts, etc. etc.). You can also be very upfront about what your rules and boundaries for their contact are going to be when under your roof (whatever that may be).
2006-12-14 10:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i walked in my sons room and they were laying a sleep in each others arms yes they maybe did have sex and if not then they have in the past and my neice is the same way and came to find out they were having sex all i can say is make sure they are practicing safe sex that is a must it could save there life
2006-12-14 10:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are they?
I would have a very long to with him and her if they are that close.
I'd make sure they knew the risk and the problems they can encounter by having sex so young.Make sure the protection they need is available if needed.Just remember talk to them not at them, don't get upset and be open to any and all questions that will come up. This can be a very hard moment for you as well as them.Try not to be embarrassed or let them see you sweat.
2006-12-14 10:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by mint_julip1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that if he hadn't already, that he would soon. It's time for a talk; and time to set some ground rules for your house. If they're going to do it, they'll do it whether it's in your house or not; but you need to have a conversation with him about it and enlightne him as to the laws concerning statutory rape. Hopefully the girl and her parents won't file charges and put your son in jail. Assuming they're under 18. If they're over 18, then it's a less dramatic conversation.
2006-12-14 10:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by SoCalSkierGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They really could just be sleeping. Didn't you ever do that? Really, a simple talk about responsibilities, sex, dating, life... that would ameliorate your fears more than say... asking us strangers. I would have to know how long they had been "hanging out" and what the context was a little more to really judge whether they were sleeping or post-coital. I'd guess sleeping and give the kid a break.
2006-12-14 10:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Shibi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with that, I mean their clothes were on and hands aren't in inappropriate places. There was nothing sexual going on just being intimate and close with each other. No matter what age couples are, they want intimacy and closeness. Most people like to be cuddled with, be close to the one they love/like. You probably taught your son to respect women and to not treat sex like it's casual so he's not going to go out right away and get it over with because he is in the mood.
2006-12-14 10:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming is a personal pet peeve of mine. I wouldn't assume anything, although there might be some clues. Are their clothes on the floor? Is there an open condom wrapper on the dresser? You also might want to consider how you would feel if he was sleeping with his BOYfriend in his arms... count your blessings.
2006-12-14 10:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not asume that they had sex. Your kid would be pretty brave to have sex with his girlfriend in your house and then fall asleep knowing that you could walk in at any moment. But then again, these days, anything is possible.
In any case, I would lean towards trusting them alone together. I would know "stuff" would happen, but it doesn't have to be sex.
2006-12-14 10:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they slept together doesn't mean they had sex.... every time you sleep with your husband/boyfriend/whatever, does that mean you had sex right before you fell asleep?
I'm not ruling out that they did have sex, but just because they sleep together doesn't mean anything. Just make sure they know to use birth control...
2006-12-14 10:34:44 · answer #11 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋