My b/f and I went to WI dells with only two friends on vacation together, and when my friend and her b/f(my b/f's friend) Heard me say that this guy(not my b/f) was really hot, she was all like: You shouldn't say those kinds of things. My b/f knows I would never cheat. Why is it sowrong to check out hot guys when you have a b/f?? It's just a look, not like im cheating, right??
She says it's wrong to even look at other guys. Is she right?? (Some of them lifeguards have gr8 bods)
It doesn't phase him, just as it doesn't phase me when he and his friends say girl's are hot. We both know how the other feels.
Is it wrong for a 16 yr old guy to be ok with this?? Should he be jealous??
2006-12-14 10:22:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am I never supposed to look at a guys again?? I know he looks at girls too. Is it wrong??
2006-12-14 10:26:49 · update #1
Of course its not cheating! You can look but don't touch.
2006-12-14 10:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you and him are learning great life lessons! Just remind him how hot you think he is from time to time.
But really, there will ALWAYS be someone hotter than who you are with. ALWAYS. Brad Pitt left Jennifer Aniston for Angelina Jolie. And Jennifer is hot! Even hot people get dumped for something hotter. The point is, if you can do it moderately in front of him, then he should be able to do it moderately in front of you. If you don't like that, the don't do it yourself. But if you are cool with it, then remind him like I said above. Let him know that you WANT him, and are only LOOKING at someone else.
2006-12-14 10:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by rawlings12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, relationships are all about trust, and it looks like you two have it pretty good. Keep it that way and you guys should last a while. You gotta wonder about your friend's relationship though haha. As long as neither of you guys act on your impulses other than looking you're fine it's not cheating it's human nature.
2006-12-14 10:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I like the abbreviation "gr8." Never heard that one before.
Ok, I am old!
Looking at someone else, especially someone who looks good is as natural as breathing. That is why we have models; people like to look at them. That does not mean you are cheating!
I saw in one movie where a married guy was looking at two women walking by. His friend said, why are you looking, you are married!
He replied, "just because I am married, does not mean I cannot look at the menu."
The only men, or women who do NOT look are dead! We all look!
2006-12-14 10:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is out of her mind. the guys checks other girls out they see them even if they are married. It's not like you went and have sex you're just checking. when i am with my bf and I see a good-looking man I say it. he doesn't get mad at all and he loves me. so i dont't see what's wrong with that. And I am sure you friend is a cheater herself. This a characteristic of cheaters.
Of cheating is bad. Cheating means when you are in a relationship with someone and you go and start a sexual relationship with another person.
2006-12-14 10:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond C. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not wrong and no its not cheating. You both are ok with checking out the opposite sex and your comfortable enough with each other and trust each other as well. Your friend sounds like a real prude, and you sound like a cool gal.
Look all you want, lol.
2006-12-14 10:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 16 and i's be jealous if my gf checked out other guys its not the fact you are cheating on him its teh fact that you are attracted to soemone else while you are in theis realtionship if you don't that he checks out girls and he doesn't care if you check out guys than thats great for you guy and theres no problem its when teh other person has a problem with it,(just make sure he is being truthfull when hes telling you, he may be trying to hide his feeling as to not be controlling)
2006-12-14 10:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mike H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to check out guys when you have a boyfriend...as long as you and youre boyfriend knows how each other feels and wants. As long as youre honest. chill out though, its better to look than touch, rite? And no youre not cheating, youre just glancing around!!
2006-12-14 10:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by glamgRl28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking and making comments isnt cheating and your friends are wrong because if they say they have never looked at a man are women and didnt say something like that even in their minds they are lying they have you are not cheating you are just stating a comment
2006-12-14 10:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong if the one person does it respectfuly by keeping their opinions to themselves. It's not wrong to glance but to stare, that's a whole other issue. Always assure that the person you're with, that they are the only one that's pleasing to your eyes though. Glance into their eyes and maybe even give them a gentle kiss to assure them.
2006-12-14 10:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by April 34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry 2 break it too u hun but it is kinda of cheating if your going out with someone he or she should be the only guy or girl that u thought was hot!!!!!!!!! thats just my opinion u can believe what u wanna believe!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-14 10:26:51 · answer #11 · answered by Courtney Desarai Aiken 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋