Family & Relationships - 7 December 2006

hi there, would love some advice on this as its too embarrassing to discuss with friends, have been married a year and a half and am 5 months pregnant, our sex life is good and quite adventurous or at least I thought so,but i recently found porn downloaded on his labtop.....i feel decieved,hurt and inadaquate and look at him differently now...i mean if he was satisifed he wouldnt do this....would he??...is this normal for guys coz i kinda thought only dirty old men or curious teens dabbled in that sort of thing....am i over-reacting?? please help.

2006-12-07 08:07:13 · 14 answers · asked by nat 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My soon-to-be mother-in-law is making my life hell with all these questions about dresses and bridesmaids. I'm trying to get down to a size 18 for my wedding, but I just want to feel like my real self. Does anyone have advice on de-stressing and looking beautiful for a wedding when you're NOT a size 6? It seems like there's no good advice on any of the popular wedding websites (theknot, etc.). HELP!

2006-12-07 08:06:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I'm currently involved in a long distance relationship, I'm in Florida and he is Texas. We met through the internet and met back in August, we seen eachother again October. Everything is wonderful when we are together. Unfortunately he lost his job at the end of August right before we were about to meet, he never had any financial issues. So due to the holidays it has become rather difficult to find the job he wants. He had to move back in with his mom until he gets back on his feet. He has always been self confident, always looked out after himself, so he probably feels embarrased about his situation. He says sometimes I do not understand him and that sometimes he wants to be left alone. He just said this today, prior to that I had to guess what was going on with him , or what was he thinking about. He does not want my help either, because he is too proud. I do not know how to help him or show him that I care for him and I am here for him. I feel like he is pushing me out.Any thoughts

2006-12-07 08:05:39 · 30 answers · asked by pookie 2 in Singles & Dating

This guy is weird, but he is funny and nice. I don't think he likes me, but its worth a shot, right?

2006-12-07 08:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by mynameis.. 1 in Singles & Dating

I mean, I tried the longerie, and the candles, but SANTA is so dam busy making lists and checking it twice, and then his other excuse, Mrs Claus is making pot roast and hot chocolate,tonight, well ho ho ho, I am about to go whip some clause butt, if he doesn't make time for the me, right now I am only in for thursday nights,,,,,,, and he's so unromantic only taking me to the north pole, think of something new man.........how bout we do it up on a roof top? or on a sleigh ride, he gets so tired delivering toys,If he doesn't HO HO HO himself out again, he's so emotionally unavailable, should I dump this jack***

2006-12-07 08:04:37 · 27 answers · asked by 9888khgd6 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 08:03:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Girls,

What do you think the best gift to recieve from your guy ?

2006-12-07 08:03:49 · 5 answers · asked by LabradorRetreiver 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 08:03:32 · 15 answers · asked by lonley texan girl 1 in Singles & Dating

I recently parted with ways with an awful, disrespectful jerk. Then the other day, I was out with friends and met someone. (he was a friend of one of my friends and was in town for a few days). He and I hit it off well and we talk by phone daily as we are in different states. Its not quite love yet, as its fairly early. I don't really need advice, I was just curious to see if others believed...

2006-12-07 08:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by Koko Loco 2 in Singles & Dating

( Not a boyfriend or husband)

2006-12-07 08:02:20 · 6 answers · asked by Diego Rivera 1 in Singles & Dating

I believe that the man I have been dating for the past year is a pathological liar. He can't tell the truth about anything, including his relationship with his ex-wife. In the beginning of our relationship, they were calling each other all the time and although he did not know it, I was tracking his cell phone and knew of each call. I asked him to stop several times and he said he did, well he lied. So I finally called his ex-wife and told her about us and told her to stop calling and it did. Then I caught him is other lies. Small lies but lies none the less. The wierd thing about each adn every lie is when I would tell him about it, he never accepted responsibility. He would just sit there like a little child. Over time, the lies have pretty much stopped because he has seen the error of his ways so he says. He has asked me to marry him and I don't know what to do. Based on the above, I don't trust him, but do I give him the chance?

2006-12-07 08:01:51 · 17 answers · asked by Cali Girl 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-07 08:01:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My Step Father is dying of ALS , since I am the youngest child of the family, I am very found of my mother.. and it just kills me to see her suffer through this.. I feel so lost to help her.. what can I do!!

2006-12-07 08:01:12 · 20 answers · asked by russ 1 in Family

I've been called cute, sexy, hot, a babe, but mainly cute. I can honestly say I don't remember the last girl that approached me. I've put myself out there and I don't get anything. I know I'm not an ******. I'm a nice guy and I've been told I'm also very charming. So what the h*ll gives ladies?

2006-12-07 08:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by dreadxlove 1 in Singles & Dating

I recently moved to a new state and I don't really know my way around and I don't really know anyone except my family that lives here. Also I am bi and I would like to meet people that are bi also. Help what can I do where can I look?

2006-12-07 08:00:29 · 7 answers · asked by crazylovebirdess77987 1 in Friends

We have five grown children. The family is very dysfunctional. The eldest daughter has been out of the picture for 22 yrs..The next daughter has a collage degree in business is very capable but does not want to be in the middle of a mess that might jeperdise her relationship with her brother and niece and nephews. Next is our oldest son who is now the trustee but since he sat in the attorneys office with his Dad and I his Mother and found out our worth HE HAS CHANGED. I cannot believe how the son I thought was my rock has changed. We feel we must remove him, the trust we had in him is no longer there. Our next son has been away for 20 years serving in the US Military and will retire from there as did his Dad some 38 years ago. So he is really not avaiable. The last son, still unmarried at 36 but planning to lives from pay check to pay check and has needed much help from us, some through no fault of his own.
My husband is 80 years young and I am 76. Advice is appreciated. God Bless You

2006-12-07 08:00:07 · 9 answers · asked by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 in Marriage & Divorce

how

2006-12-07 08:00:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

For a relationship, not just a booty call. Assuming you've just completed college and work where there are not many girls. And religious events are out of the question. Bars/clubs are usually filled with sluts. So where??

2006-12-07 07:59:58 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met this guy offline, who happens to go to the same school i go to. Well, i get the feeling he was dissapointed that i didnt look the way he hoped i would look. Well, he wasnt so good looking himself. He never talks to me online and he always cuts me off with his away messages.Before we met in person, He used to always talk to me on the instant messenger and he would always instant message me first. Now im pissed, Why cant guys just say that they dont like you upfront, instead of wasting my time. I dont know if he's just shy or just dont like me.

2006-12-07 07:59:14 · 4 answers · asked by Lorrane 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 07:58:46 · 15 answers · asked by red shark 1 in Marriage & Divorce

for 2 yrsi have been wanting to make my bf feel pleaure again but h just got tired of it .when i wanted to have sex he did not and when he did i was to tired.what can i do i need help quick toniht we r gonig to tryto have a baby. !!!!

2006-12-07 07:58:30 · 8 answers · asked by eminem luver 1 in Singles & Dating

what do you guys think when a guy says "ur cute ur not really really hot but ur pretty" ? for some reason i don't feel happy

2006-12-07 07:58:00 · 4 answers · asked by val 1 in Singles & Dating

I know a women that walked away from her children and had no cummnication with them or their caregiver. She was always a good mother to the 1st kid, but when the 2nd one was born she changed drastically. The mother did not use drugs, yet she did have some issues. I've always felt that she was emotionally unstable at times, but not to the point of being violent to children. I still after all these years wonder what could she have been thinking when she thought of her kids. She's still a bad mother right now. I would love to help her make peace with God and her children. I pray for her soul......Love ya sis

2006-12-07 07:57:33 · 5 answers · asked by Jackie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I went to my boyfriend's christmas do last saturday. we had a good night, got very drunk, but i hardly knew anyone as I have moved ffrom london to leeds to be with him. Anyways, he and his mate went to a strip club for an hour, and he did return, after just over an hour. He does have a high sex drive, and he reassured me that its me he wants to be with. the other girls thought he was out of order. but I trust him, and he said its a laugh, because he teases the strippers and he loves the tease from them? He also said he wont be put under the thumb.

2006-12-07 07:57:13 · 11 answers · asked by tessie 1 in Singles & Dating

I split from her back in August, she's been seeing another guy since then, and is now 1-2 months pregnant. Our divorce is about to go through. She told me her new man has reacted badly to her pregnancy and doesn't want to take any responsability (suggesting she have an abortion). To be honest I'm not really sure how I feel about this and how to react. I do want my children to have a happy and healthy mother, but I worry about her having a child with this man. On the other hand I'm afraid that this guy will disappear, and that I'll be left to pick up the pieces (she will not be able to cope on her own).
Any advice greatly appreciated.

2006-12-07 07:56:44 · 47 answers · asked by pantocool 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok ...so this girl was my best best friend.and we were very close and told eachother everything then all of the sudden..when 9th grade started she started to fight with me over stupid things. and she said that i was a spoiled brat and that she didnt like me anymore and she said that i have changed.(the only change was that i was a little more popular and i go some new friends)i was so confuse cuz i didnt do anything to her. so she stopped hanging with our group of friends and started hanging another one of my friend and all of the sudden that friend stopped talking to me too..so i didnt know wut to do.so i apologized and wrote my friend a letter but the next day someone said to me that she was spredding gossip about me . wut do i do ....????? it just doesnt feel right .she was a close friend of mine and now we dont talk at all HELP!!!!!!!!

2006-12-07 07:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by sk8r_princess 3 in Friends

ok.here's the problem.a week back,i told the guy i like how i feel abt him & he told me that he would have said yes,but he's not looking for a relationship right now.after that,we had a great conversation alone.so i thought we could at least be friends.but he has a best friend & that guy's ALWAYS hanging around him.(we had to actually construct a plan to keep him away from my crush,while i was 'confessing'-that's how bad it can get!)

i mean,i really like his friend.he's funny & very fun company to be around with but not when i wanna talk to my crush.ALONE.(he can't take a hint even if anyone says it to his face)

one week later,all i've ever still said to him is 'hi'...i never get the chance to get him alone cos his best friend's around & sometimes,i don't even think my crush makes the effort to,as much as i do...

so,what should i do?i really wanna get to know my crush better cos he's a really sweet guy & just my type.am i trying too hard?is this a lost case?

thanks a lot!

2006-12-07 07:55:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So let me start by saying these past couple of weeks have been rough we have been bickering back and forth constantly because of the disrespectful way he talks to me....i try to talk to him and he is rude and mean...and then today i am on the computer and you know how in your address bar it says places you have visited well ther was a sex place on there where he was lookin up girls and stuff and we havent been having alot of sex lately.....what is going on is he cheating on me?....i am only 24 we have only been married for 2 years....

2006-12-07 07:55:09 · 22 answers · asked by CONFUSED 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a sophomore in college(19) and the dorms are about to close. The officials have made it clear no one can stay here. I just started working and I am saving up money for driving school and a car then considering an apartment. But it looks like I'm gonna need a place to stay first. At my "home" my aunt pays the bills and my mom just lives there rent free. My aunt hate me, she tells me everyday I gotta find somewhere to stay. My family is money driven, and don't really wanna be bothered. I work at night, I just need somewhere to stay. There is no-one, no family, no friends pushing behind me saying hang in there, no-one to give me a pat on the back for a 3.6 GPA and a 2 jobs, they just don't care.
I'm only 19 and working fast food, I need advice plz. No family, no financial support, no emotional support. I'm on my own. I cry everyday cuz it finally sets in I'm homeless. Please help me.

2006-12-07 07:55:05 · 16 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family

I am 6 weeks pregnant and will be 8 at Christmas. We are spending it with my in-laws. I am so excited and really want to tell them but on other hand we do still think it's a bit early. But we will also have some trouble explaining why I won't take a single glass of wine over xmas and New Year. They might get suspicious and ask us. Any Suggestions??

2006-12-07 07:55:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce