So let me start by saying these past couple of weeks have been rough we have been bickering back and forth constantly because of the disrespectful way he talks to me....i try to talk to him and he is rude and mean...and then today i am on the computer and you know how in your address bar it says places you have visited well ther was a sex place on there where he was lookin up girls and stuff and we havent been having alot of sex lately.....what is going on is he cheating on me?....i am only 24 we have only been married for 2 years....
2006-12-07 07:55:09 · 22 answers · asked by CONFUSED 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he isn't into you lately and it may be because he is cheating. If you haven't been having sex lately and he has just started this online porn searching, I would be concerned because he is becoming more interested in that than he is in you. You should have a serious talk with him because there is no excuse for his rudeness and neglect. He obviously has some problem if you guys have only been married for 2 years and he is already bored with you.
2006-12-07 08:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks that he is already only after 2 years acting like this towards you. Are you having financial problems? Maybe he is stressed out or depressed. It may not be a problem with you personally, but rather a problem with him. He may use the internet to look at other females as an escape from reality. Lets face it, married or single, most all men enjoy looking at other women. It may not be pleasing to us women but I highly doubt he is cheating. You need to talk to him. Do not mention that you are feeling upset, let him talk and let him know you are there to listen. This time of year is stressful to all and men react differently then women under stress. Offer to give him a back rub and let him know you love him, hopefully that will open him up to being honest with you. It is not okay if he is talking to you disrespectfully, so you don't have to take it, but first find out why he has suddenly changed before you point fingers. Good Luck!
2006-12-07 08:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by 112 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.... all men look at other women. It is a fact of our lives. This doesn't mean we are dissatisfied with our partners. However, with the symptoms you describe it appears something is going on.
I suggest you take a deep emotional breath and step back a bit. You might tell him something like this. "I know that we have been bickering lately, but I really don't know why. If you have any insight into this please tell me so we can work this out. If you don't and we keep bickering I'll just keep to myself for a while because this is not working to make me happy and productive. when we get things figured out I will gladly be fully present again in this marriage." Then you might move into a separate room for a while, go out with your own friends, wash your own clothes, etc.
This should bring things to a head so that neither of you are avoiding any issues.
God Bless.
2006-12-07 08:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely he isn't cheating.
I would ask you how you have been approaching the situation. Have you been calm when talking to him? Have you been making him wrong when you talk to him? People don't like to be wrong. So, if you approach him saying "You are rude and you are mean to me" then he will be defensive. Anyone would.
If you approach with "Lately I have been feeling down and I don't feel like I am getting any support in feeling better." It doesn't say anything about him. He will know that he is not helping the situation but you didn't make him wrong.
As for the site...porn is easy to find. Maybe he is sexually frustrated because you two are having these bouts.
The key is communication. You both have to be open to it or it won't work.
2006-12-07 08:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by denverwazzup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is some reason that he is mean and rude to you! He sees you as a threat or hindrance for some reason. He is showing disgust or not interested in you. It may be that he is just caught up in the imaginary world on computer sex, and then he may have someone on the side!! Humm, that's tough too, and I feel for you, but it happens all the time. Have you been satisfying all his sexual desires for him, you know , like doing anything he wants to try. Sometimes if you refuse certain things it can cause this reaction!! Its hard to say, but something is going on for sure! Good luck G
2006-12-07 08:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him. He's not cheating unless he tries to make contact with a real person. Just some porn on your computer does not constitute cheating and it certainly doesn't mean that he is. You can't get through this problem w/ him without communicating how you feel in aconstructive matter. Tell him that wen he is mean to you it hurts your feelings and you want the behavior to stop.
2006-12-07 08:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well may be he is just cheating on you or just dosen't want to be around you right now so you should just stop talking to him for a wile and see what he dose when you an't talking to him then he'll think something is wrong and want to talk to you like a purson and not a dog but if he still treat's you like **** then you know he is cheating on you with someone else.
2006-12-07 08:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any chance things started to get worse as the holidays approached?
Some people stress out during the holidays and take it out on their spouse. I've seen very nice couples going crazy with all the obligations they feel they have and they just become overwhelmed. It just a thought.
2006-12-07 08:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really rough being so young and having someone who dosen't seem to care the way he should. he proably is not cheating on you, just getting pleasure by looking apictures of tehse nasty naked women and thinking how swell life would be if he could have one of them... He prrbably still loves you, but the quetion you need to ask yourself is if you still love him. if not... then iwould have to go for a divorce. if there are some fellings there, i am sure he will come around.
2006-12-07 07:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by NY Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Poor communication seems to be a problem, work on that. Rudeness and disrespect will lead nowhere, he needs to understand that, I suggest counseling. Counseling will give you two a mediator to help clerify each others perspective.
2006-12-07 08:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by lifeizgud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋