I believe that the man I have been dating for the past year is a pathological liar. He can't tell the truth about anything, including his relationship with his ex-wife. In the beginning of our relationship, they were calling each other all the time and although he did not know it, I was tracking his cell phone and knew of each call. I asked him to stop several times and he said he did, well he lied. So I finally called his ex-wife and told her about us and told her to stop calling and it did. Then I caught him is other lies. Small lies but lies none the less. The wierd thing about each adn every lie is when I would tell him about it, he never accepted responsibility. He would just sit there like a little child. Over time, the lies have pretty much stopped because he has seen the error of his ways so he says. He has asked me to marry him and I don't know what to do. Based on the above, I don't trust him, but do I give him the chance?
2006-12-07 08:01:51 · 17 answers · asked by Cali Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no if he lied to her he'll lie to you too
2006-12-07 08:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but no. I've been through a similar situation and in my experience, they never change. EVER. Besides, it's extremely difficult to have a successful relationship when you can't trust the other person. I know when I went through this, I always had this worry in the back of my mind about what he was doing and what lies he was telling me, and it got to the point where I had to put a stop to it.
2006-12-07 16:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is based on trust. If your boyfriend has trouble telling the truth then you should not commit to marriage. If you think he has changed his ways give him more time to prove himself. A person who is a pathological liar will have a difficult time changing his ways without psychological help.
If this has put a strain on your present relationship I feel it is enough justification to look at your relationship and what the future might bring.
Good luck to you !
2006-12-07 16:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, YOU DON'T TRUST HIM. If you have doubts now, do you want to add that to the stresses of marriage. Why did he and his ex split? Could it have been because of his lies? He's immature and doesn't seem capable of taking any responsibility for himself. But he knows that you keep hanging around. Get rid of the baggage, honey, and drop him like a hot potato!! The only error of his ways that he saw was that he wasn't lying good enough. He didn't stop lying, he's just lying better. Save yourself the aggravation and leave him!
2006-12-07 16:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a rough one!!! I think that pathelogical liars remain that way their whole lives, it's just a matter of what degree they lie. They may learn to calm it down a bit, but they're always so comfortable doing it that if you need to know the truth about something and they want to hide something they'll lie and feel totally okay with it. So the question now becomes, can you trust him to tell you the truth when it matters most. Honestly, I don't think so.
2006-12-07 16:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lori E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him, maybe he's still lying to you but you just got used to it and haven't caught him. I would think this through very carefully. It doesn't matter if he lies about small or big things the thing is is that he lies to you. He's susposed to love you and you should be able to trust him. If he lies to you how can you trust him? You can't really have a marriage without trust.
2006-12-07 16:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your this unsure, then no! If your having to question anything when some one asks you to marry them to this degree then you truly need to figure out how you feel. If you don't trust the man before you get married then how confident are you about him? I've been married and divorced. How do your friends and family feel? They do have your best interest at heart even if they don't always show it, they don't want you to get hurt!! And you can always wait!!! T
2006-12-07 16:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by thetaggeorge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you marry someone you don't trust...if he quit lyin for now, it only start again...especially if he acts like a lil kid and doesnt tell the truth...you need to make for sure that you know this lying is at an end, until then don't marry him...you need trust
2006-12-07 16:05:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is supposed to be forever, so I wouldn't take a chance on him. He could start being a pathological liar all over again.
2006-12-07 16:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him a chance you dont know he may have another family waiting for him at home and if you give him another chance he will start doin worse.but maybe if you do marry him he will become more honest and stop talking to his ex wife and stuff just my advice
good luck <3 farahthequeen
2006-12-07 16:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by farahthequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him, there's not much left of a relationship if you don't trust him. Just move on with your life and find someone else that you can trust.
2006-12-07 16:29:44 · answer #11 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋