Family & Relationships - 21 November 2006

I was born and bought up in Asia , even though English was my 1st language at school I still have problems expressing my thoughts or making long conversations, do any of you have the same problem how do you deal with it ? I tried speaking slowly but I become so consious that I will forget what to say next . I have a date soon I don't want him to think I cannot communicate please help. I'm best when I speak my heart but that will put me in trouble b'coz at heart I'm very emotional and honest , so I'm afraid if I speak my heart to my date I may come acorss as a emotional person which I want to let him know eventually . I love the way Americans speak and communicate I want to be able to speak like them let me know what will help me do that ? Ultimatley what do people think if you cannot communicate clearly (specailly dates)?(I'm sure some of you have been on dates with forigen women) also how do you greet a person on 1st date , shake hands or hug or let the guy make the move

2006-11-21 04:20:12 · 8 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Singles & Dating

Should I try to help or stay out of the way?

2006-11-21 04:19:59 · 7 answers · asked by chastityelizabeth 5 in Friends

okay so i was the luckyest girl in the world, i was dating the most wonderful guy in the world his name is Matt we were perfect we never had one fight nothing not even a little fight. Until Last friday we had a big blowout. A girl from Owego called his cell and left him a voicemail and it was like
" hi matt, this is alicia benjamin i think like yer really hot i dont know if thats yer girlfriend on yer voicemail. i like to get drunk and if yer up for a good time then u should call me" i recorded his voicemail thiing, i heard it and i was like are u kidding, i called and he said he has no idea who she is. then my friend called him and said she was her and got him to say all this stuff bout doing stuff with her and i broke up with him and now he wants to get back together i made him cry and realize what he did wrong and i just know what to do. he said he would never do what he said and i toild him i cant trust him and he keeps asking what he can do to earn my trust back. what can he do

2006-11-21 04:19:28 · 6 answers · asked by *[Hanna]* 2 in Singles & Dating

k, i luv this girl (she knowz this), were both 16, she sayz she don't like when ppl buyz her gifts so i wanted to do somethin special (going to see her iznt really an option right now) for her... she likes horses alot.. i posted on here before and the best answer i got was to make her a nice christmas card with pic of horse on it which i thot was gr8, til i realized that i have no ink in my printer (gotta go really far to get some) and even if i did, i don't have any good pics of horses and i dont wanna just get one off the internet.. i dont wanna just buy her a card, cuz i just dont feel like its special enuf. i wanna really make her smile and think about me at christmas. my sister is a really good artist (best i know personally). i thot about paying (even tho i could get it free probably) her to draw a beautiful picture of a horse(s) against a sunset, framing it, and sending it with a small note to her for christmas. wat do u think, will she like this? better ideas? pls help girls :(

2006-11-21 04:19:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend of 1 year slept over last night. up to this point our sex relationship has been amasing. Last night how ever at about 4:00 am i woke up from a bad dream and it felt so good to have him holding on to me for comfort but when i asked him to make love to me he just moned a little, kissed me a couple of times, and fell back to sleep. What does that mean . ive never turned him down and ive never been turned down so im not sure how i should feel about it.

2006-11-21 04:18:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he was faithfull for 14yrs and now this has turned our 3 sons and my life into a disaster, It's so hard as she is a friend of a friend and i hear everything that is going on. He wont talk to me. he just keeps telling me he hates me,,,for some reason i dont believe him. i am so confused i dont know how i am going to get through this.

2006-11-21 04:18:10 · 16 answers · asked by lilaclace11 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-21 04:18:10 · 15 answers · asked by casey c 1 in Singles & Dating

this really cute guy called me up and asked me for a second date. if he kissed you good night on your first date cold i kinda lean over and kiss him tonight at the movies since it's only our second date. thanks :)

2006-11-21 04:17:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

who i was hanging out with for a good few months..He paid for everything..even a recent trip i went on with my girlfriend....
In turn i met someone on my trip who was single and i fell for him ,,we are now together..the married guy found out and at first wanted to leave his wife i said noway...so then he called and said he wanted every cent he spent on me back..and it was also with a threat...
what steps can i take and what do i need to do.....

2006-11-21 04:16:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-11-21 04:16:31 · 12 answers · asked by lauren_effxx 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it okay for a married man to be friends with a girl 12 yrs younger than he is and not tell his wife when he sees her? Especially after he's been caught lying about his whereabouts and hasn't made ANY effort to apologize for lying or attempt make it up to his wife? And why do men become so cruel and use the excuse that his wife's become a b*&@h which is why he's friends with this girl and he wants a separation to 're-evaluate' things but then without ANY explanation switches back to everyday living like nothing's ever happened, being the loving, attentive husband expecting the hurt and pain to disappear without dealing with any issues?

2006-11-21 04:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Kathy S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My mom used to tell me when I was younger and didn't want to do my homework she would say "masturbation is like procrastination, you're only ******* yourself." Have you heard that before? LoL, and also was it okay for her to tell me that only being 10? I mean, I didn't understnd what that meant untill I was like 13, but still. Just wondering...

2006-11-21 04:15:16 · 8 answers · asked by BlinkOnce 3 in Family

This person already has everything and there is a $50 limit,any ideas?

2006-11-21 04:15:08 · 5 answers · asked by Isabel M 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

we both work 6 to 7 a week and i have 3 kids from a previous relationship. he is usually busy, but when he comes home, he wants to be treated like a baby too. my kids are 13,12 and 6. he doesn't interact with them by converasation or nothing, how can i explain to him that this hurts my feelings and i want him to change

2006-11-21 04:14:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 04:13:40 · 4 answers · asked by donald k 1 in Singles & Dating

OK THERES THIS GUY NAMED JOE, WE GO TO HIGH SCHOOL TOGETHER, I AM IN 9TH, HE IS IN 12TH, I'VE KNOWN HIM SINCE THE 6TH GRADE, HE SAID HE LOVES ME, WE AREN'T GOING OUT BUT, IN THE BEGINNING OF THE SCHOOL YEAR HE WAS ALL LOVEY DOVEY , AND EVERYONE THOUGHT WE WERE GOING OUT, THEN HE STARTED TO GO OUT WITH A GIRL NAMED TARA, THEN SHE BROKE UP WITH HIM, BECAUSE SHE KNEW HE LIKED ME AND WHEN SHE BROKE UP WITH HIM SHE SAID I BET HEATHERS HAPPY NOW, THEN HE ACTED ALL LOVEY DOVEY AGAIN, THEN HE WENT OUT WITH ANOTHER GIRL NAMED TABBY, AND SHE JUST RECENTLY GOT HER FRIEND TO BREAK UP WITH HIM FOR HER OVER THE PHONE, HE IS DOING THE LOVEY DOVEY THING AGAIN KISSING ME AND ETC. WHAT SHOULD I DO? SHOULD I TELL HIM HOW I FEEL, AND SEE IF WE CAN BUILD A RELATIONSHIP? OR SHOULD I SAY NOTHING AT ALL? BECAUSE I LOVE HIM AND IF WE EVER BREAK UP I DON'T WNAT TO RUIN THE RELATIONSHIP WE ALREADY HAVE. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME AN OPINION? I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT! THANKS, HEATHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-11-21 04:13:02 · 19 answers · asked by uppittyup15heather 1 in Singles & Dating

someone i know but dont have the zip code

2006-11-21 04:12:38 · 7 answers · asked by jenny-o 1 in Friends

When makeing love do you like top or bottom?

2006-11-21 04:12:20 · 33 answers · asked by titiwhaa 1 in Singles & Dating

People act like they win something if they answer questions all day. I am not having that much fun !

2006-11-21 04:11:19 · 15 answers · asked by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, I've been seeing this guy every weekend for about a month and we always end up foolin around in his truck before bringing me home. When we get there he gives me a hug and leaves. Well, friday i asked him, is that all? and he told me that he doesn't/hasn't kissed me is because he doesn't know how! Now how many black, 20 year olds do u know who can't kiss? I'm 18 and white. What should i do or do u think he is tellin the truth?

2006-11-21 04:10:58 · 31 answers · asked by Brandy B. 3 in Singles & Dating

well i dont like him like i wanna date him. i like him because of his personality and hes like super hot and he knows, but i meet him by my friend. shes real sluty with other guys when hes not around. and he doesnt know should i tell him

2006-11-21 04:10:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I am having anxiety amidst "mother-guilt" because I refuse to let him stay with me (for the umpteenth time). I really don't feel I am helping him be responsible. He hops from job to job and seems to go through "friends" like he does socks. Yet everytime he is in trouble, he calls on me. He spends his money frivolously and comes to me to bail him out. I gave him money to move out on his own in 2002 but he came back in 2003 and just left again in 2005 (I evicted him). I don't want to see him homeless but he literally consumes me when he stays here (i.e., uses my toiletries, won't clean, eats all the food, won't buy any, etc.). I say, let him stand on his own two feet - he'll find a way to survive. What do you say?

2006-11-21 04:09:42 · 29 answers · asked by terryoulboub 5 in Family

there's a girl i am really into. when we met, she said we'd get to know each other as friends and see where it goes. i guess i got my hopes up too high. but then this person who she has liked for about a year, told her that he liked her. so i am losing her. she is a good girl and feels really bad, so bad she was crying last night. i want to be her friend but i also want a chance to be with her. it is breaking me apart inside. what can i do?

2006-11-21 04:09:05 · 8 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend but he doesnt trust me and that makes me not trust him. He always hugs and flirts with his ex- girlfriend right in my face and I think he still likes her. I dont want to be w/ him anymore but I guess I just dont want to be alone. So how do I break up w/ him? I dont know how.

2006-11-21 04:08:49 · 12 answers · asked by MRz.Nels0n 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok so here is the story: I accused my bf of cheating on me; which he has never done. BUT he does have a friend who calls him every so often. He has always been honest to me with her, but my jealously took over and I got SUPER drunk and called him names and accused him over and over. Well now we are on a "break" this happened Sunday and Sunday night I didn’t not cry myself to sleep over him nor did I last night. I didn’t call him last night like I wanted too. And it's killing me not to hear his voice. I admit he did say he's not mad at me and I'm not loosing him, we just need time for ourselves. So will it be ok to call him tonight? Or how much longer do I wait? He asked for the break we both agreed to it and he called me yesterday morning.

2006-11-21 04:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by so cal mama 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-21 04:08:07 · 49 answers · asked by philly m 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok me and this guy we started talking threw one of our mutual friends and we met in the summer. I just broke up out of a previous relationship and I just wanted it to be a sexuaul relationship with this guy. But he started to like me. I never told him I just wanted a sexual relationship and he was looking for a relationship and he told me that. Then I started going off a sleeping with other guys behind his back because I am allowed to cause I am single. He then found out and flipped out. Now things got bad. He then wanted to sleep with me but then I said I wouldnt because I knew he cared to much about me. So then he left cause he felt he was used and has not talked to me since. It has been 3 months since he last talked to me is there anyway I can get him to talk to me? How long is this process going to take? Should I make it out to be as if I dont care for a while?

2006-11-21 04:08:04 · 2 answers · asked by xZDFghfdzS 1 in Singles & Dating

i am 32 weeks pregnant ....i have been married for 3 years. I became pregnant when
my husband and I were split up ....my child is for another man. I have so many regrets but i can not change them. My husband and I got back together before I found out I was pregnant. When he found out he told me he forgave me...this has been so hard on me. I feel so guilty.Some people know the truth. And a lot of rumors have gone around. The man I became pregnant for is fine about my husband raising the baby and when asked he denys the child. Should I every tell my child the truth? My husband loves this child already so much.

2006-11-21 04:07:58 · 28 answers · asked by ME 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Iits a 6 month longdistance relationship When hevisits me everything is totally perfect, we click. The distance is horrible. He has extreme emotions. He is either completely in love with me, or he doesn't want to " hurt" me in the future and wants to break up. Him and I have been a rollercoaster since his last visit. I've been trying to improve but I've been depressed about applications to colleges etc. I'm pretty bright and I have a bright future, where as he is failing out of community college for lack of motivation. He told me yesturday that he likes someone else for a month. This chick has been around. He said he loves me and wants to be with me but is afraid of these feelings. I think it's a proximity issue. I want to be rational and give him a chance to choose, but I know the outcome is ending it. Whenever I think abuot those feelings for another girl I feel disguted but I hate the idea of throwing 6 months away. I'm in love with him. I know time heals everything. what do i do?

2006-11-21 04:07:50 · 5 answers · asked by LIZ 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been dating this guy for 1 month and 4 days ago we had sex for the first time. I am not sure where this puts he and I as far as our relationship goes. You see he wants things to move slow and I understand that. We have talked everyday since then for times ranging from 1hr to 1.5 hrs. But, the subject of what happened is never brought up and I am not sure if I should bring it up? I would like to know how you know...what next? Are we going to see each other again, he says yes! When? Do I ask or wait for him? I do not want to scare him off but, I need to know where we stand as far as a relationship or friends who have merely shared something very intimate and special? Please help me with this one.

2006-11-21 04:07:30 · 16 answers · asked by suthernbelle 1 in Singles & Dating