I was born and bought up in Asia , even though English was my 1st language at school I still have problems expressing my thoughts or making long conversations, do any of you have the same problem how do you deal with it ? I tried speaking slowly but I become so consious that I will forget what to say next . I have a date soon I don't want him to think I cannot communicate please help. I'm best when I speak my heart but that will put me in trouble b'coz at heart I'm very emotional and honest , so I'm afraid if I speak my heart to my date I may come acorss as a emotional person which I want to let him know eventually . I love the way Americans speak and communicate I want to be able to speak like them let me know what will help me do that ? Ultimatley what do people think if you cannot communicate clearly (specailly dates)?(I'm sure some of you have been on dates with forigen women) also how do you greet a person on 1st date , shake hands or hug or let the guy make the move
2006-11-21 04:20:12 · 8 answers · asked by sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. Relax. People KNOW you're foreign. And as long as you use the definite and indefinite articles properly, ("the" and "a") you will be considered exotic. Say what you have to say, people will make allowances for the language barrier as long as your accent isn't really REALLY thick.
And the date will make further allowances because you are a chick he's trying to be with.
2006-11-21 04:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you have perfect english it is hard to communicate on a 1st date. Let him know you are learning english and might make a mistake in talking. He will understand. If you don't know what to say, just smile. To greet the person, do what feels comfortable at the time. Americans do not have strick rules for greeting in a casual situation. You can offer your hand for a handshake or if you are more comfortable with a slight bow, that will be ok too. A hug might be better after you know him better. Some people like to hug if they are glad to see someone they know. Some people don't like to hug at all. Good luck on your date and don't worry.
2006-11-21 04:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for everybody, but I appreciate someone's effort to speak English. I think many people feel the same way. If someone is rude to you, they are just a jerk.
As far as the date thing, if this guy is worth it, he will put in effort to communicate with you. I am dating someone that doesn't speak English fluently. I try to speak Spanish to him a lot and it takes a lot of courage because I feel the same way in Spanish as you do with English. You just have to find courage and give it your best try!
Don't be too emotional on a first date. Americans are kind of closed on emotional things until they are in a relationship...it's just our culture. That doesn't mean you can't be yourself though...that is important so he can get to know you. Good luck!
2006-11-21 04:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 05:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it dude. You make perfect sense in your writing. As long as you can get your ideas across, no worries about grammar. As far as dates go, if she likes you, she won't care. And always greet your day with a handshake on the first date.
2006-11-21 04:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Trip S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU CANNOT SPEAK PROPERLY YOU SHOULD TELL HIM YOUR PROBLEM BEFORE HE THINKS YOU ARE DUMB. YOU SHOULD KISS HIM ON THE CHEEK WHEN YOU MEET HIM THAT WILL SHOW HIM THAT YOU ARE A NICE PERSON AND TELL HIM IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DATE THAT YOU ARE AN EMOTIANAL PERSON SO HE KNOWS YOU BETTER.
2006-11-21 04:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Pahayman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i know but american are better
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2006-11-21 04:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-21 05:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by dana brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋