Iits a 6 month longdistance relationship When hevisits me everything is totally perfect, we click. The distance is horrible. He has extreme emotions. He is either completely in love with me, or he doesn't want to " hurt" me in the future and wants to break up. Him and I have been a rollercoaster since his last visit. I've been trying to improve but I've been depressed about applications to colleges etc. I'm pretty bright and I have a bright future, where as he is failing out of community college for lack of motivation. He told me yesturday that he likes someone else for a month. This chick has been around. He said he loves me and wants to be with me but is afraid of these feelings. I think it's a proximity issue. I want to be rational and give him a chance to choose, but I know the outcome is ending it. Whenever I think abuot those feelings for another girl I feel disguted but I hate the idea of throwing 6 months away. I'm in love with him. I know time heals everything. what do i do?
2006-11-21 04:07:50 · 5 answers · asked by LIZ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you do? You sigh, take stock of the situation, remember the good times, and move on. You can find someone a lot better. You can find someone who doesn't have extreme moods, who can be emotionally true to you no matter the distance, and who doesn't emotionally dump you for someone who's closer. You deserve better, no matter how much you love this guy.
Also, your future is bright. He, as you admit, is failing out of community college. I think you have dated down. You deserve someone more in your league, from a real college or university.
Another item: you deserve someone who doesn't toy with your emotions. I don't think he does this deliberately. I think he himself is confused and immature. Boy does this sound like my first boyfriend who did the same thing to me! When we were together, things were great, but when he was away from me, all this angst and insecurity came out. He also claimed he didn't want to hurt me.
That there -- the claim of not wanting to hurt you -- is just a bit patronizing. You can take care of yourself. Being away from him, being out of his presence isn't going to kill you, and it isn't going to make you pine and lose weight. That's because you're going on with your life, and you have a life.
So, difficult as it may be, cut your losses and move on. There are a lot of other nice guys out there, and you deserve one who will be there close to you as well, who will be even keel in his emotions, and who won't do the "get close then pull away" game, which is annoying and unfair.
Good luck! Cheers, K
2006-11-21 04:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same predicament as you. After 2 years with my ex, I just couldn't deal with it. Not knowing if he's seeing someone else behind my back, is he thinking of me, everything altogether... Don't wait for him to choose. He'll realize he messed up, and if he doesn't, then there's better things out their for you, girl. It does take time. elieve me, it may not be easy, either. Keep yourself occupied. Good luck.
2006-11-21 04:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by JayLynJay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant really feel disgusted about how he feels for her because you still answer your ex-boyfriends bootie calls. I'm not mad at ya but you have to respect the rules to the game
2006-11-21 04:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on cause if he is interested hw will come bck to u...
2006-11-21 04:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋