Ok so here is the story: I accused my bf of cheating on me; which he has never done. BUT he does have a friend who calls him every so often. He has always been honest to me with her, but my jealously took over and I got SUPER drunk and called him names and accused him over and over. Well now we are on a "break" this happened Sunday and Sunday night I didn’t not cry myself to sleep over him nor did I last night. I didn’t call him last night like I wanted too. And it's killing me not to hear his voice. I admit he did say he's not mad at me and I'm not loosing him, we just need time for ourselves. So will it be ok to call him tonight? Or how much longer do I wait? He asked for the break we both agreed to it and he called me yesterday morning.
2006-11-21 04:08:47 · 12 answers · asked by so cal mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I remember when my GF thought we needed some time away from each other. I asked her about how long she thought we needed and she said about 1 week or two. I told her what my definition of time apartment meant. It went something like this.
Well sweetie if you think we need some time apart then that means we can't communicate during that time. It's a time to reflect on oyr relationship and determine if we actually are right for each other. This time is used to weigh the positive with the negative. And to be sure if we are right for each other then dating other people during this time is ideal. How else will I be sure if you are the girl for me?
Sure enough she recanted her statement and we worked out our differences together. She never again express the need to have some time away. We are now married and very in love. they we have disagreements we communicate them to each other and compromise.
Your first mistake was accepting the seperation.
Your second mistake was not getting a specific time frame.
As of right now you've got nothing to loose. Call him. DON'T ask him what he did during this time. No matter how difficult it is to resist. He may have been with someone else. But you were not together. So it doesnt matter. You don't care. You only care about this moment foward. Simply tell him that you used this time wisely to think about what we have and how easily it can be lost. Apologize for your behavior and remind him that you just need to feel important to him. He may have given you this time to reflect. Dont make him think you wasted this time on anything other than your relation. Not on what was he doing Monday or if he was able to sleep. Just tell him that this is all new to you and that your still learning but you want to figure it all out with him.
If none of this works then move on Girl.
By the way I agree with sweet treat 1st half. Not the second. He may be testing you to see just what you miss about him.
the only part of the second half of sweat treat staement that I agree with is the being all over each other. Don't "be all his his grill" constantly. See him a few days out of the weak. Give him one weekend a month break from you but at least see him that Friday and Monday. Call him only once a day when your not with him for a short "hope your doing fine, just thinking about you hope your doing the same" and your done. If he wants to keep you on the phone longer then fantastic.
Good Luck
2006-11-21 04:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by loanbrokerprograms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always believe that a woman usually gets the suspicions of her man cheating for a reason. Now there are some exceptions to women who have been cheated on by many men and have a hard time trusting any man.
I find that if you have proof that should be the only time you accuse your man/woman of cheating. Now if he is showing classic signs of a straying/cheating man then question him but dont come right out and accuse.
I think you should not call him and give him his space like you both agreed, acting too clingy and needy is a big turnoff. If its meant to be he will come back to you!!!
2006-11-21 04:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_treats_4_u33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would of never married him. I would of moved on when we were dating. Now if our sex life developed into this, first I would try to figure out was it something I was doing and I would stop, if not, I would ask him to engage in more foreplay...if I catch a nut, usually, how long sex last doesn't matter as much. I would incorporate toys and the like.
2016-05-22 07:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least call and apologize for the way you acted while drinking. If your man has been open and honest with you about his communication with this other female then you should be grateful and not jealous. Sorry but I have to agree with your man if he is not cheating and as such your jealousy seems to be a thorn in your relationship. If and when you reunite with him it would be wise to discuss between yourselves what it is that bothers you about him having contact with this other woman.
2006-11-21 04:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you owe him an apology for the way you acted.
If he has called you already I think you should call him, but dont force it, if you are not ready to talk then dont call him and do something to re-kindle your relationship.
2006-11-21 04:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bantuknots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he did it 1 time he'll do it again,no need to miss him call me.
2006-11-21 04:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Victorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call him...talk to him..sounds like u dont want a break? or u dont know what the break means....
2006-11-21 04:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by sckr4luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your just a basket of crazy. if i was him i'd get as far away from you as possible. look forward to a life of being alone.
2006-11-21 04:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by ilovethecolony 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But why all the sudden does he want a break?
2006-11-21 04:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by chrissyinauburn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why breaks??? --- i never want to stop seeing my lady --- he should have called you already --- dont delay call him --- sort this out
2006-11-21 04:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋