After you have sex for the first time, how do you know what happens next?

Question

I have been dating this guy for 1 month and 4 days ago we had sex for the first time. I am not sure where this puts he and I as far as our relationship goes. You see he wants things to move slow and I understand that. We have talked everyday since then for times ranging from 1hr to 1.5 hrs. But, the subject of what happened is never brought up and I am not sure if I should bring it up? I would like to know how you know...what next? Are we going to see each other again, he says yes! When? Do I ask or wait for him? I do not want to scare him off but, I need to know where we stand as far as a relationship or friends who have merely shared something very intimate and special? Please help me with this one.

Answer 1

Don't bring it up. If he is saying yes he wants to see you again then go for it. But just make sure that he wants to see you for the right reasons.Go slow, because when you move slow, you make him RESPECT you. Go to a movie or go to a coffee house, just make sure that he does not want you for sex. If he does, your feelings will be so hurt because you like him. If you had sex with him. then you will again, don;t bring it up,it will just happen naturally. (If he moans during sex, then you know you job is done! He's satisfied!) Use protection.

Answer 2

Well that all depends on a few things. First of all your ages count. Whether or not you were virgins or not. Men are very shy when it comes to sex for the first time. Just as much woman are. I can't promise what will happen between the both of you. But I can say it all depends on how much you two really care for each other. But as far as not even talking about it. He is shy and is feeling the same way you are. He is scared to talk about it. Because he thinks you don't want to talk about it. If all he wanted was a quickie. You would'nt be talking to him. He would have already stopped talking to you. And even if he did still talk to you. It would be to blow you off. If you are talking for an hour and a half. Then it sounds to me he wants a relationship. He is just being shy and scared.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Sounds like you guys are just friends that had relations. Sorry but I think you should move on.

Ask him whats the deal. You haven't seen him in 4 days. Do you all live far apart? I would just be up front and say "So where is this thing going?"

Answer 5

this might sound silly, but have you read the book, he is just not that into you?, i did and one of the things that stuck with me is that when a man likes you they will let you know it, and will not leave you in the dark (unless you are both teenagers) so that you dont start looking for love somewhere else. It is just a thing that came to my mind after a read your question, anyway good luck and if things dont work out with him dont you worry there is plenty of fish in the sea!!

Answer 6

Wow !! Thats a tuffie !! If you wern't already in a relationship then you need to ask him what you should be expecting from him. You could ask him when your going to see each other next. Just talk to him and see how he feels.

Answer 7

So when you say dating, you mean you're not a couple yet? Well, you've had sex, you definitely should ask him whether you are **** buddies or a couple.

Also...ask him if he still wants to move "slowly" because he's kind of already ruined that dream, lol.

Answer 8

If it was good for both of you. No diseases being passed. No unwanted pregnancies. Do it again I think. If its good, a day of sleep together is probably next. Good restful relaxed dream sleep. Like you only get after really good sex.

Answer 9

Stop having sex with boys you've only known for 30 days- that's what skanky ho-bags do. You don't have any relationship with him and it was not intimate or special. It was meaningless, cheap sex with a boy you hardly know.
Stop it.

Answer 10

Ask him, if you talk for so long it seems you are confident so, why dont ask clearly the subject?dont be afraid to ask if he like it, if it will happend again, if it means something special to him....