Family & Relationships - 25 September 2006

I have 2 sons of my own. My step-son is 7 years old. His real mother also has two younger children, one she adopted out already. She had kept my step-son from contact with his dad for the past two years until she decided we could 'have' him for the next 2 yrs! Out of the blue.
Since we have had him for 3 months now, she has only called about 3 times, the last time she called was to talk to my fiance to ask him to borrow money, we told her no and she hasnt called back since! We would like to get full custody and let her have visitation rights if she chooses. Is that possible and how would we go about it? We live in CA and she is somwhere in MI. No one has really heard from her since about a month ago. My step-son has told his family member on her side that he 'hates' his mother more than once, what can we say to him to let him know that he shouldnt feel that way, also?
Thanks for any suggestions. And for reading this.

2006-09-25 14:55:42 · 5 answers · asked by madamjenn40 1 in Family

My co-workers have told me that there's this divorced woman (early 40's, but looks YOUNGER), at the office, who seems to find me attractive. This statement has also been claimed by the woman's closest female friend.

The problem is: She's OLDER than I am, but looks good.

However, when I see her, she acts like she there's nothing going on and greets me as if she HAD to. Her closest female friend, though, ALWAYS teases her while I am nearby.

I am very curious whether this all is true or not or whether this could be part of just a joke. How can I find out?


What do you think???

2006-09-25 14:54:51 · 15 answers · asked by R. H 1 in Singles & Dating

Why is it that girls always seem to go out with guys who
I can see right through and I can immediately upon first seeing
the guy tell that he is a player, a liar, a cheater, a loser.. and girls
windup with these guys.. I was in a relationship with a girl from Switzerland.. we both loved each other..but she had to go back after 4 months of being here.. we originally planned on her moving here peromanently, but she thought it through and couldn't do it because of family, friends, and the love of her country. In a phone conversation with her, she told me that I should try not to be so nice that I am too nice.. what the hell?! I bought her flowers for no reason, I got her cards occasionally for no reason and on holidays.. I treated her like a princess.. but I don't think I overdid it..
This is something I don't understand about women even after dating dozens of them.

2006-09-25 14:54:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My seven year old has been asking a lot of questions about sex. I really don't want to make him shy but at the same time I need to explain it in a way he will understand. Please if you have any suggestions please reply

2006-09-25 14:53:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-09-25 14:53:00 · 2 answers · asked by MD 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This boy I kno hes cute and funny but he dresses kind of "emo" tho and hes a virgin, I dont kno if I wanna date him or not

2006-09-25 14:52:26 · 40 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 14:50:49 · 11 answers · asked by lowkwality 3 in Marriage & Divorce

when they really are?

2006-09-25 14:50:22 · 13 answers · asked by dawnann 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-25 14:50:17 · 10 answers · asked by kim_mii 2 in Singles & Dating

When and where should I make a move on my boyfriend. If i dont wanna make the move myself what should i wear so that he will make the move.

2006-09-25 14:50:16 · 5 answers · asked by samantha s 1 in Singles & Dating

Why it's as if my life is falling apart before my eyes and I cant seem to do anything about it! I am talkin my marriage, yeah I have done stupid stuff, but not ever cheated on him! It's because of my addiction I am having problems gettin over it and it's ruining everything! What should I do next before I destroy my family?

2006-09-25 14:50:08 · 9 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-25 14:49:19 · 5 answers · asked by ericthegreat92 2 in Friends

IM me and for advise (I need an online boyfriend)

2006-09-25 14:49:18 · 6 answers · asked by checkit137m 2 in Singles & Dating

Please help me with this. I have re-entered the dating world after being unhappily married for many years. I have no problem attracting men and feel lucky that I get pursued by guys both younger and older than myself. I have a warm personality, am honest and fun-loving and since I work out, my body is in nice shape for someone 48. I am sensual, sexual and passionate. I never thought about feeling bad about myself or whether or not I could attract a man, but,the recurring theme that all men want 23 - 26 year olds is starting to burst my bubble of finding someone to create a really special life. If I listen to their actions, I continued to be pursued, but if listen to their words, it revolves around beauty and youth and I somehow feel like I don't cut it or they are settling. Am I going to have to resign to feeling like I am something to settle for?

2006-09-25 14:49:12 · 6 answers · asked by Serendipity 3 in Singles & Dating

im alitte over weight how can i lose a few lbs? if you gone be harsh dont answer

2006-09-25 14:49:01 · 1 answers · asked by chocolatedrop 2 in Singles & Dating

i tend to always date dark skinned asian guys. esp. filipino guys!

2006-09-25 14:48:59 · 9 answers · asked by jen 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I are veryy serious..like talking about marriage. We are both in medical school and come from great families and have a functional relationship. It is important to him to have the acceptance of my family..but I could care less that his ***** of a sister hates me. She's this vapid party girl with no substance..but should I try to patch things up..? What should I do? THANKS FOR READING : )

2006-09-25 14:48:51 · 7 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

This is prob like the 100th time this question's been asked but w/e

Ok so theres this guy and end of last year we got really close (good convos, funny insults) and the last week of school there was an akward thing between us (less talking, a lot more glances)

... anyways...

summer came and went and now i dont see him anymore. he tried talking to me quickly at a class activity but his group was leaving. im not in any of his classes and when we do see eachother (like maybe once a week and only at a distance) its as if were strangers. should i just let it go and move on or keep hoping something will happen?

Whats your feedback?

2006-09-25 14:48:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

do you like a guy who writes poerty ?

2006-09-25 14:47:47 · 8 answers · asked by Nick723 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now, we've seen eachother a total of 5 times. On the 2nd date, we got intimate with eachother which was fine with me. Well, the last time we got together I was just feeling like we barely knew eachother, we were still at that "intro" stage but we had already been really close. Well, it was starting to get awkward becuz I felt like he wasn't really opening up to me and I got frustrated. He sent me a pm and was just superficial talk and I finally said listen if we're going to be intimate you're going to have to open up a little bit to me and I said if you don't then we have no future together. Well, I don't know what happened, he didn't even respond and I haven't heard from him in 2 days, should I contact him and apologize? I'm not saying get back together just apologize for being so blunt. What do you think?

2006-09-25 14:47:45 · 14 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Singles & Dating

We r moving to another state in which my x boyfriend lives in! Lately I have been having dreams of my x bf. I want to tell my hubby but we r having problems now, it would just add to the chaos. They r not sexual dreams, we just meet up and have lunch, then I usually wake up after that! Should I tell him or just not say anything to him about until things cool b/t us? yeah my life is chaos right now!
My hubby deosnt like my x either....What should I do?

2006-09-25 14:47:28 · 7 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My partner cheated on me during a "rough time".

I have accepted his appolgy, and we are trying to move on.
He is really trying so hard to make efforts in making me feel secure about us etc etc.

But I cant seem to shake the visons of him with another?
IM afraid that If i cant deal with this then I will loose him for good.

Any suggestions?

2006-09-25 14:47:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-25 14:46:53 · 17 answers · asked by Holly 2 in Friends

is that what a lion says?

or is that what a girl says when everyone accuses her BF of being a pedophile?

hm

2006-09-25 14:46:19 · 4 answers · asked by Damn Dirty Ape 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-25 14:45:55 · 7 answers · asked by niquee 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i/e body language, etc...

2006-09-25 14:45:35 · 11 answers · asked by Sonike 2 in Singles & Dating

LAST NIGHT, I WAS LOOKING AT MY HUSBANDS CELL PHONE AND NOTICED THAT NEW PEOPLE WERE CALLING HIM LIKE HIS GUY FRIENDS WIVES. I WAS MAD BECAUSE HE'D NEVER MENTIONED THESE PEOPLE TO ME BEFORE AND ASKED HIM WHY HIS FRIENDS WIVES CALLED MORE THAN THE ACTUAL FRIEND WAS. I WAS FURIOUS AND STORMED INTO THE BATHROOM AND LOCKED THE DOOR! I TOLD HIM THAT I ALLWAYS LET HIM KNOW WHO I WAS TALKING TO OR WHO I WAS WITH BECAUSE I DON'T KEEP ANYTHING FROM HIM! SO, HE PICKS THE LOCK AND COMES IN AND YELLS AT ME TO SIT DOWN OR I'LL BE PUT OUT OF MY OWN HOUSE LOCKED OUT ON THE PORCH DECK 1 STORY HIGH! I TURN AROUND AND LOOK AT HIM AND SAID, WHAT"! HE SHOWS ME AS HE IS DELETING THE NAMES AND NUMBERS OF THESE PEOPLE THAT HE HAS NO WAY OF CONTACTING THEM OR THEY HIM! SO, HE SAYS TO ME, THIS IS THE END OF IT, WE SHOULD HAVE NO REASON TO FIGHT ABOUT THIS ANYMORE! RIGHT? HE SAYS TO ME. I'M JUST LOOKING AT HIM LIKE I AM HURT AND SHOCKED AT THE SAME TIME! HE SAYS, I'LL TAKE YOUR SILENCE AS A YES!
FLABERGASTED!

2006-09-25 14:45:22 · 20 answers · asked by Baby 5 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-25 14:45:11 · 2 answers · asked by claraleonor777 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I still have feelings for my ex bf. The thing is we only dated for a short time and that was like 8 months ago.Even though he was the one to end it, I just can't get him out of my head. He was sweet and caring. I think maybe I can't let go cuz he was my first boyfriend and my first kiss, but it was very innocent it never went past kissing. He was a few years older and more experienced(I'm 20 he was 24), but I refuse to believe that he left because I wasn't putting out. He use to say hi to me on msn after the breakup but he eventually stopped saying hi. Should I ever message him on msn just to say hi once in awhile? would that be desperate? We go to the same university so maybe we could meet up but I would never ask him that.

2006-09-25 14:44:46 · 16 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Singles & Dating

He always talk about my mom with my stupid step-monster in front of me. I hate when my step-monster does it bcuz she doesnt know my mom.

2006-09-25 14:44:44 · 20 answers · asked by smmsoccergirl 1 in Family