I still have feelings for my ex bf. The thing is we only dated for a short time and that was like 8 months ago.Even though he was the one to end it, I just can't get him out of my head. He was sweet and caring. I think maybe I can't let go cuz he was my first boyfriend and my first kiss, but it was very innocent it never went past kissing. He was a few years older and more experienced(I'm 20 he was 24), but I refuse to believe that he left because I wasn't putting out. He use to say hi to me on msn after the breakup but he eventually stopped saying hi. Should I ever message him on msn just to say hi once in awhile? would that be desperate? We go to the same university so maybe we could meet up but I would never ask him that.
2006-09-25 14:44:46 · 16 answers · asked by sweet kisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just try to let him go. Telling you to forget him would be stupid, because you won't. You care about him and you still think of him. But try to think about some other guys you meet and how wonderful they are. Eventually you may grow to like them enough that your former relationship will fade to nothing more than a memory. I think that trying to get back together is a bad idea. I may be wrong about that, but it's my opinion.
Good luck. There are plenty of great guys out there!
2006-09-25 16:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from. I dated this guy over a year ago, and it lasted about 3 weeks...I was the one to end it, which I regret now.
It's tough that he is not responding to you. That makes it harder to try and be "casual" and start things up again. If you see that he is online, I would deffinatly try and talk to him. If he doesn't respond, wait a week or so, and maybe try again then. Just don't push it TOO much, or you will look desperate.
The best hope, since you go to the same university, is to meet him in person. Not like a 'set time' kind of deal, just like if you see him in the library or something, try and make casual conversations, like you are just normal friends. If you are willing to take things slow, and let him slowly "come back" to you, I think you could make things work.
Good luck! Hope everything works out.
2006-09-25 21:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing, you were 20, he was 24. A little relationship like this probably doesn't mean anything to him. Especially since he's more experienced than you. The best thing to do is move on. And no it wouldn't be desperate of you to IM him once. But if you constantly IM him he will probably try to avoid you. Don't act clingy. Another way to get over him, meet someone new. Go on dates.
2006-09-25 21:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he used to say hi and now he doesnt anymore? I think it would be best to get on with your life, and ignore him. Some boys come around if you leave them alone. But you should honestly look at him as a stepping stone to the right guy. You gained some insights and knowledge by being with him, now the next guy will give you more and so on and so on until you meet the right one, your soul mate. Go from one experience to the other with a happy outlook. You will eventually be with the perfect guy.
2006-09-25 21:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by kitty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first boyfriend is always the hardest to get over, especially if they break it off with you. It is best for you get on with your life and if it meant to be you will find each other again. I know that it is difficult to let go and there will always be a part of you that thinks fondly of him. But I promise that it does get easier as time goes on and eventually, when you find someone else, you will realize that although he was great, there was a reason that it didn't work.
2006-09-25 21:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by tollerx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds really familiar: I'm 19, my ex-girlfriend is 18, we go to the same university, but we're actually pretty good friends. It was very awkward at first, but I'm glad she's my friend. I would suggest talk to him and just hang out with him. DON'T bring up getting back together for a while.
2006-09-25 21:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by Craiggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You truly need to let go hun and find someone else to pine over.
The one thing you will always carry with you is the memory for ever. And if he has stopped saying hi to you ,,,then take the hint hun and find true happiness,,,it is right around the corner.
good luck
2006-09-25 22:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably found someone else. It's not wrong/desperate if you make the attempt to say hi and/or catch up. So long as you intend to stay friends, it shouldn't be a problem
2006-09-25 21:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, your first love ended happily, leave it at that, youll get over him when you meet someone else, your still young, one day youll look back and smile....
2006-09-25 21:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u got to make sure he's not with someone else.....
talk to him... say hi... what r u waiting for.....
maybe u 2 can meet there and talk.... and see where things will lead.....
go for it girl!!
2006-09-25 21:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋