Please help me with this. I have re-entered the dating world after being unhappily married for many years. I have no problem attracting men and feel lucky that I get pursued by guys both younger and older than myself. I have a warm personality, am honest and fun-loving and since I work out, my body is in nice shape for someone 48. I am sensual, sexual and passionate. I never thought about feeling bad about myself or whether or not I could attract a man, but,the recurring theme that all men want 23 - 26 year olds is starting to burst my bubble of finding someone to create a really special life. If I listen to their actions, I continued to be pursued, but if listen to their words, it revolves around beauty and youth and I somehow feel like I don't cut it or they are settling. Am I going to have to resign to feeling like I am something to settle for?
2006-09-25 14:49:12 · 6 answers · asked by Serendipity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I put out the "I want to marry" vibe, I'll be outside of the category of the ones he wants "to play with"? And I still lose?
2006-09-25 15:04:21 · update #1
Sound like you are coming across the wrong kind of men. I am 44 and have been divorced for 7 years. The only thing I can tell you is maybe you are looking in the wrong direction. For me the only thing I seem to find are women that are to self centered. I am not saying you are this way but maybe that is the kind of men you are coming across. Think about setting your sites in another direction. When you do this you are not settling for less. You might come across a better type person that can see how special you are. Just my thoughts. You can contact me if you want to.
2006-09-25 15:06:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, from a man's point of view there are two types of women. The ones that men want to play with, & the ones they want to marry.
I would think that a man who is 48 or older would view a 23 - 26yo as a woman to play with rather than one to marry.
However it's not all about age either. It's the vibe that a man will get from the woman that helps him decide what category to put the woman in.
So you must ask yourself. What vibe are you putting out?
2006-09-25 22:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not even close! There are plenty of us men that are warm, honest, funloving,sensual, sexual and passionate still out there in this world. You are exactly what we are looking for in a life-mate. If we want a girl that is 26-28, we will end up having to deal with the same problems that we were dealing with when we were 26-28
2006-09-25 22:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not settle!
While there is beauty in youth, generally that's all there is. Give yourself time and give the wiser men of this country time to get to you.
Some of us actually believe that it takes a little time for wine to develop its full bouquet.
I am older and I enjoy it, I have demonstrated that I can survive what life throws at me. You, too, have survived. Rejoice in your victories.
My best wishes in you search.
2006-09-25 22:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by deepndswamps 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, no one in this world is 'something to settle' for. This is quite clearly a case of age discriminination :P lol. All you need is a change of environment and comany; rest lies to you.
2006-09-25 21:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by shafique_khan83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try not 2 get discouraged theirs some1 out there that will treat u like u deserve . sounds like ur a keeper 2 me sertainly ull find a guy that will treat u right
2006-09-25 22:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by dude 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋