My boyfriend and I are veryy serious..like talking about marriage. We are both in medical school and come from great families and have a functional relationship. It is important to him to have the acceptance of my family..but I could care less that his ***** of a sister hates me. She's this vapid party girl with no substance..but should I try to patch things up..? What should I do? THANKS FOR READING : )
2006-09-25 14:48:51 · 7 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I could care less but I feel obligated to care..
2006-09-25 14:57:36 · update #1
Well I guess Ella is in the same situation, she's my brothers girlfriend. The reason I'm so mean to her sometimes is because I'm so used to having my brother to myself so I get jealous sometimes.
I believe you should patch things up, if your boyfriend is making it his goal to be nice to your family and the like then you should definitely try and do the same for his. Maybe his sister is as jealous as I was when they got together. Just be there for her, buy things you know she likes and just ignore the painful things she says sometimes. Ella does the same thing, and when I went off sobbing one day because of something bad that had occured she was the one that went out and found me to talk to me. She helped me through the pain, so now I like her a lot. Just be there for her and stuff.
2006-09-25 14:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her like you. If you and your boyfriend are truly committed, it shouldn't matter what his sister thinks. How much influence could a "vapid party girl" have over a med student that comes from an otherwise great family? It would be nice if she liked you, of course, and maybe someday she will grow up.
2006-09-25 14:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by JillA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if his sister can't except you then forget about her she'll have to learn to once you guys tie the knot... His sister isn't dating you so why should she care about anything else other than you treating her brother right.. I think maybe she is jealous of you i don't know if her and your boyfriend were close but maybe she feels your breaking up a bond between her and her brother .. You should confront her about your feelings and ask her why she doesn't like you or what is it your doing that upsets her and if for silly immature reasons forget the ***** and just focus on your relationship good luck
2006-09-25 14:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You both should always have good relations with all family members for the sake of your future children, your parents, and you nieces and nephews. Your negative relationship with your future sister-n-law will have negative and depressing affects on others in the family. So find a way to patch it up and to be civil to the girl.
2006-09-25 14:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by RKC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, I had this at the same time as i changed into 16-17. i changed into going out with a guy who's sister hated me. She by no skill informed me so, yet she made it very very clean through her moves. It grew to change into out that she changed into bitter and jealous of our relationship and our youngsters. She were unmarried for a at the same time as (she changed into 23) and she or he even were given knocked up at the same time as she changed into 16 and felt she had wasted her youngsters, so did not favor to work out us having relaxing at the same time as she had extremely some duty at our age. it would also be that she suspects that you administration your bf. i keep in mind that older sisters and moms from time to time have a tendency to work out their son's gf as being manipulative, because they were at that age. What i'd do is, actually have a talk consisting of your bf, compared to you're tattling on her or something, yet only enable him keep in mind that she has suggested this (and suggested no longer to assert something to him). it will be worse for the relationship in case you saved it to your self, because in the experience that your bf by danger well-knownshows out, you could ought to describe why you should no longer be open and truthful with him contained in the first position. i'd specially ask him no longer to confront his sister, yet only only be particular you do not ought to spend too a lot time round her. If he cares about you, he will comprehend. 'Bout the hating? do not difficulty too a lot. no longer anybody in this international is gonna like you, and it type of feels she has no genuine reason to hate you, so it really is something in HER it somewhat is incorrect, no longer in YOU. it really is if you're telling the reality and are not antagonising her! lol sturdy success.
2016-11-24 19:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by hyre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husbands sister hated me. She was just a little brat who didnt like her brother seeing someone who had confidence. I would always be so nice to her and she would treat me like crap. But as the years passed, she snapped out of it and realized there was nothing she can do and she lucky im so nice to her.
2006-09-25 14:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS...your normal....join us wont you?
2006-09-25 14:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by supervfive 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋