I have been dating this guy for about 3 weeks now, we've seen eachother a total of 5 times. On the 2nd date, we got intimate with eachother which was fine with me. Well, the last time we got together I was just feeling like we barely knew eachother, we were still at that "intro" stage but we had already been really close. Well, it was starting to get awkward becuz I felt like he wasn't really opening up to me and I got frustrated. He sent me a pm and was just superficial talk and I finally said listen if we're going to be intimate you're going to have to open up a little bit to me and I said if you don't then we have no future together. Well, I don't know what happened, he didn't even respond and I haven't heard from him in 2 days, should I contact him and apologize? I'm not saying get back together just apologize for being so blunt. What do you think?
2006-09-25 14:47:45 · 14 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not apologizr..you did the right thing
2006-09-25 14:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by babybeast 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
having sex that soon in a relationship usually means that your OK with the relationship being primarily sexual. Now it doesn't always have to stay that way but it often does. He probably thought you were OK with it ,then just got a little freaked out when you were asking for so much " feelings" so soon. I wouldn't bother talking to him because you can't take back the sex to make this relationship follow a more series relationship. I guess you could call him and tell him your ok with the realtionship being onlly sexula but thats up to you.
2006-09-25 15:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me count the mistakes....
1) Don't jump in bed with a guy on second date
2) If you disregard rule 1, then don't expect him to be emotionally attached afterwards like you are
3) Especially don't expect a guy to begin babbling just because you got into his pants
4) WOW, that's probably a record or something - he even saw you 3 more times after you go into his pants
5) Don't bother
2006-09-25 14:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, he's just not that into you. He wants what he wants and as soon as you put the brakes on a little , he vanished. Dont feel somehow this is something that you did wrong. The only wrong thing you did was getting too close too soon. Its hard to "un-ring" a bell. Plus using the words "future together" on him after only a few weeks probably scared the crap out of him. Move on.
2006-09-25 14:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by Coco 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not apologize. He was just out for a good time and then you went and got all serious and deep. Anyone who gives it up on a second date has low self esteem and is going to be used over and over again. Get use to it.
2006-09-25 14:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right in what you said. However you should learn from this and be more careful. To avoid future regrets, you shouldn't be intimate with a person before getting to know them.
2006-09-25 14:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An apology seldom hurts anything, and often helps. But he may not have even thought of "a future together" so you may have scared him off.
Figuring out exactly what to apologize for will be the hard part.
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2006-09-25 14:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if this is something you feel strongly about, which you obviously do, then just let it be. If he's okay with getting a little more into the relationship, then he will call you or something. If not, just take it that he doesn't want that type of relationship and move on.
2006-09-25 14:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by GRR 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no...you have nothing to apologise for....you were being honest with him...good for you...but i do think that the intimacy you both shared may be the beginning and the end...it's may have been just a one off (i hope not)...if he is not responding to your messages then that say's it all...leave him until he contacts you, you've made your point...now it's his turn to return the goods, if he don't contact within a week...then leave it....but theres no need to apologise for something you asked him....
2006-09-25 14:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call him, or talk to him face to face, adn tell him u r sorry if u hurt his feelings, u just wanted to get to know him more
2006-09-25 14:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by semicharmed life girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to apologize. i think he's not yet ready for any relationship.
2006-09-25 14:52:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋