We r moving to another state in which my x boyfriend lives in! Lately I have been having dreams of my x bf. I want to tell my hubby but we r having problems now, it would just add to the chaos. They r not sexual dreams, we just meet up and have lunch, then I usually wake up after that! Should I tell him or just not say anything to him about until things cool b/t us? yeah my life is chaos right now!
My hubby deosnt like my x either....What should I do?
2006-09-25 14:47:28 · 7 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you WANT to make things worse, then tell your husband about your dreams. If you want to make your marriage better, then focus on your husband and fix whats broke. Telling him about another man (who you know he dislikes) would just antagonize him. What could possibly come of telling him of these dreams but more chaos?
2006-09-25 14:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by JillA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. Your hubby need not know about the dreams. It will only aggravate him. It's good to have an honest relationship in your marriage, but sometimes it is really sensible to shut your mouth to keep the peace. Maybe down the track, when you and hubby are happy, you can tell him if you are still having the dreams.
2006-09-25 14:51:23 · answer #2 · answered by jewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dreams are your private info. Besides your dream could stand for something completly different then what it seems. It could mean that you will have to meet up with your past and that is ok with you.
I would tell him that the ex lives there but that doesn't mean anything to you. Reassure him that you are comitted and that you love him. At least that is what I would do.
2006-09-25 14:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't tell him. Why would you? To add salt to the wound? It's a DREAM...that's all.....and chances are it's brought on by your upcoming move. But keep in mind, states are BIG........just because you live in the same state doesn't even remotely mean you'll ever even run into him!
2006-09-25 15:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide whether you want your marriage to work. Then based on your decision either divorce or take steps to heal your marriage. Chaos is unhealthy. Simplify your life especially if you have children.
2006-09-25 16:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your husband about your dreams of your ex. You don't have to tell him all your private thoughts and dreams, especially if doing so might offend him.
As for the other guy- I'm married and I think about other men sometimes. It doesn't matter though because I am devoted to my husband and my thoughts about other men stay in my head.
2006-09-25 16:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by carobygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up, little girl. Life has begun.
2006-09-25 15:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋