My partner cheated on me during a "rough time".
I have accepted his appolgy, and we are trying to move on.
He is really trying so hard to make efforts in making me feel secure about us etc etc.
But I cant seem to shake the visons of him with another?
IM afraid that If i cant deal with this then I will loose him for good.
Any suggestions?
2006-09-25 14:47:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it takes time. if you can't shake it but you want it to work. maybe try counciling. you might get some good ideas. just stay strong. good luck
2006-09-25 16:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Steve B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That''s why cheating hurts so bad,you never really trust anymore and that's the truth.Most likely it will not work between you two because of the cheating.You just can't get passed it no matter how hard you try.Sorry,i would just move on and start fresh with some one that I could trust and have some fun in your life instead of sating back and being unhappy.
2006-09-25 21:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a two way street...love, hate. The thing is...forgiving/forgetting. If you love him enough to forgive and forget.
I have learned one thing in life, you have to be COMFORTABLE with the person you are with! Once the comfort is lost, the love is lost. The old adage once a cheat, always a cheat, I don't believe, I believe people can change, but you have to be able to talk to each other and have that comfort to delve into each others feelings.
There are lots of fish in the sea, and just because you are connected with one, doesn't mean you can't be connected to someone who wouldn't cheat on you, even though it sucks to start over again...talk, listen both ways.
He needs to be just as open as you and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened. And if you have chosen to forgive, you have to forget or it isn't going to work........but it takes time. Forgiving is the easy part.
2006-09-25 21:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... him cheating on you wasn't right. But since you are trying to work it out, you will probably have to deal with the images for a bit. Try not to let bitterness eat you up. After time and things are more smooth, those visions should be not so important, and will be things of the past.
2006-09-25 21:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by banjo_mccain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time will help the wounds heal. If you really love him, you will have to forgive and forget. The forgetting is the hardest part, but each day, it will hurt a little less. If you do make it through and find yourselves happy again, it will be well worth it. I just hope for your sake, he is worth you pain and effort.
2006-09-25 22:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can not trust him, then better loose him now, coz you will be having a hard time dealing with your past experiences not unless you love him enough to keep him.
It is easy to remember but hard to forget.
But if you forgive, then forget.
2006-09-25 22:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. Stay and accept life as it has been dealt to you and hope for a better future or get out and start over. You deserve love and peace of mind, and I hope you have it now. Bless you.
2006-09-25 21:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling... as women we overanalyze and rethink it someone who is "not involved" can be more logical. Also saw a book at Borders about how to get over it.... I think Dr. Phil talks about it in one of his books also
This is an extremely difficult thing to get out of you mind. I couldnt do it but I know people who have with a little help.
Good luck to you and him
2006-09-25 21:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by tammy a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
better loose him rather than cheating you forever, because a born cheater, cheats forever. good day!
2006-09-25 21:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by rey-an 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling and prayer.
2006-09-25 22:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋