Family & Relationships - 21 September 2006

My boyfriend is AMAZING. Sometimes (alot) I feel like i don't deserve this or to be happy. I did alot of things in the past and from my last relationship with someone very controlling, i think i gave in so much and made myself believe i was a bad person when i'm not ..people make mistakes but i still feel like i don't deserve this or him. I had mixed feelings for him up until like the 3rd month and i even admitted to him, i wanted to cheat and see if that would prove anything but i didn't cheat. I don't know if i would have but i wouldn't now. I am falling so much more in love now and i think i had mixed feelings before because he is so different from anyone i have ever been with, i mean he is so nice and respectful. How do i get over this bad feeling? Please. It hurts. I can't even listen to love songs because i feel so bad like i don't deserve this. I even told him i am feeling this way and he keeps reminding me i am perfect no matter what we have been through but i feel different.

2006-09-21 17:21:12 · 5 answers · asked by Tia H 1 in Singles & Dating

would you be scared to go out with a hot girl who dresses and looks like a vampire? would that be a turn off?

2006-09-21 17:20:46 · 21 answers · asked by marlen 1 in Singles & Dating

how do u get a guy to noticie you i mean hes really good in sports.and everyone thinks hes cool i really like how do i get his attention

2006-09-21 17:19:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i love him so much. we were so close. he moved about a year ago and now has a girlfriend. he visits me whenever he gets a chance and i always wanted him to be my first. should we? he tells me he still loves me. i want him to be my first and i dont know if i could do that when theres another girl involved. i dont feel right about it. he'll move really far in a couple months and i want to do this before he leaves. should i?

2006-09-21 17:19:24 · 18 answers · asked by sheldaan 2 in Singles & Dating

I still find him to be very sexy and I miss the passion we had. I am also not at all ashamed of my sexuality. He seems to be. What happened? Was it just the thrill of the chase?

2006-09-21 17:19:18 · 8 answers · asked by newyorktilson 3 in Singles & Dating

Several of my American friends expect me to call them on a regular basis specially older people. Altough I love them my cultural background does not require me to call them constantly in order to be good friends. Sorry, it is nothing personal. It is personality and cultural related.

2006-09-21 17:15:55 · 23 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Friends

I really want to have a beach theme for my center piece. Does anyone have any ideas for something easy, cheaper, but yet amazing??

2006-09-21 17:15:34 · 7 answers · asked by Wondering 2 in Weddings

2006-09-21 17:15:27 · 12 answers · asked by yvette v 1 in Family

How can you know if a person is Lesbian? What is a true lesbian anyway?

2006-09-21 17:15:07 · 9 answers · asked by sha sha 1 in Friends

even tho I love him a whole lot

2006-09-21 17:14:50 · 12 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Singles & Dating

He started 2 tell my brotha everything bout me and then he found out that my brotha was tellin me....then he turned and started tellin my lil sista and i think he knew that she was tellin me everything.

*He told my sista that he loved me but then this one day he sent her a messege and said that he didnt like me no more,but real love dont disappear ova nite(thats why i think he knew she was tellin me everything).
*I just want 2 kno if he really does cuz im so confused and my brotha said that he thinks that the boy is tryin 2 confuss me....how can i tell that he likes me or not.

2006-09-21 17:14:46 · 4 answers · asked by detroit_lady313 1 in Singles & Dating

Sistah's, When a man is "Ready for Love"...why can't he find his queen?? I know that brotha's have done you wrong...but have you really given up on us all together?? It is funny, I am actually proud that you have started making things happen in your life, but a small part of me always thought I would have a family like the Cosby's....Holla Back and let the Brotha's know what we are doing wrong??

2006-09-21 17:14:42 · 1 answers · asked by O Jam 3 in Singles & Dating

I saw a guy for abt. 4 months was a great relationship. He was just a little shy of us, if you know what I mean. He was 24 and I am 20, we really did have fun together. But I guess he got tired of me because one day he just showed up at the place that I work with another girl! Well we have been split for 2 months and I have met someone else, the only prob. with this one is he is 35 years old. Other than that he is perfect. He is sweet and honest and just the nicest guy in the world. He is a little to affectionate though. But why do I always think of Danny, the first guy, when I'm with Scott. And what makes things worst Danny has started to call me again. what should I do about this just ignore danny and stick with scott. or dump scott and try to get danny back. I'm totally confused. Plz HELP ME WITH THIS!

2006-09-21 17:14:37 · 62 answers · asked by nana_14 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-21 17:13:43 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Situation: was in a great relationship, broke up coz' of the uncertainty with the long distance relationship thing (both visit eachother about 2/3 times a year & stay at least 2 weeks per visit), both asians but girl born and raised in the U.S. so talks of moving back and living and working in asia did come up but still uncertain so in the end girl decides to break up...still talked on the phone coz' love her a whole deal and vice versa...2 months later girl calls, informs that she slept with exboyfriend, got preg., had abortion, feels terrible, did not want to lie and keep as a secret so decided to...inform...love and care is all still there, but so damn pissed...what would you do? after thinking things out would you give the girl a second chance? or what?......confused, mad...

2006-09-21 17:13:40 · 6 answers · asked by Ron 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-21 17:13:05 · 22 answers · asked by K 1 in Friends

2006-09-21 17:12:59 · 15 answers · asked by hislopjosh 1 in Singles & Dating

We live in chicago, and we want to do something at that day, because we're having 3yrs of dating! But we're sort of tired of going to restaurants and movies. (That's kind of typical) So I need some ideas on where to go on that day in Chicago. I want it to be special. And that day is coming soon, it's this SUNDAY!!!! So I need help A.S.A.P.

2006-09-21 17:11:07 · 12 answers · asked by J-Ann 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Damn i like this girl but she has a 29 year old bf she is 21 im 21 the only reason she's with him is because he pays for her housing. Though independent i dont want her to move in. (not yet at least : ) We party together and one of these times im just going to make a move(the alcohol helps) What do you think should i wait it out or make a move?

2006-09-21 17:10:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if you think about it, the cruel ones are always terrorizing some other kid.

2006-09-21 17:09:54 · 16 answers · asked by gabriel m 1 in Friends

The last friend I made lives out of town. Quite often when she comes to town she calls me to ask if it is OK for her to stay with me. I live in an efficiency apt. have a full size bed and altough she insists on sleeping on the floor, I insist that we sleep together (for those of you with dirty minds, we are not lesbians. Nothing sexual ever crosses out mind) My point is, --- this is a professional woman who can very well afford a nice hotel room. I am a busy person. When I am home I want to be alone. I need my privacy and quiet time. I do not want her around even if it is every three weeks. She is schisophrenic, so it is a hassle to have a heart to heart conversation with her. She seems aloof!! I blame myself for allowing her to stay several times in a row before.

2006-09-21 17:09:30 · 7 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Friends

ok last summer i broke up with my boyfriend. and when school started, i got a class scheduled with him. i try my best to ignore he's there..and i hardly talk about him unless someone brings him up. but the thing is, during lunch he's always around where me and my friends hang out and i feel like he's always there...and i hate it.
and today this girl asked me why i had broken up with him and i went around the question as much as i could because first of all it was none of her business and second, it embarrased me to talk about it...so...then she told me that he had told her some stuff about "us"...she didn't really give detail about what he had said. but im completely tired of him being in my life even after i wanted to keep him completely away. i don't want him talking about me to anyone..and i don't want him saying things to people that was only supposed to be between us two.
what should i do?

2006-09-21 17:08:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have barely interacted with this girl. We flirted a bit a year ago, and then didn't talk. She friended me not so long ago. Then recently we ran into one another at a fairly formal party and I mentioned to her that I noticed we were taking some of the same classes.

I didn't give it much thought, but then I found out that she's going to be like my boss in this student organization I'm part of, and wondered what happened to her. Poof -- her profile is misisng. It's also weird because I think the assingment wasn't random (her being my superior).

This is the full extent that we've interacted and we're both normal people (i.e. I'm not some weird sketchy internet guy and she doesn't strike me as being weird either).

The only thing I can think of is that it was little awkward for me to notice that she was in some of my classes since they are kind of big (about 100 people).

What gives? How do I repair this, I don't like the thought that someone is weirded out by me.

2006-09-21 17:08:21 · 2 answers · asked by Who G 1 in Singles & Dating

i understand that he could be busy. but he hasnt called me at all. and now im regreting having sex with him. because i believe thats all he wanted. we care a lot about each other. we have been knowing each other for 3 or 4 weeks now. but we just hooked up on the 9th of september. i dont know what to do. he say that he doesnt want a gurl thats about games and im not. im being faithful to him. i dont know what else to do.

2006-09-21 17:08:06 · 21 answers · asked by mzculpepper06 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-21 17:07:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex gf and I broke up because of her drug addiction and self esteem issues. During our separation she would write me and tell me I was the best thing she ever had and knew she would never find someone like me again and she was missing me. Then after 4 months of separation she called me at 3 am and wanted to come to my house and talk. Well we did talk and she wanted me to give her another chance and that she wouldnt screw things up again. We have been back together now for 6 weeks, remember we broke up on good terms while still in love and thankfully there has been no signs of drugs in her life so far. I am working hard to be supportive in her dealing with her low self esteem as well. Here is my dilema. Since we have gotten back together we havent had sex. We used to all the time, alot. She has always liked alot of sex. What do you think could be going on this time with her and the sex thing?

2006-09-21 17:07:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He cries and tells me that he wants me to stay with him.

How can I ease his separation anxiety?

2006-09-21 17:07:00 · 10 answers · asked by mitchmase 1 in Family

Even if it has nothing to do with who you are attracted to, such as death of a mother and an emotionally abusive father.

A few people say that is why I am gay, even though I knew when I twelve or thirteen that I was gay, and my mother died and father became emotionally abusive when I was fourteen. They say before my mother died I was just confused, and that I can change though, after counselling...

2006-09-21 17:06:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-21 17:06:51 · 14 answers · asked by Mark K 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

but I kinda want more. I am finding it very difficult to sepreate to the two emotions. I am not a babe (28), and she is a couple years younger(25). She is going through a transition and says she wants to spend time with me, but just as friends (this is not only confusiong but also very frustrating). Do I hang around, "living on a prayer", or move on?? I'm no spring chicken you know...my clock is ticking too!!

2006-09-21 17:06:17 · 6 answers · asked by O Jam 3 in Singles & Dating