My boyfriend is AMAZING. Sometimes (alot) I feel like i don't deserve this or to be happy. I did alot of things in the past and from my last relationship with someone very controlling, i think i gave in so much and made myself believe i was a bad person when i'm not ..people make mistakes but i still feel like i don't deserve this or him. I had mixed feelings for him up until like the 3rd month and i even admitted to him, i wanted to cheat and see if that would prove anything but i didn't cheat. I don't know if i would have but i wouldn't now. I am falling so much more in love now and i think i had mixed feelings before because he is so different from anyone i have ever been with, i mean he is so nice and respectful. How do i get over this bad feeling? Please. It hurts. I can't even listen to love songs because i feel so bad like i don't deserve this. I even told him i am feeling this way and he keeps reminding me i am perfect no matter what we have been through but i feel different.
2006-09-21 17:21:12 · 5 answers · asked by Tia H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been in abusive relationships also. Each time I got into one my self esteem got lower and lower to the point that I felt worthless and like I had no right to any good things. Now, I am in a loving relationship, and with continuous strength and good words from your boyfriend, you should start realizing that things in your past were not your fault. You need to move on and know that you have a good guy. Stay strong =]
2006-09-21 17:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by cute_mami_alwayz23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look in the mirror and say I do deserve to be happy,
everyone deserves to be happy ,but some never find it, not truly
You have to find a way to relax and enjoy it , Otherwise your gonna lose Him!! And he will end up makeing anouther happy instead of you, thats not what you want!! He is not worried about your past, and he loves you for who you are now , thats should be all that matters.
2006-09-22 00:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just write a very very detailed list of all your good qualities, like: good sense of humour, sensitive, caring, loving, appreciative, open-minded, willing to learn, thoughtful, introspective, want to improve, - - - all these good qualities are evident from your question.
We're always so ready to judge and criticize ourselves and undermine our self esteem. This is unfair to us. By writing a concrete list of our positives - and keeping that list handy & adding to it whenever something else good comes to mind, we begin to counteract all the negatives that we have been telling ourselves - perhaps for years. Only good people feel badly when they disappoint themselves. So you are a good person.
This new boyfriend is a 'keeper'. Enjoy the experience. You deserve it!!
Good luck.
2006-09-22 00:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO STOP PUTTING YOUR SELF DOWN FIRST
OF ALL, YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED LIKE ANYONE ELSE
YOUR PAST MISTAKES ARE JUST THAT. YOU LEARN FROM
'THEM AND THEN YOU MOVE ON. YOU HAVE SOMEONE THAT' LOVE YOU SO DONT LOSE THIS PERSON WITH
YOUR INSECURITIES. AND IF YOU NEED TO TO. SWEET HEART THEN TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT HOW YOU ARE
FEELING. IT COULD BE YOU FEEL THAT SINCE YOU MADE
MISTAKE IN THE PAST YOU WILL CONTINUE TO MAKE THEM'
BUT YOU NEED TO JUST PUT THE PAST BEHIND AND MOVE'
TO THE PRESENT, AND THE FUTURE.BUT ONLY YOU CAN
DO THAT. START NOW. GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU.
2006-09-22 00:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with what you feel is best
2006-09-22 00:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by coldplayfl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋