Several of my American friends expect me to call them on a regular basis specially older people. Altough I love them my cultural background does not require me to call them constantly in order to be good friends. Sorry, it is nothing personal. It is personality and cultural related.
2006-09-21 17:15:55 · 23 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Is not that my culture doesn't require to stay in touch , it's just poor people do not have phones therefore, we are OK seeing our friends whenever it is convenient for them to meet at the market, church, etc
2006-09-21 17:31:58 · update #1
Hmmm...staying in contact is a way of staying friends but as an American, I would like to say that I know my friends love me and I love them, despite the lapses in between calls. Not real familiar with your culture so not sure if this is a cultural difference, maybe it is indivual tastes. Peace.
2006-09-21 17:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As an American I would say we keep in touch because we love each other and want to know that our friends and loved ones are OK. What kind of culture do you come from that does not require contact with a friend? I guess I'm proud to be and American and know my friends love me.
2006-09-22 00:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you assume all Americans think that way?
The honest thing to do would be to make it clear that you are uncomfortable with so much calling and your lack of willingness to make those you call "friends" happy is just you and not them. If you want to claim it's "cultural" explain yourself. If it's just that you are too selfish to alter your own comfort zone for others, be honest about that. And you might start to consider the real reasons instead of making an erroneous assumption about American culture.
2006-09-22 00:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well, depending if their a man or a woman it could change quite drastically on whether they wish for you to call them more than your liking.
Men probably wouldn't care as much, but women like to talk a lot to their friends, especially their better ones.
I receive a fair amount of calls from my friends, but they don't ask me to call them all the time (all my really good friends are guys). So it could just be the gender that makes the difference.
... Or there's always the possibility that Americans are just social crazy.
Good luck finding your answer!
2006-09-22 00:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tim B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HEY ! Don't put all us American's in there . It's not an American trait , It's a personal trait .I personally hate talking on the phone and I Don't mind people not calling all the time we all have lives too. so no offense takin' just don't be so quick to stereo-type.
2006-09-22 00:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And just how do you know what Americans do? Huh?! I don't think you know how to be a friend. My best friend and I are in touch every day. We don't have to talk for a long time. Just to say, "Hi, anything new in your life?" and "How do you feel today?" But, we Americans are warm, caring people. Something you wouldn't understand.
2006-09-22 00:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People especially older people just like to converse because they have a lot of time on their hands and just don't realize they are inconviencing others. They have a lot of wisdom to share, so don't be too quick to block them out. Their wisdom comes from years of going through the same things we are battling today and could very well save you someday.
2006-09-22 00:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am American, I think we are just so open and share our lives with everyone that we think they need to be a part of everything. I do not think any less of friends that I have less conversation with, just as you have to accept them for how they are they have to accept you for how you are, that is what friendship is all about. Good luck -)
2006-09-22 00:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee you make me feel so unamerican. Talking on the phone just isn't my bag of coffee call me crazy. Here in America, if you want to call someone you call them, if you don't you don't. Freedom is a very groovy thing
2006-09-22 00:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Carpe Diem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you...you do not have to constantly call some one to be friends...i only call my friends when i have something to ask them or to tell them....but some people expect phone calls....and won't understand... i am an american myself and don't understand this at all.
2006-09-22 00:19:38 · answer #10 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋