The last friend I made lives out of town. Quite often when she comes to town she calls me to ask if it is OK for her to stay with me. I live in an efficiency apt. have a full size bed and altough she insists on sleeping on the floor, I insist that we sleep together (for those of you with dirty minds, we are not lesbians. Nothing sexual ever crosses out mind) My point is, --- this is a professional woman who can very well afford a nice hotel room. I am a busy person. When I am home I want to be alone. I need my privacy and quiet time. I do not want her around even if it is every three weeks. She is schisophrenic, so it is a hassle to have a heart to heart conversation with her. She seems aloof!! I blame myself for allowing her to stay several times in a row before.
2006-09-21 17:09:30 · 7 answers · asked by Amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Make excuses when she calls wanting to stay if you do it enough times she will get the hint
2006-09-21 17:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the next time she comes to town you should go out of town. Stay at a hotel or another friend's place. Or you could even tell her that someone else is staying with you. Or - how about you say you are sick and don't want her to catch what you have? Lies, I know but, easier than saying, "I don't like you and don't want you to stay with me". Well, I guess that would take care of it huh?
2006-09-22 00:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound as if you are a very good friend. A friend will be honest with their friends. Simply tell her you don't want her staying in your apartment because it is too small for both of you and you need to be alone when you get home from work. Be a friend and tell her not everyone in the world.
2006-09-22 00:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to tell her, just make some sort of excuse why you can't have her over and suggest a nice hotel nearby. (or an affordable one.)
2006-09-22 00:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by D$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want her staying with you just tell her no. End of problem.
2006-09-22 00:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you tell her your feelings i know that maybe she would be sad or something if you tell her about your problem but you have to put yourself first.
2006-09-22 00:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by marlen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please tell her that you are busy expecting a male company and you cant not able to receive her visits anymore and that's it if she gets mad thanks god for you! get rid of that wacko
2006-09-22 00:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋