i love him so much. we were so close. he moved about a year ago and now has a girlfriend. he visits me whenever he gets a chance and i always wanted him to be my first. should we? he tells me he still loves me. i want him to be my first and i dont know if i could do that when theres another girl involved. i dont feel right about it. he'll move really far in a couple months and i want to do this before he leaves. should i?
2006-09-21 17:19:24 · 18 answers · asked by sheldaan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you really shouldent. you should wait for someone that can be thier for you and really loves u back. this guy just wants some. . .no madder what he says. he is still with his grl he is moving and i think that he thinks this is a great way to leave. but its not fair to you. i personaly dont think you should do this but it is ultimitly ur choice.be safe :)
2006-09-21 17:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by darkvamp4542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think its what you want then go for it. But..what if a man comes along that is single and totally into you, you no longer have your virginity to give to him because you gave it up to someone who says "i love you but i have a girlfriend and moving further away from you!"
i am not all for the whole first time should be perfect and loveable because it never works like that. So if you really think you are ready to start having sex and think is a good first then take that chance. but once its gone, its gone. and so is he.
2006-09-21 17:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. You know that this isn't right and that you should move on. Tell him that you would consider it if the other woman was gone but you just wouldn't feel right about it now. Tell him to hit you up if he is ever single again. Then move on with your life.
2006-09-21 17:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by kayro3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that I read the question better I would say no. I do not think this is a good idea. If he has another person why would you want to do this to his other. I think this is bad and will only end up in hurt. How would you like to be in his gf situation, I bet if that happened to you, you would be upset. Don't do it.
2006-09-21 17:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Firstly, if this guy is your ultimate true love, he'll ask you to marry him, and then you can get involved with him. But, once you're unmarried, this can give him the wrong sign that you're not what he thought you were; and that could be wrong. So I suggest you wait awhile and see how your relationship goes. Try to save sex for when you're married to him, or it won't be as special.
2006-09-21 17:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't. He is moving away, he has a girlfriend, and it seems like you are rushing into this. You will probably regret having sex so young, if you decide to do it, and there's always the risk of pregnancy. Sex, in my opinion, is best to be saved for after marriage.
2006-09-21 17:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by hahtnamas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT, you know that you are just hurt and still have feelings for him, do not let him allow you to do this and because he is not your boyfriend once you do it you will lose respect in yourself and you may not care who you do it with after that. Don't it really does change your life in a big way. Be smart
2006-09-21 17:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a Jack ***. He's not showing you (having a g/f) the same feeling level. Unless he brakes it off with the other girl. Remember what goes around comes around you don't want your man sleeping with another...whould ya'?
2006-09-21 17:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if you were the other girl and knew that his ex was gonna try this on him? you would be angry! the ship with him has sailed. you will meet someone else, who you will fall for. theres no rush to loose it, and its not such a big deal. dont do this too him, its unfair, for both of you.
2006-09-21 17:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it.
your first should be in a committed relationship with you, not with someone else.
don't start out your sex life with a booty call. you never forget the first time although heaven knows you will forget a lot of the subsequent times.
2006-09-21 17:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by new yorkr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋