Family & Relationships - 24 August 2006

I have been having problems with my BF's son for about a year. The kid is very rude, disrespectful, and argumentative. My BF did nothing to correct the problem until I said "either you make him behave, or visit with him someplace else" He talked to at the beginning of the summer and things are better (I wont bore you with details here, check my other posts if you want the whole crazy story) but the kid is still quite unstable. Now, he wants him to move in here with us(I own the house). I do not think its a good idea. I am looking for a way to as tactfully as possible tell him no. I have some idea what to say to him, but this is very very difficult for me and I am open for suggestions. :) The son is 12 and has issues with other people, adults and kids, not just me.He has sworn at his mother and teacher. The mom calls at least twice a week because she cannot handle him. I know if the boy moves in here it will be a disaster. I also accept that my BF may move out.

2006-08-24 10:14:04 · 34 answers · asked by eastcoastdebra 3 in Family

The girl seems just as interested in me as I am in her, but she has a boyfriend. She asks me to go out all the time, and we do go out. I ask her to go out too. We've already gone out to dinner, played golf, and went to the movies and i went shopping with her. The whole situation is really confusing me. She always make these hints that she does like me too.

2006-08-24 10:13:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend's daughter was babysitting my daughter at my house and now today there's a $300 gold necklace missing. She knew it was in my room because she saw me take it off. I'm not 100% sure that I didn't just lose it, but I can't find it anywhere in my room. Me and her mom are not that close, so I don't know if I should sit down and talk to her or what? Any advice?

2006-08-24 10:13:38 · 3 answers · asked by Aliyah S 2 in Friends

he wants to hunt the guy down and kill him even though it was 3 years ago. I personally am completly over it, and it doesnt bother me at all.

However he was saying that the thought made him sick to his stomach and he would have never guessed that i had been in a position like that before (i am kind of a tough girl)

I have never told anyone about this besides him

Should I have kept it to myself? will this change how he looks at me? anyone else tell their boyfriend about something like this and what was the reaction?

2006-08-24 10:13:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hey, you say your husband "is military" well dont take me wrong that is honerable, very honerable, but they aren't there by themselves. They are part of what makes America great. I serverd for 27yrs and am very proud of who I turned out to be! I'm not promoting poor english or grammer. I don't speak poor english, and yes I am undereducated, but when I was drafted out of school I was sixteen. The military had other things to teach me, so yes I lack spelling skills and typing skills, but I got my point across to you didn't I? As far as being"anal" I don't consider telling anyone to " go back to class so we americans dont get pissy with you" as a way of putting a good face on americans. The friend of mine who asked the original question suffered serious head trauma in a car crash and is trying to pull his life back together. His question might have seemed ignorant to you, but it was a great acheivement to him. We aren't the best, just the best we can be! No pedalstools!

2006-08-24 10:13:31 · 1 answers · asked by ssjerbear 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

yah my boyfriend gave me hickies right on the front of my neck.. does anyone know how to get rid of them?? i've heard some ways but none work. only tell me if they actually WORK????

thanks <333

2006-08-24 10:12:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If you and you partner/significant other split up, whats the one thing you wouldn't let them have in the sharing out stuff bit(excluding kids)

2006-08-24 10:11:51 · 34 answers · asked by sarkyastic31 4 in Marriage & Divorce

ive been in a relationship for 8 months with a married man we are very happy together but his wife found out about us a week before he was going to leave and has said she will never let him see thier son again if he leaves to be with me! he is scared incase she means it,im english but he is asian we work away together for long periods of time so we have had a 'normal' relationship for the most part as it is usually just the two of us,but now im finding it hard to cope as we are thousands of miles apart and he is too fiightend to leave her,should i just give up and move on?

2006-08-24 10:11:48 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Should a woman's eyes be protected from seeing violence and ears from hearing foul language?

2006-08-24 10:11:12 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

All my friends hate me (they won't admit it but the talk behind my back all the time), i look like a butt, and i hate my dad.

2006-08-24 10:10:49 · 17 answers · asked by WickedWest 3 in Friends

2006-08-24 10:10:47 · 8 answers · asked by Yeah it's me................ 2 in Singles & Dating

Let's put it this way...my gf has a "decorated" past with all sorts of lovely "honors" and medals...One of them is sleeping with more than 26 guys...Which while she argues she had no emotional connection with them, I have a tough time understanding this fact. While I didn't mean it, some of my comments/criticisms made her feel like a slu.t and apparently I was the first person ever to make her feel this way. While I never intended to do that, I cannot help but display my disapproval/dissapointment about her past.

She feels as if I am being wayyy too judgemental. I honestly tell her a judgment is nothing but a person's opinion...Who are we to tell people can or cannot hold certain opinions?

2006-08-24 10:10:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-08-24 10:09:53 · 21 answers · asked by U1SM1C 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a mother who was addicted to meth, for about a year. I lost everything including the respect of my children. I am doing great now and changed my life thru a lot of hard work. But, everytime I look in my childrens eyes, I remember how horrible I was to them, and I cant deal with it. I want to die sometimes, but even that seems like it is to easy. They are amazing and loving and forgive me, but I cant forgive myself. I hate myself for what I did, and I dont see it ever changing. Sometimes, I cry at night thinking of the times they were hungry and I was to high to care. They were and are teenagers, and like I said are the two most amazing people I have ever encountered, but, I cant live with it, I dont know how to forget. Any advice??

2006-08-24 10:09:53 · 18 answers · asked by insane 2 in Family

2006-08-24 10:09:51 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I didn't do all the yardwork I needed to before the rainy season, and now her bush is quite overgrown. I was gonna' use the hedge trimmer, but I think at this point I really need the chainsaw. What is the best shape to aim for? I want her to be happy when I'm done.

2006-08-24 10:09:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'm 13, he's 15. okay, we starting going out june 21 2006 and we had a great tiem talking to eachother, and he's soooo special to me and i dont want him to loose interest and break up with me, nor do i want to break up with him.

well, i never got to see him during the summer because we were REEEAALLY busy. he cant talk on the phone, because he just moved to this area and he doesnt have a phone. i cant really see him in public outside of school for 2 reasons:
1. i'm technically not allowed to have a b/f yet
2. i cant really contact him anymore :*(
okay, so anyways, he's really shy in public and wont talk to me, and i want to make him more comfortable, but i dont know how without being able to talk to him...also he cant really talk to me online anymore because his computer is messed up!!! so the only time i see him is in school. we havent hugged or kissed or anything yet, because its only the 2nd time ive seen him..i want to though...

2006-08-24 10:09:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-08-24 10:08:58 · 7 answers · asked by suezzie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-08-24 10:08:56 · 6 answers · asked by lovelylady 2 in Family

1 week ago my ex asked me back out (to be his girlfriend).....anyways we dated off an on in High school. we broke up in 2003 until august of this year (2006). during the time we were not together i dated another guy we had a child together. my ex he knows and has met my son he is cool with it and all. we still have feeling and love one another.....when we were teens we both had our problems, now as adults I think we both want to give this a shot again.
I just wanting to know what you all thought and think of this relationship? In one word please if not just give a brief thought.

2006-08-24 10:08:39 · 4 answers · asked by honey2bloved 3 in Singles & Dating

I have put 5 yrs. into this relationship to make it work. Yes , we have had our ups and downs, like most!But we've always worked it out .I've built her a new a new home for her and her kids , started 2 buss. financed thru me , auto's, taken care , and loved her kids (2) I have 2 of my own , whom i have custody of. Take her on multiple vactions/trips anually. She recently has cut- off ALL sexual, emotional needs. I am/and have always have been there for her.She has said she needs her space, Im 42, shes soon to be 36 ...I am deeeply in love and wanting to marry her, "what do i do"? I have recently found a phone bill showing her to communicate w/ a caller , over 70+ times in a mth.(April, May period) whom is a male caller, that is married, (we were , at the time apart ...for 45+ days...Any advise, please help

2006-08-24 10:08:25 · 9 answers · asked by IamtheMan C 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-24 10:08:23 · 20 answers · asked by papai 1 in Friends

Oops!... I Did It Again

2006-08-24 10:08:00 · 4 answers · asked by TRANSLOPEDIA 4 in Singles & Dating

i have never had a boy friend before but they say im hot
and always grab my butt but they never like me that way
its really stupid how come this happens 2 me???

2006-08-24 10:06:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-08-24 10:05:10 · 37 answers · asked by Flagger 6 in Marriage & Divorce

Last week, I was watching tv with my little brother and I was flipping through the channels when I accidently stopped on a channel with a topless chick, excersing. I quickly changed the channel but now my little 11 year old brother is obessed with breasts. Since my whole life I haven't really cared about girls and I haven't really been through this I have no idea what to do. My little brother is drawing breasts on the walls and now I keep on getting calls from his teacher (my brother didn't want to give his teacher my mom's phone number so he gave mine) saying he keeps on desrupting class saying 'titas' loudly. And when I invite my female friends over he keeps on bothering them to take off their shirts so he can see their 'titas.' What should I do?

2006-08-24 10:05:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

im 16 and ive had these guys stare at me for a long time.. i finally asked one of them... this is how it went... "why are your friends staring at me all the time?".. he turned and pointed to some other guys and said "them?!" acting all surprised thinkin i was wrong" i said "no your other friends" hes all .. taking it calmly " oh, i dont know" he said hes not hiding anything from me and that he could try talking to one of them.. he also said some nice things about them like "their nice and good people" but his friends arent the only ones staring.. he has been doing it too.. i didnt ask him about that.. it would be weird... ive known him for ever since i was 3 and a half.. and like 3 months ago i met him... kind of weird though..i think hes lying about the whole 'i dont know why there staring at you' thing im thinkin about talking to him again

2006-08-24 10:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by Melody. 3 in Singles & Dating

I am in love with this guy who is 21, and I am 18. My mom thinks I am too young to marry. Should I listen to her or my heart??

2006-08-24 10:04:49 · 48 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Weddings

on where to store the patio furniture? We put it under tarps last year, but it got wet and rusted a bit. That was her idea...I probably don't want to tell her "I told you so" huh?

2006-08-24 10:03:57 · 58 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I sure wish I did, or just had someone to get to know..I am 23 years old majoring in Business.. I just would like to have female friends, someone who is down to earth, caring and considerate.. Is there anyone out there who feels the same way as I do?

2006-08-24 10:03:43 · 7 answers · asked by lrkarey 1 in Friends