In the "DUMPS" about my relationship with a woman......?

Question

I have put 5 yrs. into this relationship to make it work. Yes , we have had our ups and downs, like most!But we've always worked it out .I've built her a new a new home for her and her kids , started 2 buss. financed thru me , auto's, taken care , and loved her kids (2) I have 2 of my own , whom i have custody of. Take her on multiple vactions/trips anually. She recently has cut- off ALL sexual, emotional needs. I am/and have always have been there for her.She has said she needs her space, Im 42, shes soon to be 36 ...I am deeeply in love and wanting to marry her, "what do i do"? I have recently found a phone bill showing her to communicate w/ a caller , over 70+ times in a mth.(April, May period) whom is a male caller, that is married, (we were , at the time apart ...for 45+ days...Any advise, please help

Answer 1

Go on with your life..............You have to face it sooner or later ..................You are down in the dumps because you have been dumped............................just go on...........hard to do...but it sure looks that way

Answer 2

i am same age as you are and have gone through almost identical circumstances. phone calls are not proof of having a sexual relationship, only some jerk,a** hole is trying to.if you push her it will only give her an excuse to justify her actions so far, and possibly giving in. do not let her start an argument with you! for some reason women do this to ease their conscience. instead, try to catch her in a fair mood and do something small but nice (like run her a bath or a simple back rub) dont expect or ask for sex. while you have her relaxed ask her on a date to one of the things you did when you first met,something you remember she likes. if this dosent work over a little time you may have to suspect the worse. ask a lawyer about common law marriage in your state. get proof before you let her know that you know, then call his wife. that may give you an Ally, or at the very least, give you some pleasure of knowing you put some grief in the bastard that came after your woman. sorry man,good luck ^

Answer 3

Plain and simple: break it off.
It's very clear that she is simply taking advantage of you and your kindness and wants nothing to do with you on a romantic level.
She is obviously conversing with another man which means she does not respect the relationship you have worked so hard to forge.
Sometimes, the people we believe we love the most, turn out to hurt us the worst. You deserve better and I guarantee that there is a woman that will appreciate all your efforts. This woman will not.

Answer 4

she's not giving you any loving because she is getting it from somewhere else. You have been so great to her and have done alot more than what most people would do. Just face it, its over. You sound like a great person but it's time to leave her. Don't put yourself through this drama. It is going to hurt but it will all be worth it in the end.

Answer 5

Dude, I know it hurts, but it sounds to me like she is falling for someone else. It sucks. I've been there. I was with a guy who I was sooooooo into and did everything for him. Once they go that route though, there is nothing you can do about. Just come straight out and ask her what is up? Does she want to continue on this relationship or does she want to let it go? Ask her. Then, when she says she does, walk away. I know it is hard, it was the hardest thing I had to do, but I found someone who really wanted to be with me and only me and loves me. We have been together for a year now and are having our 1st child together. We are very much in love. If I would have followed my heart, I would have tried to stick it out with this guy who was totally over me before we were over and I would've been miserable. Let her go. You deserve someone to be into you and ONLY YOU! Now, 1 year later, that guy that dissed me, is kicking himself in the *** right now for doing that to me. I'm telling you, kill 'em w/kindness. Don't be a sappy pants, that will push her away more! Just let her go..........Sorry, I know it sucks but you WILL GET OVER IT! Don't chase her - Replace her! It's a total cop-out but it works.

Answer 6

You need to move on, NOW. She won't give you a commitment and she is using you, and you are letting her. Be a man. You need to take care of yourself and your kids. If she was so quick to move on while you were separated then clearly the relationship was not that big of a deal to her. Kick her out ASAP. I know she has kids but she is grown and can take care of herself. Stop being a doormat. I don't want to sound harsh, but you clearly need to be told the truth.

Answer 7

To be honest with you she is seeing that guy or missing him enough that it bothers her when she is with you. I would put my foot down and ask her to stay or go but don't let her **** on you.

Answer 8

talk to her and see how she feels. If she leaves then she may see that it is not always better else where and want to come back.

Answer 9

well to be honesty with you i wood sit her down and tell that you you
found the phon bill and ask if she still went to be with you