2006-08-24 10:08:56 · 6 answers · asked by lovelylady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it is important to talk to your children at all times. Practise talking whenever you can. About everything. Distant things, news and close things - your relationship and so on. When you are able to talk and have good dialogue with your kids these things comes natural in the sence that you allways are in advance - you talk about things as if they were natural.
You'd like to talk about "the" period to your daughter before she ask or before she gets it - because you want her to know before "it" happens. You talk about smoking and what it takes to resist group-preassure if friends starts smoking long before she does. This way you prepare your kid for what comes next. Do not depend on school taking care of this. It is way too superficial in my opinion.
Talking about sex comes natural when a girl actually starts having her period. Try to let her know that having her period is positive because it is her body showing her that she is able to have children. All the negative feelings we, who are grown ups have around the period should not come through to her. The meaning is not, of course, to have children at the age of 13, but that this is how the body works. When she is having her period hormones will change and she will have the sexual feelings. It is positive. She can explore her own body and sexual universe. Buy her a book about how it works, about what teens are thinking and worrying about. That should give you somethings to talk about too - if you involve yourself in this.
Actually having sex comes next when she is ready. When she has become safe with her own body and feels good about it. It is she who decide when to have sex and so on. Prepare her for the preassure she might feel when boyfriend might want to do it before she is ready. Give her some hints on how to resist, how to gently ask him to wait till she really wants to and are ready to. Well; this comes later on....... But now you have the door open into her universe - the dialogue.
Good luck with your preteen-talk though :-)
2006-08-25 00:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by IfYouSeeKay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is not a set age. Children mature at different ages. You have to know what the pre-teen is into. Have they had a crush or a bf/gf ? Are they boy/girl crazy? It really all depends on the maturity level. But I suggest doing it before his/her friends tell them the wrong things. This will open the line of communication.
2006-08-24 17:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by shelshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they ask. Schools usually introduce the subject at around age 11 and advance the concepts as they move up grade levels.
2006-08-24 17:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should most definitely tell them before the school system does. They need to know what their parents think about sex and what their parents morals are. If you wait until the school system tells them, they are going to know more than you might want them to. Like how to use a condom, and stuff like that.
2006-08-24 17:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom gave me "the talk" when I was 11. That should be a good age to start talking to them about sex.
2006-08-24 17:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt let them discover on theyre own
2006-08-24 17:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by yaaks1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋