Family & Relationships - 10 August 2006

Ok! I asked an early question and got many good answers. Let me clairfy my situation. I am forty she is forty one. Married 17 years. Two children 12 and 14. I finally woke up from many years of being a workaholic. I fell in love with her again. We do not fight at all. Living together is like roommates that dont talk at all. No sex or affection. She will not go to marriage counsueling. She says the more I push her to go the less she will think about it. She has finally gone on her own on therapy. She says also I am very controlling. I have let her go for several months now without a holding her back. No questions period. Now it has been 8 solid months of emotional hell for me. I cant seem to function. Do I stay or do I drop the bomb of "Either we work on this or we sell the house and go our seperate ways". Friends tell me this is your last resort. She has told me she does not love me as a husband and does not care for me!!! Help!!!

2006-08-10 08:54:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We'd had a few drinks and one thing led to another and she came back to mine. We slept together and she said i was aweful. I was still as bit drunk and had a go at her. I accidentally hit punched her and she ran off crying. Now her brother wants to kill me. I dont know how to get out of it.

2006-08-10 08:54:27 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend (Russian, well from Minsk, Belarus) met on Yahoo Personals just under a year ago..I helped her out while she was unemployed, by the way she's a civil engineer, .Anyway to cut a long story short...we were so close together, so comfortable..both agreeing that we could be soulmates. I got her an apartment in my complex with her daughter, to save her rent from her previous dwelling...everything was so good between us. She's working now as a security guard and recently got a bartending job up the road from where we live. She works five nights a week...Not a high class place to mention...anyway she met someone there and I only found out about it by accident..this was last Sunday one week ago...well she came into my apartment after she finished her shift and said that she wanted to talk..this was 4:00am..Bascilally I told her to leave and never to call me agian..She still wants to be my best friend and soulmate. I'm totally heart broken and want closure. Any suggestions..

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2 days ago
Just tonight, I met her at the bar where she was working, and told her thatI had left a message on ther answering machine at home and to at least have the decency to reply. My message was that I wanted at least to meet her (to get closure). When I got home a couple of minutes later, she called me to say that she had listened. She said that she wanted to spend time with me...??? and that she would call me when she had time on the weekend.After her work she came home and I could see her with the other guy outside across the parking lot. She blatenly started kissing him so that I could see, she ten got into his car and drove off, I suppose to his place. She really rubbed it in and I knew that she must have know that I was watching, I'm not sure though.......By the way, Im 49, she's 43....

2006-08-10 08:53:58 · 13 answers · asked by ken K 1 in Singles & Dating

I basically go up to my dads and hang out with my stepsister and her boyfriend...her boyfriend has no guy friends that he hangs out with alot so im kind of the 3rd wheel. Also my sisters friends who are mine to are kind of the type of people who stay in the house all day and smoke and get high...and they are all girls and we hang out with them all the time. some of them are lezbians. WHICH IS FINE! i accept that but yeah. Im a really attractive girl not to toot my own horn but toot toot. And i have never met anyone who is boyfriend material...and im very accepting of people. IF he makes me laugh then im hooked. I am really close with my sister but i just feel like im never gunna meet anyone.

2006-08-10 08:53:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I want to look gorgeous n stunning at my fiance's sister's marriage.I am an Indian.What should I do?
please give tips related to my dress,my hair just about everything that would keep all eyes fixed on me!
I have to do this to show to my mom in law that im not less than anyone.(She always makes me feel down).

2006-08-10 08:53:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Why are girls so competitive? I mean, even if we know that we dont have a chance at whatever it is we're competing at (whether it be sports, jobs, relationships, etc.) we are still gonna give it our best shot. And if someone who we know is better for the part, whatever that may be, we get jealous. Why aren't we happy for them? Shouldn't we be glad they got it seeing as how they are better for it after all? I guess my main question is "Why are we so competitive?" and to the guys "Do you like it that we're competitve or is it a sign of low self esteem to you and only pushes you away?"

2006-08-10 08:53:12 · 3 answers · asked by onehot_mama23 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-08-10 08:52:41 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was at the store the other day and i say this girl just give another the dirtest look, when i walked back out to get to my car i saw them fighting. It was mess one of them even took out a knife.

2006-08-10 08:52:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

So it's getting kind of old and I'm really getting tired of all the meaningless hook-ups and guys with false intentions and stuff like that. Is it a problem to just want the real thing?

19/female/NJ USA

2006-08-10 08:52:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

to find my father, has someone looked you up, how did you feel, did you stay in touch. After 25 years should i leave it.

2006-08-10 08:51:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-08-10 08:50:49 · 18 answers · asked by skyhopperveg22 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm the maid-of-honor in my friend's wedding and we're all going to Las Vegas for 5 days for her bachelorette party. What should I take or not take on the plane with me? Should I just wait to buy the novelty party items when we get there?

2006-08-10 08:50:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

i think of myself as a good guy but some how i allways loose the girl to a bad boy does anyone know why

2006-08-10 08:49:56 · 38 answers · asked by Craig E 1 in Singles & Dating

my father often talks about suicide and i have considered it many times over the past few years do you think we copy our parents example even in bad actions or is it just coincidence?

2006-08-10 08:49:40 · 43 answers · asked by Battle-Mighty 2 in Family

2006-08-10 08:49:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

for 18 years we have one child, how is the best way to divorce her?

2006-08-10 08:49:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-08-10 08:49:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Think "adjective."

2006-08-10 08:49:09 · 33 answers · asked by * Deep Thought * 4 in Friends

I’ve dated 2 guys this summer…the first one was an instant connection and we were really perfect for each other… he was a year older than me (just graduated… heading off to college this fall), had a decent job and was waaaay cute…well we’d been dating almost a month and then I went on a mission trip. This is where things started to get complicated…I hung around with a couple of friends (guy and a girl) who I see at school everyday but generally don’t hang around with because they’re a year younger than me… well, after being around them for practically 24/7 I started developing feelings for the guy… at first I tried to suppress the feelings thinking that my head was just messing with me…but after awhile it just got worse and I started flirting real bad with him (actually he started it… and I just didn’t have the willpower to stop him)… I was never technically the first guy’s gf… I just felt bad ...and he still doesn’t know. Well, when I got home… I just kind of shrug it off as … “what happened on the mission trip, stays on the mission trip” … after a couple days the guy I was dating decided to break things off because he didn’t want to be in a serious relationship with college around the corner….so instead of bawling my eyes out like any normal girl who is dating a great guy would do… I heaved a big sigh of relief… cuz I really didn’t even know what I wanted yet…so about another week passed and after numerous times of trying to get in touch with the second guy… I finally got a hold of him…I told him about the “break-up” and we almost immediately started hanging out/dating … this made my parents extremely uncomfortable because they thought I had just lowered all my high standards for dating boys and thrown them out the window… this boy was a year younger than me… we really didn’t have all that much in common (true) and could I really see myself in a long term future relationship with him? (not much past high school….) so after 2 weeks of this hanging out/dating/making out relationship… I decided that I couldn’t take things any further… and so I broke up with him…I didn’t want to get too deep in a relationship that I know would not end up as serious… and I didn’t want to lead him on and break his heart later (like at the end of the summer) … I just don’t know if I was truly acting on my feelings… or just taking the easy way out because I’m not comfortable dating someone whom my parents don’t approve of… I’m not sure if I did the right thing or not…

2006-08-10 08:48:04 · 27 answers · asked by shortchic070307 2 in Singles & Dating

I am. I love someone but cant be with them because my best freinds dont want me to get hurt and dont like this person..and I cant loose my best friends...I just dont know what to do..because if they find out im talking with this person they would be SOOO mad at me and i would probably loose their trust..

2006-08-10 08:47:59 · 6 answers · asked by Ms cool pants. 2 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I have an interesting ongoing debate. We both agree that married women cheat as often as married men, but that women are far better at covering their tracks. However, I would argue that women are far more likely to cover for a cheating friend than a man would.

For example, we have a married couple as friends. She always had a monthly girls' night. But her friend Cynthia would always call the husband, to tell him that his wife was on her way home. Now, his wife has a mobile phone. Why wouldn't she call him herself? He's come to me with this problem. Personally, I think she's cheating. My wife says not necessarily so. What do you thnk?

2006-08-10 08:47:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Girls at Clubs and bars are gross, too many STD's. Does anyone know any great places where great girls go, I'm from So Cal, so the more narrowed down the answer the better..

2006-08-10 08:47:39 · 4 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Singles & Dating

I am 21, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a month. When is an apropriate time to tell him I love him? Should I have already told him? Is it to soon to tell him now?

2006-08-10 08:47:35 · 9 answers · asked by christie 2 in Singles & Dating

If you can find any pictures of these together, please let me know!

If not, please suggest some other colors that will go with Aqua and White. I'm almost 100% postitive that I want to include Aqua, as it is my favorite color, along with just about every other shade of blue!

So, please makes suggestions that include aqua or some kind of blue other than navy.

Thanks!

2006-08-10 08:46:51 · 6 answers · asked by ☼ lovethesun11 2 in Weddings

2006-08-10 08:46:26 · 1 answers · asked by noname 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Your wife tells you that she invited her parents for a two week visit and they are staying in your home. The two weeks happen to be during your vacation. By the way, your in-laws don't like you.

Do you:
A. Move
B. Get a divorce
C. Bake them a laxative laced cake while they are there.
D. Take your wife out to dinner while they are there (without them) then call the police and tell them someone has broken into your home.

E. Lay around in only your shorts and belch and pass gas.

Or do you just say "Yes dear".

2006-08-10 08:46:22 · 4 answers · asked by Joe 6 in Marriage & Divorce

yes ..I''m vain! back off!

2006-08-10 08:46:17 · 7 answers · asked by gooterscooby 3 in Singles & Dating

like i`m with this guy right now. we`ve been together for 13 months; but in the back of my head i still think he has feelings for his ex girlfriend which i heard was his first love.. she , too has liked him again on and off. i`m just wondering what to think. before i found out he had told her "if i had my way, we would still be together right now" when him& i were together.. he has also lied to me many many times when it`s involving her.. so is it true? first love`s forever? should i just step aside?

2006-08-10 08:45:58 · 19 answers · asked by scatteredth0ughts_ x 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

She's straight and doesn't know this about me. She also just broke up with her boyfriend and kinda down. I've been dying to kiss her but I don't know. Should I just give it a try

2006-08-10 08:45:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ie) breaking your rules

2006-08-10 08:45:03 · 6 answers · asked by Island Girl 5 in Family