I am. I love someone but cant be with them because my best freinds dont want me to get hurt and dont like this person..and I cant loose my best friends...I just dont know what to do..because if they find out im talking with this person they would be SOOO mad at me and i would probably loose their trust..
2006-08-10 08:47:59 · 6 answers · asked by Ms cool pants. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something that you will have to decide. Sure your friends are your friends, but will they be the ones loveing you back? Will they be apart of your parenting? Can they be your husband. I am currently in a kinda simular situation, I met a girl online, I've known her for about a year now. We went out for about 3 months maybe 4 then we broke up. I told everybody about her and they were all happy, but when we broke up, everybody was like 'it was for the best" Now, i found out why we broke up, I didnt care why we did, and I asked her back out. I love her to death and she loves me. I live in Ca, she lives in Ny. Im 20 She is 18 finishing Highschool. I want her to finish highschool so we will not meet untill June 2007 probably. Maybe sooner who knows, But i have only told a couple of people that we are back together. One of my friends just laughed at the thought of me just saying hi to her every once in a while. He doesn't know. I havent told my parents for the second time. I'm going to wait a little longer. I love this girl and I will fight for her, Im not just going to let some people tell me no! If they say no, then they really aren't my friends. So if your friends say no, are they your friends. If they are, they wont be mad at you, in time they will be back to normal with you.
2006-08-10 08:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was. When I was in the 8th grade, I met two guys (really good freinds of mine now). Well I interduced my best friend with one of these guys (Howie). They ended up dated for 2 years. Well with in these two years, I met Howie's older brother ('ll call him Billy). He was 21 and I was 15. I fell in love with Billy almost right away. At first everything was picture perfect until my adopted mother found out he was 21. We were not allowed to see each other anymore, well so she said. Billy and I always found a way to get around that obstical. We carried this on for about a year and a half. Well he eventually lost his job, his house, almost everything. He ended up moving back in with his parents. Billy was a really good guy and I can tell he cared about me a WHOLE lot. Well because he ended up moving in with his parents my best friend and his brother no longer wanted us together. It really hurt our friendship. They always said he wasn't good enough for me. I saw differently. Well I ended up breaking it off with Billy because it was to hard to be able to go see him and also due to my adopted mom threathing to call the cops. Once I moved to the next town and got my first car I would show up every once in a while to see him. Everytime I saw him I just wanted to grab him and kiss him for days (may I add he just went down hill once he lost his job and house, like he didn't have a job, beside side jobs.). Well I never did kiss him. The last time I talked to him I asked if he could come to my High School Graduation. Last October he was shot by his best friend in cold blood. He passed away in his parents garage while working on a car with his dad and his dad's friend. I always thought that I could do better than him. I was looking for material things other than love. If I could take it all back, I would in a heart beat. I would make sure that I followed my heart and not my brain. He would have gotten back on his feet. May I add, he didn't see anyone else after we broke it off!! Serioulsy I have talked to his mother about. She pretty much said I broke his heart, not in those mean words though....
My point is do what you feel is right in your heart. Don't do what your friends want you to do. You are the one that is going to deal with the fact if you are happy or not, not your friends. I wish I would of reliezed this before it was to late. He was my first love and I will hold him close to my heart till I die.
I am now 19 and just graduated last year. We strugled with this for a little over four years. You would have thought after 3 years I would have finally listened to my heart??!! He was 26 when he passed.
2006-08-10 16:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by tiffanyncalifornia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I would consider them not your friend. I think friendships shouldn't be like that. If a friend is going to be a friend then they should be supportive and not controlling. Give good advice and supporting them even if it's not of their best interest. Then when you fall on your face your friend can say see I told you so. And then help you pick yourself up. We all learn from our mistakes and you will know better next time to maybe listen to them. I give my friend advice if they take it great if not I'm there to pick them up when they fall. That's a true Friend!
2006-08-10 16:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get to be with my love right now because she is in Kansas, and I'm in Illinios at the moment. But soon. I'll be able to see her, and I can't wait. Not the same situation since I am actually with her, so I'm sorry.
2006-08-10 15:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your situation really sucks. i dont know what to say to you. if i were in your position i think i would rather respect my friends' wishes(even if i dont understand their behaviour) cause there will be a bunch of guys in your life that will come and go, but true friends are for ever
2006-08-10 15:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in love with this guy over the internet but i live in iowa and he lives in califonia it hurts i know
2006-08-10 15:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by ~Stella*Smarya*MoonBeam~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋