him - "if you are not happy,then you should leave" (after me saying im not happy with the way things are) then in another convo, him - "not working it out is called 'running', you rather run then work it out"(after me saying maybe I should move out been on my own because we have some issues. This was stated on 2 dif occasions. I think it is obvious some things need to be discussed and clarified between us.
a little history on us...
been together for 8 years almost nine met when i was 22 been livin together almost since we met. Hit it off real nice when we met and in the 3rd year he ran into problems and needed a very strong woman to put up with his situation (dont really wanna put him out the specifically but it is what it is) and i did and helped him through his troubling time through out that period (2yrs) HE told me (with out me nagging) ohh you are my everything we gonna get married blah blah blahhhh. I never pushed the issue because i was just happy being together and in love nothing else mattered so then he came out of the situation and has been for almost 4 years and doing well and I never heard any of the mushy mushy since. But were still together, but what happened to all the "oh you are my world" stuff? Was I taken for a ride? am i still? He does have a lot on his plate (3 kids baby momma issues that makes things harder for us and the kids takes care of the house financially and i do everything else) fair bargain? I dont know if we are ready for marriage and that is fine but why dont he even mention ANYTHING about what he said before or no updates or nothing.???
I know its not all his fault and i not even looking to point the finger, just wondering if i missed something or being taken for a ride because thats not cool.
I want some answers not a specific one but just something to go on...so why dont i just ask???
so i dont look like a stalker cuz im not! im trying to get answers with looking like a nag any suggestion are appreciated.
PS if you are going to bash me for mistakes already made dont waste your time, thanks.
I was thinking of just askin flat out if he is happy with the relationship in general and is there something about me that bothers him. just a start, am i being reasonable?
2007-12-02
06:10:43
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