Have you ever been asked by your family to choose between them and your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner or vice versa? Was having this conversation with a friend of mine the other day and we've both been given this ultimatum in the past and wondered if anybody else has. Won't go into details on here for either of us as its far too personal. Thanks for your answers in advance.
2007-12-02 06:11:09 · 24 answers · asked by Only visiting 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And this question is not based on religious grounds either. Thanks.
2007-12-02 06:14:57 · update #1
Not a recent thing thats happened.
2007-12-02 06:18:21 · update #2
nothing to do with race either thanks
2007-12-02 06:39:37 · update #3
If your family is asking you to choose between them, then that is screwed up. They're your family and they should be supportive of your decisions. Those decisions do not belong to your family. He's your boyfriend, not their's. Now, I would normally say that family is more important, but honestly, if they are giving you such an ultimatum, that is wrong of them to do. If you leave your boyfriend, make sure it is for your own reasons, not your family's.
2007-12-02 06:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in a roundabout way.
Unless your boyfriend has been destructive and abusive to you and/or your family, they need to stay out of it. Maybe they could politely express their concerns, but it's not their place to demand that you choose. That's horrible. I say this because personally, my mother has her own agenda. She's the biggest narcissist I know and even I've never been good enough for her, so how will my husband be? And he's a wonderful man.
If my boyfriend/partner asked me to choose, I'd know right then he was dirt.
2007-12-02 06:14:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Partners come and go but your families there for life. What I'm trying to say is what ever decisions you may make your family at one point will still be there for. So do what you think is best and follow your heart...
2007-12-02 06:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not been asked because, but I am sure I will be asked after they know her!
But remember that you will fake your partner and parents if you leave one of them!
Just tell your family how they are wrong, not every time your family is rigth, and similarly not every time you are right!!!
The best thing then will be to choose your partner, because he/she is your choice and no one should be allowed to comment on it!
This is your life, you have to live it, not your parents!
If they can not understand your feelings, cant understand what will happen to your heart when you will leave him/her then why should you put yourself in hell!
Before they emotionally blackmail you, its better that you emotionally backmail them, tell your feelings to them!!!
Whatever you choose, remember that only you can choose better thing and always predict and prepare for after effects before you do some thing!
Best of luck!
2007-12-02 06:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i ever was in that position i choose Family because you would get over your partner and you can find some one else but you cant find a new family. I guess.
2007-12-02 06:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do they not want you to date him because he is of a different race? if that is the case, DUMP your family. choose your happiness over others. dont let people try to force you into making decisions you dont want to make. its your life, you only live once. do you want to choose someone else's happiness over your own? live your life for you, and the people that truly love you in this world wouldnt even make you choose. sharing is caring.
2007-12-02 06:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i have not but if i was 2 choose between my boyfriend and family i would choose my boyfriend now as i love him more then any1 in the world
2007-12-02 06:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by in love and its great 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a tough because I'm on the family side my sister is always choosing her boyfriend even though i tell her he's a player I'm pretty much always right but i think you should examine the situation first.
2007-12-02 06:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by mgarciafamily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wouldn't be a tough decision for me. But I learned how to think for myself at an early age. Almost a lost art now.
2007-12-02 06:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by BC 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never have but, I'd stand my ground if I had to. I despise ultimatums
2007-12-02 07:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Quizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋