My man and I have some problems. Although we were both born in England, his family are muslim. He, however, doesn't practice. My belief is that you accept an individual as they are and when we first met, over a year ago, I told him that I have a 'western' lifestyle. Although he accepts this, he's worried about what his parents will think. They live overseas and are due to come & visit soon. He said that if we go to a restaurant, he would not want me to drink a glass of wine in front of them. He also said that he doesn't want me to admit I am an atheist. My reaction was: why can't you accept me as I am in front of them? Just because I enjoy a glass of wine, it doesn't make me an evil person. I refused to live a lie in front of anyone and asked him to accept me as I am. He ended up in tears, saying he was confused and didn't know what to do cos he loves me but wants to make them happy too. I suggested that perhaps he marry someone of his parent's choice or be his own man and be with a woman that makes HIM happy. Tired of it all, I asked him to leave. Today he texted me to say he needs to sort himself out and won't stand in the way of my happiness. Shall I wait to see what happens or just move on? It's a shame cos we both love one another but I don't see why I should fundamentally change who I am for anyone.
2007-08-08
21:58:50
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