I feel lost in life??

Question

Dunno where to go or what to do??
Please give me some advice...serious advice??
thanks in advance
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im 21 and feel like my life will be wasted not knowing what i want to do

Answer 1

I think pronouncing the guy depressed at this stage is a little premature.

I remember feeling the same way at twenty one, in fact throughout my early twenties. You're taught to believe you should have it worked out by now, you should have qualifications and one foot on the path to where you want to be in the future.

I'm not convinced that's how it works for most people. There's always going to be some people you know who are certain what they want and are single minded about getting it. Don't let that make you feel inadequate, imagine all the opportunities you miss if you are single-minded.

You need to decide what's important to you. Try not to think too much about 'the future' or 'wasting your life'. The future is uncertain and, forgive me if this sounds patronising, at 21 you're probably judging 'wasting your life' by other people's standards, by what's expected of you.

So what do you want? Money? Experience? Knowledge? Relationships? What do you value most?

I'd be wary of chasing money at this point. Money is transient, it comes and goes. All the other things are permanent, they're your life and you get to keep them - so I would define a wasted life as one solely focused on career and financial gain *unless* that's what you love doing.

Who do you admire and why? That's admire, not envy - careful with that one.

The simple answer is to try everything that appeals to you, no matter how off the wall or what anybody else thinks. Sounds cheesy but follow your heart. Go travelling, read some books, meet some people, volunteer, create something, get a job if you want one. The only way you can really waste your life is if you don't do what you want to.

But if nothing appeals to you, and you're having trouble with the basics (i.e. getting out of bed in the morning) then you may benefit from talking to your Doc.

Either way you'll be fine, just stop everything for a while and put some serious time into thinking about yourself and what you want, the answers will come.

Answer 2

It may be difficult for some people to realize that they are getting older but things are still the same. The problems that you faced when you were younger are still staring you in the face and you can't help but lose this staring contest.

I too have recently realized that I am nearly 20 and I am still as lost as when I was 15.

Just a few days ago, a friend recommended that I try saving up my money like mad and going on a trip. Like, a trip around the world. I thought hard about it for several days and decided that that's what I would do. It may take a while before I can save up the kind of money this trip will need but I am determined to go through with it.

I think you need to re-evaluate your life and make a change. Do something that you cannot go back on. Do not back down and settle back into the comfortable little rut that many people let themselves fall into.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Everyone goes through this when they are young like you. Everyone is telling you to go to school and be something but you probably just want to party and have fun because you think the world is going to end. I am 30 and still do not know what to do. My advice is you choose something now, because it is not going to get easier and you will regret waiting.

Answer 4

just think of your opptions pick the most appealing one and go for it you have nothing to loose your pissed off already

Answer 5

To me, it sounds as if you are depressed. Go and see your doctor about this and see what they advise.

Answer 6

try getting a professional help my friend

Answer 7

Yahoo maps might help

Answer 8

awww