I am thinking of having children to please my husband if releases me for any financial obligations for them if we get divorced. He is kind, considerate, and loving but I don't want the burden of a baby. Due to stressful jobs, long commutes and our busy schedules we get two hours together a day and our house is a disaster. We are only intimate 1-2 times/week. I don't want to be a milk machine. He thinks I can be mom/wife/grad student/ladder climber at the same time. I am open to adopting an older child, but he is not. He doesn't want to get a divorce and is willing to give up fatherhood, but will resent me if I don't fulfil his dream. I would be more open to the idea if we were financially comfortable or if my education was complete, but he wants children now. His low self-esteem keeps making excuses to not look for a better job or not to get an education himself to provide more money. I gave up all of my hobbies and postponed my education to be with him. Should I give up?
2006-11-14
07:56:27
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Marriage & Divorce