First let me start by saying that I love and adore my wife. But our sex life is truly boring the heck out of me. When we make love it is always at the same time of night, in the same room, lights off, same position, etc…you get the picture. I have tried to talk to her about this several times and have made gentle suggestions for how we might try to spice up our sex life a little, such as being a little more spontaneous, trying different positions, maybe even buying a book about different positions. Each time I have suggested something, she says it’s immoral or that I’m being dirty and she drops the subject cold turkey. I have thought about suggesting that perhaps we should talk to a marriage counselor or a doctor that specializes in this sort of thing, but there are two problems with that. First, I wouldn’t know where to find someone who specializes in such things and second, I don’t want to hurt her feelings.
So, my question is, has anyone else been in this situation and if so, what did you do about it? Did things eventually workout for you and your significant other, or are you still just dealing with it? I don’t want to leave my wife and get divorce, but I am a healthy red blooded American man and I want us both to enjoy our sex life together. Serious and mature responses only, please. I really need some help with this…
2006-10-05
06:01:36
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