I have a friend ( at leat I thought so). I get the feeling that she is mean to me behind my back but she is very good friends with my other friend. she invites us to go clubbing. I am also shy and think that maybe this is a good chance to make friends. the thing is I dont know if I should go or not? not sure if she just ment my friend or both of us. (friends not going. she went home). sorry for the confusion. but I am just as confused as to what to do. Plz suggestions. :)
2006-10-05 06:00:36 · 13 answers · asked by tlmorton@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Call her up and ask if you guys are still going clubbing and if she says no or avoids the call then I think maybe you could be right and she doesn't really like you.
Besides face it if she isn't your best friend all girls talk about each other behind one anothers backs. Because for some reason we compare ourselves to one another, and when the other does something you think is just not acceptable you are going to talk about it with someone else. I think all you can do is put forth the effort and see how it pans out.
2006-10-05 06:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if YOU wanna go, then go. And u need to develop a backbone. Dont feel threaten if u think she talks behind ur back, better yet let her know that u are so secure that u could care less if someone does talk behind ur back as long as its not in ur face. And get some confidence and stand up for urself. So go out make friends and have fun, if thats what u want to do and be happy. Thats the most important thing is be happy!!!
2006-10-05 13:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it would probably be hard (b/c I'm shy in some ways as well), but I would go ahead and go, if you're reasonably sure that the invitation included you. There's no reason to let her actions toward you prevent you from making other friends. You don't have to stick by her side, neccessarily, when you get to the club. You can find other people to talk to. Take this as an opportunity to broaden your horizons! :-) Also, if you know what place they're going to, you don't have to go "with" them, as in the same vehicle or whatever...you can still go to the club. It's a public place! :-) Good luck.
2006-10-05 13:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by peachy78 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because you are invited to a party doesn't mean you are obligated to go. you can meet new friends else where especially it there's a chance you will be snubbed by this so called friend of yours and all her friends
2006-10-05 13:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell this person thanks,but" I will be busy that evening." I'm telling you from experience,you're walking into a situation where you will be humiliated at the party.
2006-10-05 13:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt go, as yr real friend isnt going, and you wont have anyone you feel comfortable with....wait to go clubbing when someone you like and likes you asks...there is plenty of time in life to do it right....
....although ndn_202 has a great answer ;)
2006-10-05 13:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by tanny_fanny2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should tell them ue busy the nite of the partyor just tell them that thy sould get out of ure face or htere in troubke
2006-10-05 13:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jus go mingle and break out of your shell.
No need to be shy
2006-10-05 13:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is rude i wouldn't waste my night hanging out with her whether she is with your friend or not, find another buddy to hang with for the night...
2006-10-05 13:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by loreescachter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jus go,dun think bad first.sometimes thats only ur feeling bec u r nt so close to her.
2006-10-05 13:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by cute 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋