I've tryed lingerie, and things. But when he says no (which is quite a bit), and i try and push it, he gets angry...which usually ends up with my feelings being hurt.
2006-10-05 06:01:01 · 12 answers · asked by photofemale810 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's strange, I mean whenever me and my partner want to make love, he's the first one on the bed! but seriously sit down and talk to him and ask him why the hell is he behaving this way?? I hate to say this but if this has been happening for a long time now, you better check on your husband whether he's seeing another woman, because I've seen it happen.
2006-10-05 06:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by white rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has the same problem with her husband. There is a lot going on in their relationship and it always ends up in the bedroom. You have to figure out why your husband doesn't want to be intimate with you more often. Likely he is having issues about something else. My best friend is a constant nag to her husband and then she wonders why he doesn't want to have sex with her. She won't listen to others when we mention this, but I know it affects him negatively. So, ask your man about other things in the relationship that he feels could use some improvement and ask him what you can do to implement that improvement. Leave the sex out of it for now until you can figure out what it is that is bothering him.
2006-10-05 06:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I feel bad for you and the situation you are going through. If you are asking for sex and he is turning you down the problem is most likely him and not you. You can't change him, but if there is a problem you can confront him on it. Here are some common things that could cause this type of problem.
1) He is into pornography: Another user suggested you look at pornography with him. I think that is a bad idea. Studies have shown that pornography has harmful effects on one'e sex life. It gives people unrealistic expectations of their sexual experience, their performance, and their partner. The US Congress recenlty reported that when someone views pornography alot the brain reacts the same way as to heroin. I don't mean that it feels the same way, but that it becomes addictive in the same way. Many chemical dependancy programs are now including pornography addiction for this reason. Drugs create an artificial feeling of satisfaction that after a while can only be obtained through the drug, and people loose their ability for that feeling naturaly. If he has been looking at porography for a long time, he may have become addicted to it, and have a hard time getting turned on without it. If he just spent the whole day, last few hours or night before looking at pornography he will not be in the mood for sex later on. You may want to check his computer to see what he has been looking at. You can do this by clicking the history button at the top of the computer. It will show you all the sites looked at recently. I would do this when he is not home. If there is no history, he may have erased it, which is suspicious.
2) As others have said he may be cheating on you. If this is the case you may not want to sleep with him anyway. It may not be safe. I would get him checked for hiv and other diseases before sleeping with him again. To see about him sleeping with others you should also check the history on the computer. It might show dating sites. Now just because he has looked at dating sites doesn't mean he has cheated on you. He might just be looking at the pictures. I would also check his email to see if he has been talking anyone. If he has been looking at dating sites, I would log onto them, do a search for someone matching his profile in your area and see if he has a profile that comes up.
The one place most people have an affair is at work. More affairs start there than any other place. My sisters exhusband had an affair with someone he met at work. She caught him by dropping by on his lunch break and he was on his way out to lunch with the other woman. She secretly watched them and they were very affectionate.
3) He may be under a great deal of stress. Men who are under a great deal of stress often experience erectile disfunction. If he is having a hard time in this area he may be too embarrassed to try sex. Does he have a hard time sleeping at night? That may be a sign of lots of stress. It may also be a sign of being up late looking at pornography on the internet.
4) It may not be any of these things. As men reach middle age their sex drives start going down. Womens start going up, so some times it could create the impression that he is just not interested anymore. He may be interested, just not as interested as you. By the time men reach age 70 they almost completely stop having sexual fantasies (day dreams). No one knows why.
What ever the reason is, expect him to be deffensive and not what to talk about it. The world wants men to be sex machines. If a man is not a sex machine he doesn't feel like a man. You have to find the problem and confont it. You can't change him but you can, in a loving supporting way, expect him to change.
2006-10-05 07:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Justin J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, strip off his clothes slowly and lick up and down his whole body saving his penis for last. Spend a lot of time licking his penis, concentrating on the purple head. When he is very ready (purple head is stretched tite) slide your mouth up and down his c*ck and work a finger in his a s s and he will reward you with a mouthful of semen. Knowing you will keep doing this will get him interested in sex again.
2006-10-05 07:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by joyce smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him (when you are not trying to get some) how it makes you feel when he rejects you, and try to find out why he's not in the mood.
2006-10-05 06:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try somthing you have never done..maybe the teddy with a little masterbation telling him that he turns you on and you need him..the needy thing always worked for me,lol..hell i don't know what you have tried so it makes it tough..maybe bust out the toys and let him watch..i don't know a man alive who could get through that!
2006-10-05 06:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else is going on here. Tell him you want him and need him physically as well as emotionally. You cannot control how he will react to this, but you need to be heard.
Seek counseling if necessary.
2006-10-05 06:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man not in the mood??? I'd check that out before I would try to sleep with him. sounds fishy
2006-10-05 06:04:54 · answer #8 · answered by Capricorn82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start playing with yourself and let him come to you or just pop in a nice porno.
2006-10-05 06:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by josh w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
START WITHOUT HIM!! WORKS EVERY TIME!
2006-10-05 06:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by ike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋