I'm 60, my mother, 88. Visiting for Christmas after a long absence, holding her close, she said she wanted to live with me "forever and ever", not comprehending my own disability.
My sister, 65, and niece, 44, were present, who tend her often, living in the same city as the nursing home, but neither able either. She is there for multiple TIAs (ministrokes). My sister and I saw the brain scan showing the damage, when the neuro PhD told Mother she could no longer live alone, nor in an assisted living center; that the areas of damage would cause additional falls, imbalance and impaired memory.
She's remained unconvinced 4 years. The doctors have confirmed that other than the effects of her strokes, she is in perfect health, and will likely live a lot longer.
Repeating what happened when we made this decision, she remembers none of it, nor having ever fallen, saying today she thinks we're "pulling her leg". It breaks my heart. I write her weekly. Keep these explanations?
2007-12-25
17:59:27
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Dinah
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