Psychology - September 2007

I often wonder what motivated people in life. Apart from earning money, what makes you get through the day at work? For me it's doing a good job and feeling proud of little things I do that makes a difference...and chatting with my friends at work...and spending the sneaky half hour on the internet! Oh and also looking forward to coming home to the gorgeous little house I've just bought, or planning drinks with the girls later!

2007-09-24 02:41:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Referring to the graphic on the link below, what do you think the person in the picture is feeling? How do you think a person of a different gender or different ethnicity might react differently to this same situation?

http://aycu34.webshots.com/image/28033/2000673288055077695_rs.jpg

2007-09-24 02:35:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

When ever I'm upset about any given situation there's always some idiot who seems to think that pointing out that I have no control over the situation will make me feel better when in reality, having that fact pointed out only serves to increase my anger.

2007-09-24 02:21:15 · 12 answers · asked by tas211 6

I miss this friend a lot eventhough is only 1 day apart, he has profess his courtship but i still doubt so i told we stay as friend first.

How i know he really falling for me? he used to call everyday last time but lately he seems to call a little and end call fast. what should i do?

2007-09-24 02:09:21 · 5 answers · asked by wishingforpeace 3

I need it. I'm sick of failing. I want to succeed but I can't get myself motivated. I feel stupid, like I can succeed at anything. I don't have any talents or social life. I know I want to make it somewhere in life instead of standing behind a counter taking peoples orders. And I don't have any self-asteem... what can I do to get courage, make myself motivated in my school work, and get out and make a social life?

2007-09-24 02:00:51 · 7 answers · asked by Eric S 2

I was with this "bad boy" guy around 3 years ago and I just cant stop thinking about although it was my decision to end the relationship because of him being the "bad boy" kind of guy. Now I am in a stable relation with another man that loves and respect me but still keep thinking about my ex boyfriend whom I left him by my self (forgive me for my English is not that good) as at those times I thought it was proper to do so because I didn't think he was the one for me, as he was rude, harsh and uneducated........... but for one thing I was sure he used to love me passionately and sincerely and he made great love to me......I am so sad please give me some advice......why can't I find peace?
Is this just an obsession or is this love? I feel like i have misunderstood him, like i have misjudged him, like .......i don’t know what........is just that his face is all over everything reminds me of him i keep thinking how would it be like if we didn’t split up. He is actually in a serious relationship with another girl and i feel like i have made a gift to this lady by giving her the man that was supposed to be mine..........

2007-09-24 01:28:39 · 5 answers · asked by taurus 1

2007-09-24 01:05:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

in the chapel of rest the smell and the colour of that pearson will never leave me i did not want to see this but i was told by loads you should go and i cant forget it its in my mind loads this was my mother

2007-09-24 00:49:10 · 19 answers · asked by astra 5

Why do we find some things hard to learn?

It's because we lack intelligence/knowledge, good material, time, patience, understanding?
Please no short answers!

2007-09-24 00:16:28 · 5 answers · asked by Jack K 2

Right my situation is I am 27yrs old and live with my mum in her council house. I am disabled and have been since I was little, I have leukodystrophy. I feel as if evrything that I do or say is wrong and the thing is I just want out of her grasp as I feel as if she is controlling me and everything that I do. For instance this morning she came upstairs and said that her dog Cain had jumped on the settee to look through the window as she was knelt on it and she was really pleased that he was copying her. Now she went downstairs to move the car off the drive to let the two dogs out and I went downstairs into the room and I let our cain out of the cage he sleeps in and he jumped on the settee and when my mum came in she played hell with me and said do not interfere with my dog. They are not allowed on the settee's and you shouldnt have let him out. Now to me this sounds a bit double standards and one rule for one and one rule for another. Please tell me your opinion's on this? thank you

2007-09-23 23:42:54 · 10 answers · asked by stardu5t7 3

When I was young my mother used to give me spankings, and at the end she would always yell at me to smile and wouldn't stop spanking me until I did. Well, now whenever I get really upset I'll start smiling. A lot of people over the years have misinterpreted it to mean that I'm very cocky or just don't care about whatever it is that they're saying.

So, I really have three questions:

1) Was it normal for my mother to do that?
2) Is it ever okay for a parent to spank their child with anything other than a hand (like a hardcover book, remote control, or other blunt object)?
3) What should I tell people who are close to me that get upset because I'm grinning back at them?

2007-09-23 23:33:58 · 8 answers · asked by Jane T 2

2007-09-23 23:21:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 23:00:04 · 2 answers · asked by ghada2nada 1

2007-09-23 22:38:07 · 5 answers · asked by Blue jay 4

2007-09-23 22:18:37 · 18 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7

2007-09-23 21:55:44 · 13 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7

It seems in my day to day life that I never really enjoy things. I feel as though I'm losing out on the little pleasures people enjoy everyday. I don't know what I enjoy because most of my memories aren't associated with the excitement I may have had at the time. I'm not sad or depressed. I like myself and I am confident, it just seems every time I'm hanging with my friends or playing video games, I feel as though there is something more fun out there to do. I usually have the most fun when I'm trying to hook up with a girl, but that doesn't happen too often. So most of my relationships I'm dissappointed with, and most of my hobbies I am also dissappointed with. I just don't feel I'm enjoying life to the fullest and I can't possibly understand how I can. Any advice?

2007-09-23 20:05:09 · 7 answers · asked by talljon 3

2007-09-23 19:56:58 · 2 answers · asked by emma0118 1

This might seem like a strange question but I often feel like a very small part of this world and a part of me just wants to know everybody and everything.

As I sit in this chair typing there are so many people sleeping, eating, making business deals, getting married, losing their life at every second and I will never get to know them. That truely saddens me because I realize how small the reach of one human being is.

Im assuming the practical answer is to get involved and help people around me and try to touch as many lives as I can. But what about the people who dont want to be touched.

THe people you walk past everyday on the sidewalk, and you see at a Bar, or on the corner just hanging out and you walk past them. You could have ten or fifteen friends but when your out at night, and you see hundreds of young people like you, women and men sitting around which will never have a chance to meet you.Most people are busy and they prob cant handle more people anyway.

2007-09-23 19:26:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

in patient care?? Do you have any experience?

2007-09-23 19:10:06 · 4 answers · asked by sahar k 1

2007-09-23 19:07:26 · 12 answers · asked by Honest 1

I'm 22yrs old and I'm always bored with the life I'm leading and I crawl into my own cocoon to make things easier. The only times I ever feel alive are when living as an expatriate in some far off country? I don't feel alive when I'm in my own country, I just feel like I'm existing rather than living.

2007-09-23 18:48:21 · 3 answers · asked by AO099 2

I am starting to think that perhaps i might just be plain crazy. It seems that most of the time im in a bad mood...any little thing can trigger my anger to extremmes. Its gotten so bad that i yell at people and even feel my pulse as if it could burst an artery. Afterwards, i realize that i make a big deal out of nothing and feel so much guilt and remorse that i end up crying. I've even thought about killing myself at times just to end my "evilness." I hate making people feel like that. I believe that I'm a great person and there are days where i am so happy and jolly...and i have friends that i like to laugh with....nevertheless sometimes i just wake up so sad and frustrated for no apparent reason. I really hate myself at times for hurting espeically my family and love partner...I wish I could control my anger and mood state to my will...or at least make it not obvious to others. Sometimes I just feel like withdrawing from people completely to not hurt them..only serious answers please

2007-09-23 18:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by David R 1

realized that we are all capable of overcoming our fears, insecurities, and selfish desires?

I’m 17 and, well, an experience about 3 months ago revealed to me the extent of my mother's love. It was like a love greater than I could imagine--a love so great that it opened my eyes, and immediately I was a lot wiser. Eventually, all my fears, insecurities, and selfish desires dissolved—I had overcome them. I still have desires, but they have become unselfish. It’s so weird, feeling like an adult in a teen’s body—truly amazing really; it’s a gift for which I’m grateful.
I’ve even reached that point where it’s like…my parents weren't really helpful to me growing up, but I love them. More than helping me they seemed to use words and actions that cut, and I was a good kid...I just had fears, insecurities, and selfish wants. It's just that I understand. It's so weird, because I used to be so mad at them --but I totally forgive them, and love and appreciate them for the simple fact that they’re my parents and like the average parent, they loved me more than life itself. It’s just somehow, it's our responsibility to rise past that and love wholeheartedly despite every else. You know... it is pain that guides us to try to understand and eventually build up our wisdom to a point where all we see in ourselves is love and compassion. I understand that there are many different personalities, and some will clash sometimes--but love is strong enough to fight any negativity and compromise and forgive and move towards a better relationship. Despite my parents’ flaws, I’m able to see goodness and perfection

It was a complete change in me, and somehow I keep wanting to improve myself in all ways big and small. I feel like I’m going to accomplish a lot, because I’m completely open to change and criticism—and am perfectly okay with myself now. My vision used to be so clouded and disillusioned you know. What do you think…are you willing to make positive changes with me or am I alone in this?

2007-09-23 18:27:50 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany 3

what does this mean?

2007-09-23 18:17:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out that a friend of mine has done that, and it made me wonder what it really means. You see before i knew he downloaded it, he's a nice person, i've known him for quite a while, and i just thought, there's more to a person than if they download porn. Sure it's not that great if someone does, but doesn't it depend on who they are, their personality, attitude and way of life? I think it does, does anyone else agree or disagree?
I don't like it when people start fully discriminating people who have done something that seems so ethically and socially incorrect and unaccepted based on one event.
There's a saying that goes something like, 'it's not what you say that defines you are, but your actions,' and to be honest, i'm not sure whether i agree with that.
What does everyone else think?

2007-09-23 18:12:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

.. and you were absolutely 100% convinced that it was Monday (maybe because you KNOW you went to church the day before for example).. BUT everyone else insisted it was Saturday (i.e. news casters, newspapers, friends and family etc)...

what would you believe? Would you trust your own mind or would you go with the majority?

2007-09-23 17:00:26 · 12 answers · asked by Chimera's Song 6

Would it be a turn-on, a turn-off or doesn't it matter?

2007-09-23 15:28:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-23 15:23:53 · 13 answers · asked by ~~~Tara~~~ 1

When somebody else has a problem, I'm always trying to feel compassionate, but I can't. I'm always looking at myself in the mirror. I imagine lots of interviews by reporters and other people about my life. And I'm not even very confident.

2007-09-23 15:01:16 · 22 answers · asked by omygosh 4