What do you think of people who download porn?

Question

I just found out that a friend of mine has done that, and it made me wonder what it really means. You see before i knew he downloaded it, he's a nice person, i've known him for quite a while, and i just thought, there's more to a person than if they download porn. Sure it's not that great if someone does, but doesn't it depend on who they are, their personality, attitude and way of life? I think it does, does anyone else agree or disagree?
I don't like it when people start fully discriminating people who have done something that seems so ethically and socially incorrect and unaccepted based on one event.
There's a saying that goes something like, 'it's not what you say that defines you are, but your actions,' and to be honest, i'm not sure whether i agree with that.
What does everyone else think?

By the way i don't think he's a bad person, and i don't think any more or less of him.

Answer 1

To be honest, I just don't think about people who download porn. Unless it is a first-time, curiousity thing, I think people who download porn are missing something in their life. Perhaps they have desires that the people in their life (if they have any) don't share. The bad thing about porn is that it objectifies people as objects...but then again, doesn't violence in movies do the same thing ? We don't feel something when we see violence in movies, because we 'objectify' the people...they are not 'real' to us. If we saw something happen to someone we know, it would really turn us off to violence in the movies. There is nothing in porn that we could witness on the street (except maybe rape). So the question becomes, what would this friend of yours do in that situation; try to help the victim or participate ? This will tell what kind of person he is, not just because he downloads porn. I had a friend once who cheated on his wife and felt really bad about it. Everyone was giving him flack. I told him I was disappointed in him, but the affair DIDN"T define who he was. And he felt better. So, I commend you for standing by your friend, but just remember, if you didn't know he downloaded porn before, there may be other things you don't know about him.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First off, it does depend on what kind of porn it is. Kiddie porn, that's a no no. Normal everyday porn (whether it's gay lesbian or heterosexual), I don't see a problem with that (though completely prefer the hetero stuff).

There are more disturbing kinds of porn out there (such as rape, or peek-a-boo - where the people don't know they are being filmed) which are questionable to me, and which I don't watch. But the other stuff, which is just consenting adults making a movie based on every little excuse to take their clothes off and jump into bed (Lol, sometimes, the excuses are just ridiculous), then no, I don't think that's bad.

Seriously, boys will be boys. That's all there is to it. Even if they aren't particularly interested in getting porn, they will feel peer pressure to get some, or even just because they are curious, they will get some, so they know what it's all about.

A lot more people are into porn than will admit to it. I am not ashamed that my husband and I enjoy watching these videos together, and believe it can sometimes add a little spark when things are a little slow in that department. I will have open discussions with any of my friends who want to listen, as I don't feel that I am doing anything wrong by watching these.

Answer 4

unfortunately porn is why the Internet got so big. Humans have temptations sexuality sells look at all the ads it is so much different than say 40 years ago . As a society we are really pushing envelopes. This is not going away soon it is so easy to find porn on the Internet any teen has access to the Internet can easily download it. It is very addictive and now it is not such a shock for people to view porn not like it was 40 years ago it seem to be cool. Paris Hilton and Pam Anderson made porn acceptable

Answer 5

Viewing pornography by the world's standards is considered normal. Why this is I don't know? I personally don't see it lead to anything positive, it warps people's perceptions of sex, most porn is done to demean the women by either being placed or placing themselves in a subservient position. So if your friend has been indulging in porn for a time his view of a sexual relationship may have been altered. He might still be a nice guy and not show any signs of change but it does warp things for many people. It's a bad thing.bad I tells ya.

Answer 6

I don't think anything one way or another about them. I am assuming you mean your average, run-of-the-mill "normal" porn, not the violent type. Sex is an inborn, normal human urge, and men (and women too) have looked at porn in one form or another for hundreds, if not more, of years. Before the internet, there was, and still is, Playboy, Playgirl, Hustler, and other magazines. This is just another form. As long as the person who looks at porn is not using it as a substitute for intimacy with their partner, or makes them feel that their partner is somehow inferior in comparison, I don't think there is a problem with it. My boyfriend looks at porn on the internet, and it does not interfere with our relationship, and he is not "comparing" me to the models that he looks at so that I pale in comparison to them. It's just something he likes to look at, like the majority of men out there, and it shows me that he has a normal, healthy sexual appetite. He also knows that I read Playgirl magazine, and he has no problem with it. To suddenly judge someone that you have been friends with, that you consider a nice person, as somehow "perverted" or "deviant", is ridiculous. They are the same person now than before you knew they did this. And in fact, it's none of anyone's business but his.

Answer 7

I don't think porn by virtue of itself makes someone a bad person. It really depends on what they're downloading. Did it involve children or animals or was it just straight naked people doing things that naked people sometimes do? Sex is a function of life and your friend being curious or aroused by that function isn't a negative thing in and of itself and is really something that's very personal.

Answer 8

I think porn is about horny boys and not much more. If you are talking about an adult male with a family etc., that is different. However, there are people who become obsessed with it and they do have problems. IN my mind, I think if he's young, it's not that big a deal. The rest, I would have a problem with. Guys masturbate a great deal as kids and they need something to fantasize about. Girls just don't need that sort of constant stimulation and it's hard to understand for us.

Answer 9

There is anything wrong with that because maybe men are more to do that than women but there is nothing wrong with that. There is always that ever since humans have been here there a many cultures in which they focus on that and sees it as natural. For example Asians.

Answer 10

As a person who loves porn and downloads porn frequently, and as Computer Technician who's seen many people's computers. I have to say, I find it strange that there are people who DON't download porn. I mean who doesn't like porn? Secondly, I don't see why a person who likes porn, and deemed 'nice' is now 'not nice' because they like porn. I mean it's not like he waves it in your face and makes you watch it right? It's not like he's downloading illegal porn, or doing something wrong. It's not like he's downloading beastiality or scat porn or something REALLY disgusting.

Cut the guy a break, he's only human.