So my husband is white but my family is African-black and royalty. Because I knew that I would have to have a traditional wedding, my husband and I got married at city hall first with just his brother there who I am very close with. It really pissed off my parents but I was happy we did it just for us.
Now that it has come time to have the traditional wedding ceremony, my husband and I cannot stop fighting about it. At first we were all going to go back to Africa to get married and my husbands’ family was really into the whole idea and really excited to get to see Africa. We decided not to because there’s a lot of war where I’m from right now and instead we’re going to fly some of my family into the States.
Now my husband’s parents are unhappy because they feel like my family has taken over the whole wedding and they don’t have a say in it. They call up my husband and complain. He fights with me about it. I tell him that his parents need to express whatever they feel to my parents but he says they don’t feel like they can. I’m feeling really harassed by my husband, his parents and even my parents!
My husband and I have been together for more than seven years and I've spent almost every Christmas and summer vacation with his family. He has hardly spent any time with my family. His family is really kind, successful and has a ton more money than my family. Now that its time to put my family in the spotlight for the first time, I feel like his parents can’t handle it. His parents say they just want us to have a wedding for ourselves as opposed to a wedding for my family but I think secretly they really they want it to be more for them. I wish this could be so because I think weddings should be equally about both families. Unfortunately, I cannot change a thousand years of history. Besides, my husband and I already had a wedding for ourselves! At least we didn’t end up going back to Africa where there would have been literally thousands of my people in attendance and only ten of his family. I just want everyone to be happy. What am I going to do? Please help!!!
2006-08-25
05:33:33
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