she wants to come with me.but she left this decision totally on me. pls give ur openions cosideriny this that we r indian. thanks in advance.
2006-08-25 06:41:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hi U love a girl and she is ready to come with you..All this sounds good but dont U both have any considerance for either of your parents!!! Love is eternal and has the strength in itself to convince anything in this world!! So please dont be kids.. if ur love is true be truthful to the ones who initially loved u and taught u what love could be i.e. YOUR PARENTS! And try to convince them what u mean to each other!
For they brought u to this world with lot of care and love.....U cant deceive them!!!
2006-08-25 06:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by anjali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are Indian, you have a predicament for your marriage. Why do your parents not agree with your choice of a bride? Is she from a different state? Is she a different religion? These things matter in India far more than they do if you were to live in the United States. Why do her parents disagree? Is it because of your job? Your education?
If the girl loves you and you love her, then try to go to a country like the UK, Canada or the US to study more or to work. If in time you both still love each other, then try to get your parent's blessing. It is your parents blessing that should be most important to you because after the love and sacrifices they have made to raise you, you should show them respect. Do not do anything hastily.
If you rebel and marry against your parents wishes they will be unhappy and other people will gossip. It may be embarassing to your parents. Then later, consider that all couples argue. At that time perhaps you or your wife will regret what you have done but it will be too late. Because you are Indian, your family is much less likely to accept your marriage after some time. I believe that the others who answered your question do not understand this. I have several Indian friends, so I am more acquainted with your customs.
Look towards the future when you will have children. Would your parents accept their grandchild? If not that would be so bad for the child. If you are still living in India your child would have difficulty.
If you study English a little more, you may be able to find a good job in the UK, Canada or the US. You can study and get a higher degree. The better paying jobs are for those with a master's degree in electrical or computer engineering. Those people who have 2 master's degrees have great job security and flexibility and earn the highest salary. Some people have chosen mechanical engineering. Another good field is pharmacy. Getting a Ph.D. in pharmacy will ensure the highest salary working as a researcher for a pharmaceutical company. Those with a medical degree do a residency in surgery. Plastic surgeons get a very high salary. Another very high paying field is radiology.
The financial security will allow you to have a better position and you will be able to make your parents, your spouse and your children happy. You will be the most happy for yourself.
2006-08-25 14:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,I belive that what ever we r able to do or enjoy its just because that our parents have brought us to this world and for me their love is important than anything else, well its my opinion but it dosen't mean that everyone should think the same but u got to respect ur parents decision as they know the best but if the couple still insist and stick to their view then they should convince their parents but going against parents wishes is totally wrong as no one in the world will love u like ur parents.
2006-08-26 05:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by RADHIKA .K R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go against ur parents. both of u will depply regret it in the future. think of ur kids and how they will not have grandparents or family. i am not saying that u two should break up but i would sit with ur parents and really try to convince them adn see if the issue in why they are not accepting of this marriage is something that can be resolved or looked over. ur parents will eventually listen to u especially if they see that u will not marry anyone but this girl. u both need to talk with ur parents and convince them. after time they will change their minds and listen. u must do this rationally and try not to argue with them or do anything against them otherwise.
good luck to the both of u and i hope that things work out and u do get to marry each other!
2006-08-28 00:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also fell in LOVE with a man that my parents didn't agree with. We married and had two beautiful boys after 6 long years of battling with my parents over dating each other. We would sneak around to see each other(I don't advise that) and were together every time I could get away. After my parents absolutely FORBID us to see each other and we saw each other anyway,they finally realized that we WERE gonna be together no matter what. After a year of struggling with my parents,they gave in and allowed us to date. It was hard,but I would do it all over again for the fruits it yielded. If you LOVE each other,your parents will eventually understand and allow you to be together. Be patient,talk to your parents,don't do anything you'll regret. Your parents will come around if they see true LOVE.LOVE is worth waiting for and you'll regret it if you don't have your parents in your life. You need LOVE,but you also need your parents in your life. They'll allow you to be together in time.
2006-08-25 14:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by onehott_lover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am an indian too..... run away from ur home lekin u need advance planning in all ur journey. try to get some work in advance before running out. if u have love, then u can win any battle..
love is another word for success
2006-08-27 14:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by broken_heart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel like she is the one for you, you should follow your heart, if not, you could live a life of regret. I know parents do not always agree/understand why we choose who we choose, but if she is right for you, they will understand soon enough.
2006-08-25 13:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Cortney N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iight I understand parent because they always want the best for you but guess what sometime what they think is best for you is not you know what best for you is...so follow you heart cause if you get marry with this special person you are get mmarry with them not with your parent or they parent and spent your life with them not their parent
2006-08-25 14:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your parents understand that you are no more little child u know what is good and what is bad for u
2006-08-25 14:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Deepak S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to spend life with her not your parents. Just remember this.
2006-08-28 06:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋