The person I'm referring to is a little bit pushy. My fiance and I have made it clear that it is a private mostly family ceremony. This person has asked the photographer to be her assistant at our wedding. I need a nice, but firm way to let her know that she isn't welcome at our wedding. Oh, yeah....my fiance can't stand her and we used to be great friends a few years ago. Thanks in advance for your answers!
2006-08-25 05:15:03 · 21 answers · asked by Kellybug 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't be shy! This is your day, and if you don't want someone at your wedding make sure they know it. There were a few incidents like this at my wedding last June. Don't send them an invitation. That was my first step. If they already know the time, place, date, and all details surrounding your big day you really have no choice but to flat out tell them, You're Not Invited. If you were really good friends a few years ago, there must be a reason you're not anymore. Maybe she needs to be reminded of those reasons. Let this girl know that your fiance don't really like her very much. It may sound a little harsh, but this is your wedding and you shouldn't allow anyone else to interfere with your day being perfect.:) If you are one of those girls who doesn't do well under pressure, or don't feel comfortable with the possibility with a confrontation, write her a note, or an email, something. Good Luck and congratulations.
2006-08-25 06:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't a nice way to tell this person - you'll just have to be blunt. If she makes a scene when you tell her, you might want to consider hiring a security guard for the wedding day to keep her off the property. Also, I would make it perfectly clear to the photographer that if she is hired as an assistant, that he or she will not be paid for their services.
2006-08-26 14:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be upfront and not to harsh. just let her know hey We dont pareciate you being so pushy. As We've told you before this is a private FAMILY ceremony. ALso there isnt enough seating and food. lol. good luck. If it gets to the point where you have to be mean then be mean. Better her feelings hurt then you both having a horrible messed up wedding all because you didnt tell her off. luck to you.
Kristen
2006-08-25 06:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by leaves_of_autumn171311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a private ceremony and I only invited family. So the people for the ceremony arrived at 1 pm and the people for the reception arrived at 1:45. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-25 06:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by C's Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let the person know that it is a private, family ceremony like you have..... the best thing to do is to say hey, im sorry but we dont really want you to be there...you may hurt the persons feelings but it is Your wedding and it is supposed to be a happy day for you.... the only thing i can tell you is to make it clear... try going to theknot.com and looking under the faq's... they have some good advice on issues like this.....
good luck to you
2006-08-25 05:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say let the guest list speak for itself. If she tries to get in the weding, the person signing in guests can refuse to let her in. That way you will have no direct contact with her. If you did not send her an invite, she is not welcome at your wedding. That is not being rude. If she keep insisting you can let her know that you simply do not want her to come. you dont need to give an excuse, just say no. If she tries to go through the photographer, let them know that if she does arrive with them, their services will not be needed. Money rules mostly everything and if you threaten to take away money, most will back down!
Good luck!
2006-08-25 06:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to avoid having to tell yu can tell the photographer that of she allows he to be her assistant then you will find another photographer. I'm sure if you explain the situation then the photographer would understand. Also, don't send her an invite. Hopefully she would get the hint through that.
2006-08-25 05:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and reiterate again that the wedding is for family only. Then let her know that you are aware that she keeps trying to attend...then ask her why is she intent on going...If from that she cant get how serious you are, then you need to set it to her firm and straight and not count her as a friend anymore.
2006-08-25 06:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes hanging garlic around the doors and windows of the church will keep unwanted vistors away. Perhaps having all the members of the wedding party wear a crucifix would help as well. If none of this works I would keep plenty of wooden stakes and a supply of silver bullets handy.
2006-08-28 01:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by exnavykds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know in a nice way that wedding is only for closest friends and family, and you invited only close circle of people around you. dont call her for a few days, and try not to answer her calls all the time she calls, she will get the message
2006-08-25 05:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by rocco1072000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋