but my fiance has his brother as his best man, And I want my sister to be my matron of honor. How do I tell the best mans wife that I am going to have my sister, and that if she wants she could be a brides maid. She will get mad to the fact that my sister is standing with her husband. She is the only sister I have, and she told me that she wants to be my matron of honor. And I cant deny her that.And if she gets her way with her husband(argue with him that he cant be in it as long as he stands with her)Than my fiance is going to lose his best man. Either way one of us loses. What do I do?
2006-08-25 05:12:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
your fiance's sis-in-law is being unreasonable. your fiance's brother needs to be a man & stand up to his wife & tell her that it's his brother's day, not his, and that he's going to be paired with whomever you want, not who she wants. it's YOUR day, pick whomever YOU want to be your moh & bridesmaids. and besides, the groom's party is already standing at the altar when the bride's party walks up the aisle. it's only at the end of the ceremony when the 2 sides walk out together. if your fiance's sis-in-law can't handle that then she's got some serious jealousy issues she'll need to work on.
2006-08-25 06:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by ms v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a unique solution: Your sister wants to be your matron of honor. It's not unusual to have a co-maid of honor spot so why not have a matron of honor and a maid of honor? Make it clear that the matron of honor is top dog and the maid of honor is her primary support. They can divide up the duties of maid of honor - let your sister give the other the girl the stuff she doesn't have time to do. Have a coffee meeting with them so they can hammer out the details in front of you and make it clear this is not a competition, this is a team effort. And then at the wedding you could switch up the traditional exit a little - bride and groom leave first, that's a given. Then have the matron of honor follow you (alone), the maid of honor & best man (as a couple) follow them and have the rest of the bridesmaids/groomsmen walk back single file. Start with a groomsman first and you'll end with one that way rather than two groomsmen at the end. Life is full of compromise. Just make this work out the best possible way. Everyone can win! Good luck, keep up the juggling!
2006-08-25 17:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem at my wedding, and found the perfect solution. It is not mandatory that the best man walks down the aisle at all. Our best man stood at the front of the church with my husband, and my sister (the matron of honor) walked down alone. My husband actually liked it better this way, because he had his best friend up there with him the whole time, instead of him standing all alone. If you hadn't originally anticipated the best mans wife even being in the wedding, don't have her. She can walk with someone else or she doesn't have to walk at all. Don't let other people dictate your wedding day for you. It is YOUR DAY NOT THEIRS!! This solves him not walking with another woman and your sister can still be maid of honor, those are the only two really important people to worry about. Good Luck and Congratulations!!! :)
2006-08-25 07:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride and groom choose whoever they want to be bridesmaids and groomsment. It doesn't need to be people who are dating or married to each other. Most of the time, the don't even know each other.
Usually the bridesmaids and maid of honor walk into the church by themselves. The groomsmen stand up in front of the church with the groom. On the way out, the bride and groom walk out first together and they are usually the only actual "couple". Then comes the MOH and best man, then the rest of the bridesmaids escorted by the rest of the groomsmen. They are only walking out of the church together--no one should be jealous!
So, don't worry. Have your sister as MOH. She'll walk out with the best man and no one will be upset. It's your choice if you want to have the best man's wife as a bridesmaid. If she is your friend, then include her. If not, don't worry--you don't have to include her just because her husband is in the wedding. You don't have to choose people because they are married or dating. Just pick your close friends and family for the wedding party.
2006-08-25 06:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do the bridesmaids and matron of honour have to walk down the aisle with their husbands/boyfriends?
It is certainly not necessary and you could save some headaches that way. Neither you nor your fiance should have to give up having your siblings in their positions. Most ceremonies now have the men already up at the front while the women walk down the aisle single file.
2006-08-26 14:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my wedding my sister was my maid of honor & my husband's dad was his best man. They didn't have to walk down the aisle together. Only my bridesmaids walked down with someone, my sister walked down alone because the best man is already at the front standing with the groom. Besides it's your wedding do what you want & don't let people like her make you change your plans or get you upset! There's no need in being jealous over something like this anyway!!!!
2006-08-25 09:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by beachbum26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start over and make a chart. Your question is too confusing. Only have people as attendants that you really want. They absolutely should not be paired up according to who belongs to who in a relationship - but your Maid of Honour (or Matron if she is married) paired with the groom's Best man; then in descending order of bridesmaids and groomsmen .
2006-08-25 11:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'You are the bride', it is your day. Matrons of honour traditionally don't have a partner only brides maids. The best man dosn't walk down the aisle with a bridesmaid but is there at the alter waiting with the future husband. ....tell your best man's wife to get over it and not ruin your and your future husband-to-be day. Your sister is important to you. Congrats have a wonderful life
2006-08-25 05:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Tansey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If memory serves me correctly, the groom and his attendants come out right before the bridesmaids, matron of honor, and bride come down the aisle. The only time they should be standing as a couple is when they exiting during the recessional and possibly for the pictures. That should solve your problem. Good luck and congrats!
2006-08-25 05:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the best man lets that stand in his way of being in the wedding, maybe he shouldn't be the best man in the first place! Don't you want people to stand with you because they support you and your husband-to-be? This is not their day. It belongs to you and your husband. You may make people mad, but it's the one day that YOU get what you want, and no one else should have a say in it. Good luck, and congratulations on your marriage!
2006-08-25 05:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by artfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋