I am a software engineer in pakistan. The girls whom i am going to marry is typical country side girl of east but still we love each other madly. We rarely talk to each other. We both are virgin and i want to ask that should we go ahead for sex in first wedding night or not? Because here in pakistan the first wedding night(suhag raat) is considered the best emotional time of one's marital life. I also want to make it momrable for rest of my life.
Please only mature and sincere answers.
2006-08-24 20:36:00 · 18 answers · asked by MALIK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Because she is a virgin I think you should take your time and be gentle. -
sex is wonderful BUT it can be painful a bit the first time for a woman -
so remember to try to go slowly and tenderly -
don't get rough at all and I think things will go nicely .
Also, tell her how much you love her -
tell her how beautiful she is and how special she is for you and kiss her a lot.
I wish for you a wonderful married life together and that you have wonderful and healthy babies.
Sincerely,
Karma doll
2006-08-24 21:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by karma doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not too famlilar with your culture.
However, if it is considered the best emotional time of one's marital life and getting married. I would think it would be a good idea to discuss having sex the wedding night. It is very common in most cultures to do so. Some carry sex differently from one another. However, being with your bride on your wedding day is an amazing thing to experience I believe.
If getting married. I would think to talk to her a little bit more. Get to know your up coming bride.
2006-08-25 05:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It mostly depends upon the girl's mentality as well.Wat i believe is that it will b better 4 u 2 consult this matter with the girl and i dont think so that u will b hesitating 4 that as u told that both of u love eachother madly.The way u hav thought sumthng 4 both of u in the same way she must hav thought sumthing.Try 2 understand that coz if u will respect 2 her feelings then ur love will definately increase...Hence it is not the matter of Pakistan bt of a loved couples...Hope 4 the best.
2006-08-25 04:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey man! i dunnoe how you have your wedding there in pakistan but here in my country (singapore) context i would say no man. i noe we all men can't wait to get our snakes out of our cages and all but trust me, at the end of the day even if i wanted i couldn't cause i'll be so damn tired. Dude, i don't doubt your ability or anything but its your wedding day. Probably you'll be up early and all preparing and so is she. Then you'll have the cermony and all and you'll be changing costumes and all and it'll be a very tiring day. The first thing you can think of when you go back to bed is sleep. I mean if both of you are wide awake and all i mean why not? but... if both of you are worn out, wouldn't it be better if you waited another day when both of you are awaken and fresh?
2006-08-25 04:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes ofcourse. Islam provides for this. You should go for sex the very first night. 90% are virgins in my opinion before marriage, so do not hesitate. It will give u pleasere, fun and love you wanted and waited for so long.
2006-08-25 06:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mohd A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes. But since you both are virgins, dont have sex right away. You have the WHOLE night. Be gentle, touch each other, explore one anothers bodies...become comfortable with each other. THEN have sex...it'll be amazing :)
2006-08-25 03:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by nat04 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what both you and your wife think about this. However, go through the website
www.themarriagebed.com.
Hope you find this website helpful.
All the best.
2006-08-25 04:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by its_anoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would say if you both want it and the moment presants its self and you both are willing go for it, but if not then wait till the time is right, you both have waited this long it wont kill you to wait a day or two.
2006-08-25 03:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is god to have sex on your suhag raat
2006-08-25 03:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Prabhujee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
According to your pakistan way of life you can do it. But according to us as christian we are not allowed to do it on the first day of wedding until the next day .okay
2006-08-25 04:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋