Marriage & Divorce - 2 December 2007

I have been married to Tom for 4 yrs. Tom has a 8 yr old son from his last marrage that he loves to death and so do I. I have been in his sons life since he was 2 ys old. For every b-day/x-mas Tom and I always go in on gifts for his son and sign the gifts from both of us. Well this yr for x-mas Tom wants to get him a guitar as he use to play in a band and its always been "his" dream for his son to follow in his foot steps. This is a very special gift as this is all Tom talks about and he has put a lot of time in making sure everything is perfect. Well the other day Tom told me he wants me to get his son something else as he just wants the guitar to be from him not both of us. I'm hurt about this as we allways put the gifts from both of us and if this is so speical why is he excluding me from this his wife. Please tell me an I over reacting?

2007-12-02 02:26:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really want to be with him, I want to have children and grow old with him. How can I get this across to him and have him believe it?

2007-12-02 02:04:23 · 16 answers · asked by lalala 4

how many people have left their wife/husband for someone else and regretted it and why

2007-12-02 02:01:49 · 12 answers · asked by wizard1963uk 2

Ok, I'll try to keep this simple.....!
I work for myself, from about 8am - 9pm
My boyfriend works for himself too, from about 6am - 12 noon.

Sunday is the only time we can spend time together but he seems to prefer to either watch football at the pub, football on TV, football scores on teletext or go to bed (to sleep...alone!).

Am I wrong to get upset because he never wants to do anything with me and I just end up doing housework or working overtime.

Been crying my eyes out this afternoon, would love to hear your opinions please xxx

2007-12-02 02:01:45 · 24 answers · asked by babs 3

I've doing a lot research on cheating. And have found that the resaons why women are cheating more, is because of a recurring theme. "Not getting attention." Women cheat apparently for "DEEPERS" resaons. Read any of these books like "To love, honor and betray" "Undressing infidelity." And look at what the findings are in those books. Now as a guy, I kind of laugh at that kind of stuff. Because it just sounds like they're trying to make women cheating sound classy. They're cheating for stronger, "real" reasons. When in all reality, if you look close enough. It's for SELFISH, opportunistic ones. But we pass it off as something more. I find that offensive. Because at the end, seemingly always the guys fault. Can you live up to the fairy tale!!

If you're a husband, do you worry about what your wife is doing? Do ever worry your not doing enough?

2007-12-02 01:46:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

after some point, how do you feel about yourself when you become "too tired for sex?"

im finally living with my BF, and i'm scared of this being an issue. i come home around 11:00pm from work. I'm a waitress, getting my @ss called from one end to the other with a bunch of plates in each hand is all part of the job right? my fiance's job is a even harsher, but he's a guy i guess and more used to it. when i get home and lie down in bed i just want to fall asleep and never wake up, then he comes in maybe 30 mins later, cuddles with me in bed (personally, it feels so nice that that only makes me want to sleep more) then eventually gets me going for sex. i always feel guilty telling him that its the last thing i want because im too tired, but he's a gentle man and respects that.

big problem really is, I've been told that its really not fair for me to be doing this all the time and he's just trying to be polite. this is going to be a problem one day if i can't fix it.

2007-12-02 01:39:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I filed for divorce from my husband and he in return filed a case for me to go back to him as in Shariah law. I also filed child custody case wihch i lost in appeal court last week.The case that he filed for me to go back to him was rejected. Divorce case is pending for trial. Married for 6 yrs and my son is only 2and half year old.Im a converted muslim and am staying with my paretns wjho are not muslims.He has raised the question on my faith to islam and constantly kept convincing the court that if i got my sons custody ill go back to my previous religion affecting him too. Im job less he is not paying me . I feel my lawyer is bought off. My husband is a pchycologically ill person and will never let me have my son. Im not able to live without my son as he had kidnapped him 1 year ago after which i filed for custody rightaway. The courts have no mercy to even help me get visiting hous i haven seen my son being in same country. Ivd run every possible places but all in vain .Im 25 yrs.

2007-12-02 01:37:38 · 7 answers · asked by anaisa 1

My sister just got married. So she invited me to her house for a sleepover (we are close). Her husband was there. Well my sister had to run out to get some stuff and it was gonna take about an hour. So I was like "I'll stay". I hate when she goes shopping. It's takes forever. Well, about 30 minutes later I opened the door to the outside to take out the trash and her husband was making out with some girl. He told me that she came onto him and he made her leave right away. He begged me not to tell my sister because it was a mistake. Should I tell her or just let it fly this ONE time? I mean, it might have truely been a mistake, right? But what if it was true!?!? He is a really trustworthy guy and I don't want to be a tattle-tale. I didn't tell her, but should I call and warn her? HELP!!!!!!

2007-12-02 01:30:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

breast cancer...no woman just wants to be used, Fla, it's important to feel a tender love....trust me...it's not a control issue....not hearing "I love you" during sex for over 12 years leaves you feeling pretty crappy....and now with my "woman parts" scarred up, I was just looking for the male point of view on why some men only want it this way......and to answer a few others, yes it has been this way for a while....even before the cancer, but I learned to live with it for the sake of my children.....I can't live my life this way...feeling used.....

2007-12-02 01:19:03 · 8 answers · asked by justlilme 5

now the lady i've been talking to about all of it, as a friend, is starting to seem more then a friend. she has been really good about talking anytime i need to like she is there for me something i've been missing in my marriage for a few years now. i don't want to be like my wife. does this lady just seem great becouse she is just offering something i don't have right now or could it be deeper? how can i tell and would it be wrong keep talking even though there are starting to be stong fellings.

2007-12-02 01:17:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm facing a hard time in marriage now.. how can i defend myself and not crying in front of him(my hubby) and make him realise of what he did to our marriage.. he always choose his parents over me and i feel like useless.. for all 7 years of sacrifices that i did for my love to him seems nothing to him..

2007-12-02 01:11:37 · 6 answers · asked by NEILISA **Shane's Mama** 6

My husband has been gone four months in military. after being together 3 yrs he forgot me and his daughters when he was there! i think 3 calls in 4 months. He wouldn't answer his phone ect. Well i wasn't invited to basic trainig graduation among other things So i tryed to have him deported. We went back and forth doing mean things. Well he got back 2 weeks ago. The first week i never called him the second week we argued on the phone he called me a backstabber and betrayer Told me he hated me. I said everything i did you pushed me to do! Either way i still miss him even though i don't like the stuff he did either so i call him the other nite it was late so i thought he might answer won't be busy well he did. He wasn't mean as usually and wanted to meet me. i did and wanted to talk to him about all this stuff and the divorce papers i had. Well we were "together" and after he said i hope i didn't confuse you we are still getting a divorce i started to cry i know he felt bed.

2007-12-02 01:05:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous