how many people have left their wife/husband for someone else and regretted it and why
2007-12-02 02:01:49 · 12 answers · asked by wizard1963uk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left my ex husband, but not for someone else, I just regret not doing it sooner. My daughter and I are much happier now. And 12 years on and I'm still on my own, some things you just don't get over that quick.
2007-12-02 08:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bezza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have left my husband on several occasions...for one reason or another. but only one time for another man. he was married also...even though I thought he was the perfect man I had regrets because we both had children.
I also realized that if he was willing to leave his wife for another woman, that there was a big chance of him leaving me for the same reason.
If he was that unhappy the reason was he was probably running from responsibilities he didn't want to face up to.
I also know that my husband really loves me because no matter what I have done he has always taken me back with open arms.
And besides what about the children?
They have to come first.. they are the ones getting hurt the most.
Sometimes it is really just better to stay with someone you know loves you unconditionally than to put yourself and those that love you through this turmoil just to satisfy your own needs.
2007-12-02 03:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by bonnie t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband left me for a girl when he got out of prison, and I do believe that he regrets it from time to time because he was so used to me supporting him for so long. I supported him since I was 16, married him while he was in prision, and was still supporting him up until recently, and now he is devastated he lost everything. I can tell in his voice when we talk that he regrets doing what he did cause if he didnt he would be living it nice right now!
2007-12-02 02:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by alichs2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I filed for divorce not for someone else but for myself. It would have been nice to have someone else but when your marriage has failed and you have tried everything and nothing will change then you have no choice to end it. The only regret is not ending sooner. It is better to be alone and be happy than to live in hell with the ex.
2007-12-02 02:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex treated me like a door mat for fifteen years cheated on me five times and l stuck it. I lost five stone and became attracted to my boss l dumped my ex straight away started a new life with my three children.Four months later l got with my boss ,four years down the line we have three year old beautiful twins. I have never regretted a day of it but then l didn't cheat on my partner so maybe thats different. Our relationship wasn't started on lies.
2007-12-02 08:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would never leave one person (even in dating) for another person. why? because i realize that all people are flawed, perhaps in different ways, but still flawed. so, unless my current partner did something worthy of being left, i wouldn't not leave that person simply because i imagined that life with someone else would be so amazing. i think when we imagine life with others, we assume that it would be everything our current relationship is not. we dream of it's great qualities, but none of it's potentially stressful challenges and issues. one person who has regretted leaving a relationship in search of greener pastures...jessica simpson.
it is well reported that she thought she could do better than nick lachey because she got so famous so fast. so, she left him and has been dumped repeatedly in the 2 yrs since their separation. she has stated over and over again that she wants a man who wants children and is supportive. she had that in nick, but she wasn't ready for it at the time. her wants changed and by her own descriptions of what she currently wants, she is describing her ex to a tee.
on a personal note, i know of 3 men in their 50s who cheated when in their 30s - 40s. they are all very regretful as they have been unable to find the stability and committed long-term love with had in their previous marriages. they have bounced from one relationship to another and the woman they left their wives for is now a thing of the past. they are no longer with those women and have admitted to me that they didn't realize how good their wives were to them (cooking, cleaning, supporting emotionally) until they were gone.
2007-12-02 02:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first wife had an affair.ended no regrets! seconed wife cought her in bed with a bloke kicked his head in and left no regrets! here we are 18 years together third time lucky! no regrets!
2007-12-02 02:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by fozz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only regret not putting my ex hubby out sooner than later.
2007-12-02 02:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I keep side action on the side. People have to stop getting all caught up in their affairs. If your having one, know what it is and keep it that way...stop falling in love all the freakin time and just be happy youre getting some side action.
2007-12-02 02:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Regrets?...I have had a few,
but then again...too few to mention,
2007-12-02 02:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋