Family & Relationships - 28 March 2007

my girlfriend sent me a letter a week ago she asked when was the last time i did ecstasy or cocaine she asked me to be %100 truthfull with her so i told her ive done cocaine 3 times once in the past probally 6 weeks, but the catch is she was thrown in jail for cocaine usage and we both know that she would never go near that stuff, and i had unprotected sex with her during that 6 weeks so maybe it transferred into her body, i heard that can happen. so would i of been better off lieing to her or telling truth to keep are relationship going? so in this case would lieing be ok or should i just tell the truth?

2007-03-28 10:29:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am married with 2 kids I have no friends outside of work in the city I live in. Finally after 6 years of isolation in my house i have recently talked to a single female co-worker, so after emailing each other and IMing we chatted on the phone about work, and other BS going on, well my wife thinks i am emotionally cheating on her basically because she is a female, and i wasn't spending time with her and the family. Well I work overnights and my wife works days so in the daytime i have no one to talk to over the age of 5, so i chat with my co-worker friend and thats cheating?? She is now dating a single male co-worker and we all hang out at work and a bunch of us go out bowling (5 of us total) but my wife still wants me to have no contact with her outside of bowling and work even though i tell her she has no interest in me other than just friends and how she is involved with someone else. Do i have any points here?? Or is my wife in the right. Please help i am very confused.

2007-03-28 10:29:51 · 45 answers · asked by D-Man 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My 16 year old boy asked me why don't people go out on several nights a week with different people, now it's just that everyone is just connected to one person and expect them to be in love for life.

2007-03-28 10:29:48 · 9 answers · asked by VK1960 2 in Singles & Dating

When being tied up specific ways, hints, props to include? I am just trying to keep things from getting boring in that area.

2007-03-28 10:28:38 · 5 answers · asked by kinreep 4 in Singles & Dating

now things are REALLY awquard every time we have to stand next to eachother. Is there a way i can try to make it less aquard w/o smalltalk? thnks.

2007-03-28 10:28:31 · 12 answers · asked by Blondi 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-28 10:28:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my mom abused me for my entire childhood. i always had bullies wherever i went because i was weak and couldn't defend myself. now that i'm older, i've put this mask on and never show who i really am because a part of me is afraid if i let my guard down, it will happen all over again. i never had any close relationships because i can't open up to people. i never got any chance to develop any self esteem or confidense. i'm so scared i will become like my dad (he was a victim too). he's weak and he never had any friends because he always felt inferior to everyone. he is withdrawn from even his family, we don't even know who he really is. it's as if we were just co-existing. i don't want to live like him for the rest of my life, although i feel i'm following his footsteps. how do you become normal and happy, like everyone else? how do you open up to people?

2007-03-28 10:28:09 · 4 answers · asked by mamuca 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Imagine you are a pretty girl who met a very intelligent guy you found to be very interesting. You started going out with him and each week would go with him to the local bar with a bunch of his friends. You were very shy and nothing could change that but he would try and change you to become more open and kept saying confidence is gorgeous. You feel insecure and even more anxious. Over time you get to know the guy well and stick it out but he is constantly telling you that you're hot and wanting to change things about you. He criticises your family and friends (e.g your friend has a baby and all he says is poor father who would want to have one of those ugly little creatures) you know yourself you want children. It has been 2 1/2 years of your relationship and there have been good points but alot more bad points. He criticises your new job when you agree to work at it. he never wants to meet your parents and forces you on countless occasions to have sex. he has a nasty personality and

2007-03-28 10:28:05 · 12 answers · asked by Ava G 2 in Singles & Dating

My best friend works as a conference services manager at a prestigious hotel/resort. From the get go she has said that she likely will not be able to attend the wedding or be the maid of honor because she has to work that weekend. I'm thinking that this is the last nail in the coffin of our relationship. We have been friends since grade 1. Am I overreacting?

2007-03-28 10:27:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I live in Michigan

a little help ladies!!!!!!!I have loved this woman since I was 8 years old-we were neighbors, schoolmates, first loves and my only love--so it is very important to me.

Thanks to all!!!!!!

2007-03-28 10:26:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is spending ANOTHER one of his birthdays in Iraq and I want to get or do something special for him and have NO ideas. Does anyone have any good ideas? He really doesn't need anything considering where he is but I still want to make him feel special on his day. I have a couple months to think or get something together so time is not an issue.

2007-03-28 10:26:40 · 9 answers · asked by Mrs. D 2 in Marriage & Divorce

conversation? If I call you on the phone, guess what I might actually have had a reason for calling but after you talked AT me for 20 minutes I am so frustrated it dosen't even matter any more.

This happens with this person while we are physically together too and I have told him how annoying it is but he still does it. Is it that he thinks only his thoughts or opinions are worthy of being voiced? Sometimes I get so fed up with it I walk away and just say nevermind and then he acts like he is sorry and wants to know what I was going to say! But he keeps doing it to everyone so at least is is not just me.

He is also a notorious interrupter - In the middle of a sentence or statement there he is chiming in on something totally unrelated and random to the subject at hand.

I have talked to him about this several times but nothing changes. This is a serious issue to me because the relationship matters but I just can't see it as anything but rude and self-centered. Suggestions?

2007-03-28 10:26:15 · 1 answers · asked by jerzybuckeye 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

Mentor a boy, 15 (Big Brother Big Sisters) and we have been matched for 2 years. The last couple of months have been very trying,lots of attitude and litttle real conversations. Recently he took a computer game home with him without asking (he hid it in his sweatshirt), which is stealing. This is the second time he has done this, the first time we talked about it and i just chalked it up to him making a simple mistake. So once i realized the game was gone, I went to his house and confronted him and he admitted it. We had a talk and he was not respectful and was unapologetic and also did not say sorry or apologize in any way. I am really upset about this. I've been with him 2 years and it seems he has little respect for me (or anything). I think there is something bigger going on and I asked him and tried to get him to open up, but he said "wasn't any of my business". Obviously, that really hurt to hear. What should I do?

2007-03-28 10:25:52 · 3 answers · asked by benjamin p 1 in Family

what would you do if he believed me?

2007-03-28 10:25:35 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Prom night is soon, and i am begging my mom to let me get a ride home from a friend. We will be having a post-prom party at a friends house (whom she knows very well) and i hope to get a ride from another friend (who she also knows well) BUT she says no because 17 year olds arent allowed to drive after 12, and wants to pick me up. am i right to be mad at her for this, or is she in the right to not let me bend the rules?

2007-03-28 10:24:49 · 6 answers · asked by Vicky N 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Does She like Me??
Ok, im 15 shes is in the year above me,

She said she prefers to be with me than her closest friends because i make her laugh

She asked me to go to the cinema with her

She sometimes grabs my arm not to hold hands just to pull me

she jumps on me for piggy backs

i spoke to her for an hour on the phone

she sometimes compares me to her ex

she texts me quite often

when im on webcam seems to stare at me and replys suddenly

laughs at all my jokes etc..

her friend said her face lights up when shes with me

i like her but not sure if she likes me please help, if you think i should ask her out tell me how to do it ! thanks much appreciated mike

2007-03-28 10:23:44 · 6 answers · asked by Mike n 1 in Singles & Dating

i cant find one and i need help.can anyone send me a link to a pretty dress thats preferably under $120 and blue(to bring out my eyes) but any color is fine though,except red.thanks so much.best dresss gets points!

2007-03-28 10:23:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-28 10:22:53 · 25 answers · asked by Buhle N 1 in Singles & Dating

For those of you who heard about the guy who liked me in 2001 and moved on and blah blah blah. Well, i've found better ways to prhase myself. listen up:

I was shy. but he really really liked me. And I liked him. Even though 2001 was a lomg long time ago, he still looks mad at me. O r is he? I wanna say sorry, but it's hard to say sorry to someone, who is so mad, that they don't want to be near you. What's up with him.

PLEASE TAKE YOUR TIME ANSWERING I FEEL STUK, SO GIVE ME EVERYTHING YOU CAN THINK OF. thanks.

2007-03-28 10:22:47 · 2 answers · asked by hello there 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok theres a girl that goes to my high school and i like her and shes like the sweetest girl ive ever meet. we allways eat lunch together by our selfs and she allways smiles at me and say im funny and says i have really pretty eyes and we allways make eye contact and says im good looking. does this mean i have a chance with her bc i want to ask her out on friday. what should i say to make it special?

2007-03-28 10:22:30 · 7 answers · asked by David R 1 in Singles & Dating

even when she is getting a divorce, need advice,

2007-03-28 10:22:02 · 21 answers · asked by birddog 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my aunt has a boyfriend and he is moving in and his daughter is so fine i am over there all the time im not sure if i should make a move what should i do

2007-03-28 10:21:04 · 1 answers · asked by jacob t 1 in Singles & Dating

Well i posted this yesterday but had one measly answer which is not very useful at all lol

Where i drink there is this woman that is in her early forties and she happens to be very attractive.....she looks about 10 years younger than she is.

Whenever we make conversation she makes piercing eye contact...which she doesnt brake and i feel she is staring deeply into my eyes, she also has put her hands on my bum on a couple of occasions and whenever i am near her the conversation she is having with her mates changes to something to do with breasts. Ive noticed she likes to sort of push her chest out in my direction lol

On the few occasions we have danced she tends to hold me really tight too, guys have you ever experienced this? is she just messin around me??

Ladies? do you like the attention younger guys give you? and if you pay us attention what does it generally mean?

2007-03-28 10:21:01 · 13 answers · asked by villa_mad_lad 1 in Singles & Dating

Their is nothing he could be mad at me about.

2007-03-28 10:21:00 · 5 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Singles & Dating

Im a guy 18 and im friends with a girl shes 12 coz our familes,our parents are friends.but we are only friends nothing else.the real problem is im begining to like her and even love her.i like her and care for more than anything else.i havent told her anything and we keep our distance and are just friends.i like her and i want to try to get married to her when shes 18 or 20.i like her coz shes a good person.and i want to marry her so i can keep her happy and smiling and give her everything i can.its not lust or rape i just care for a person i like .i like her coz shes nice and caring so i care about her too.im hoping to marry her because i know if shes with me i know shes happy and getting a good life the way i hope.would it be ok to wait for this girl i care about and love and get married to her.i wil stay away and not tell until shes 18.but would it be ok for us..if she likes me too.is age difference a big deal even after shes 18.its only 6 or 7 yrs.people have 20 or more.so would be ok.ply try not to give negative answers.i really love and care for her.plz support me to and wish that girl i truely love.and that shes happy forever.
My love is based on caring for a nice girl and the hope to make and keep her smiling forever .its not based on sexual feeling.
Would it be ok to marry someone 6 yrs younger if you care for that person more than anything.i dönt mean now when she 18 or 20.

2007-03-28 10:20:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

theres this girl who i've been friends with for a while. i'm kinda tired of her though, just cuse she's starting to be mean to me, and she is gonna become gothic which really isn't my kinda thing. but i dont know how to tell her i dont want to be friends nymore, cuse she has trusted me and told me all of her secrets and expects me to do the same. what should i do?

2007-03-28 10:20:54 · 12 answers · asked by JoJo 1 in Friends

is it mushy, sappy, romantic, over-rated, or what. have any good or bad memories?

2007-03-28 10:20:54 · 15 answers · asked by Tawddie 2 in Singles & Dating

my bf is a senior in college, without a job offer while a lot of people around him have already found one. He has a crappy gpa, been on academic probation 3 times(including this last semester at college), needs to take another 4 credits in the summer to officially have a degree.

And now he wants to break up with me and find others to date/have a relationship. I'm thinking am i the loser or is he?

2007-03-28 10:20:37 · 5 answers · asked by cherbearnew 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-03-28 10:19:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ever since I broke up with my boyfriend, they have been all over him and are trying to make me jealous. I dont know why because I dont like him anymore but I think it is stupid!

2007-03-28 10:19:21 · 2 answers · asked by Baby girl 1 in Singles & Dating