Love..a girl...help...?

Question

Im a guy 18 and im friends with a girl shes 12 coz our familes,our parents are friends.but we are only friends nothing else.the real problem is im begining to like her and even love her.i like her and care for more than anything else.i havent told her anything and we keep our distance and are just friends.i like her and i want to try to get married to her when shes 18 or 20.i like her coz shes a good person.and i want to marry her so i can keep her happy and smiling and give her everything i can.its not lust or rape i just care for a person i like .i like her coz shes nice and caring so i care about her too.im hoping to marry her because i know if shes with me i know shes happy and getting a good life the way i hope.would it be ok to wait for this girl i care about and love and get married to her.i wil stay away and not tell until shes 18.but would it be ok for us..if she likes me too.is age difference a big deal even after shes 18.its only 6 or 7 yrs.people have 20 or more.so would be ok.ply try not to give negative answers.i really love and care for her.plz support me to and wish that girl i truely love.and that shes happy forever.
My love is based on caring for a nice girl and the hope to make and keep her smiling forever .its not based on sexual feeling.
Would it be ok to marry someone 6 yrs younger if you care for that person more than anything.i dönt mean now when she 18 or 20.

Answer 1

thats so sweet go for it man! but deff. wait til shes 18 or 20. <3

Answer 2

im sorry, but i think its more mature to marry someone your own age with 1 or 2 years different, becuase thats someone you can connect too. just imagine how akward it feels to be her and shes only in middle school while your in college! i mean doesnt that look wired if your in the park holding hands? com'on! but if you truely love her then you go for it, but i think that girl has better things on her mind then dating a adult!!! i mean i have problems dating guys 2 years older than me cause itss soooooooooooo akward. BUT you know what those are just how i feel about the situation, you shouldnt have even wrote and submitted this question in the first place because you cant let some people you dont even knwo mess with you and the love of your life, maybe you should ask her how she feels about you first i mean, dont you think asking her to marry you is a little off the edge, maybe you should start dating first, cuz maybe when your in a dating relationship it might now work out, but you know what, if you REALLY think that you can make this girl happy, then im not holding you back, just do whatever your heart feels best/right to you!
GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

Hmmm..in another time this would have been ok to have feelings like this, but seriously she is 12 and your 18. 18 yr old should be hanging with either the same age or a little older.

If things are still the same when she is 20 and it feels right then sure go for it, but to have thoughts like this with a 12 yr old is alarming and not really good for you in the end

Answer 4

very touching issue, but I wouldhave to say if you really love her the way you say (as a person) then you should have to wait for her until she is mature enough to make her mind and have those type of feelings towards you as well, you do have to realize that this does not necesarril mean its going to happen being that she will get to meet other guys in school and along the way, but the true love test for you is to respect her as a person, you should wait and not try to get her to feel pressured at such a young age for her to make such a big commitment, remember it is not only about you, she is very young and still has a lot a life left in her don't take her childhood away by talking to her about love right now and much less marriage. hope this helps you understand a little bit more probably not, but at least it might tell you again what you already know.

Answer 5

I think its sweet that you care so much for her. And if you are willing to wait until shes sixteen and your twenty four..that would be a good time to start dating. My fiance is 12 years older then I am and we get along so well. It all has to do with maturity levels....if you are willing to not go too far too soon, then I see nothing wrong with pursuing her...but do it in a timely manner. Be a gentleman about it, and remember that she is still very young and vulnerable. Dont take advantage and just be patient...wait for her and if was meant to be then it will happen. There is nothing wrong with at age difference as long as you know when the right time to pursue her is....definitely not now. You dont want to deprive her of any "childhood" things either. So remember that you just ned to be patient and wait. Good luck!

Answer 6

hmm well this is ...... hard.......if you really think your inlove with her then wait but if i were you and you two still talk when she turns 16 or 17 i would tell her then so that she kinda knows ahead of time instead of right there at 18 and u wanting to marry her right there. im a girl obviously and my bf is 18 and im 15 that'ss only 3 years apart ,, no big deal but if your woried about age difference, dont. cuz my aunt and unlce got married and they are like 14 years apart ***worried face*** that's not the best but they did so w/e makes them happy. i hope everything works out for you and her. GOOD LUCK!!! ***happy face****

Answer 7

It's fine. Just be smart. Take things very slowly. Now you're thinking straight but pretty soon once you express your feelings to each other it's only going to get harder. I hate to say this but try to date other people for the next few years. It would be okay to start dating her when she's 16 but go easy and with no pressure. Your life might be totally different then. Just don't make any rash desicions like having a five year engagement or anything like that. I also wouldn't tell very many people. Well good luck. :)

Answer 8

Well, in the meantime, go on with life as you would. Six years is a long time to wait for anything. You keep bound like that for so long, you are likely to make a mistake.

Now, you are also gonna see her change significantly. As of now, she starts the road that will shape her as a person, and she will change. She is only a kid. They are supposed to be good. She just has to have the experiences of a normal girl first before such important issues.

So, live your life and let her live hers, for her and your sake.

Best of luck.

Answer 9

You're 18 and she's 12? Don't be that guy. That might work out in 8 years, but not before, and a lot can change in that time. Love her from afar. You will not be taken seriously as a couple.

Answer 10

wow! thatz a toughie! Duz she feel tha same way about u? Cuz if u try to rush into things- she may get the wrong impression! But if u really luv this girl age shouldnt matter. u probably shud get married when shes a bit older too. I hope I helped! Good luck :)

Answer 11

I think that is very sweet, and i dont think the age difference is a problem, my parents are nine years apart and they are going strong! I wish you two luck and she is still pretty young, it is a good idea to wait till she gets older to tell her how you really feel. She is still very young and will go threw crushes in her classes, but just know that you should keep your love to yourself until the right time comes.
BEST OF LUCK!!!