Hopefully someone has been in the same situation as I am. I have been married for almost 10 years, and no two people can be more different than my husband and I. We married at a very young age, he knew I would make a good partner and I simply wanted to have a family of my own. During the course of 10 years, we went from one rough patch to another, from his gambling to lying and almost driving us into bankruptcy. I've stuck out the marriage, because as a Christian, I didn’t believe in divorce and because after years of being ignored by him and choosing to do his own thing I felt unworthy of anything better.
Two years ago we found out he can’t have children, and I don’t see my life without becoming a mother. Adoption is not an option, and sperm donation is too difficult to come to grips with - I want to have a child with a man I enjoy being with, and after all that we went through, I feel dead in our relationship.
Should I stick it out, go with sperm donation, settle for that and live my life, barely existing, or should I get a divorce and try all over again? I'm in my early 30s, but sometimes I feel my whole life is over. There is nothing I want more than to start a family with a man I have fun with, who likes similar things and activities. A part of me feels sorry for my husband - it seems now he is finally learning from his mistakes and my leaving would break him. But I’ve given 10 years of my life to his man, and I don’t think I can make any more sacrifices at my expense.
What are some opinions on what I should do?
2007-03-13
17:18:11
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Alex S
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Marriage & Divorce