Heartbroken. What do you think?

Question

So the boy I'm in love with used to have feelings for me last year (but was soo shy and too stubborn to make a move, and even when it was perfectly clear that I liked him too, he basically let me go and didn't try to pursue a relationship with me...i had NO idea he liked me).

and now, as a year or so has passed, i have feelings for him still, but he tells me he doesnt anymore (because of my ex, who is his best friend....i stupidly made that mistake). he also told me that he doesn't feel like a relationship would work, and that he has "trouble with girlfriends"...but doesnt know what went wrong last year when we both liked each other. 

now i feel stuck...he occasionally tells me that my ex (his best friend) is a jerk and an *** and that i shouldn't bother talking to him.

and then recently, another friend of both of them (whom i've never talked to before) told me that both of them talk about me at school.

so really, as you can see...i am quite confused. does he like me still?

is patience really all i need? will he make a move eventually?

Answer 1

I've been in this spot as the same as the guy you seem to like. I didnt say anything out right for many reasons but I did things to try to show it because I figured actions spoke louder then words & that in my case she had probably had her fill of empty words & being rush so on so forth. Especially since she had a son. I also had never had the feelings as soon or to the point that I did with her & it truly scared me because I felt that she was so beautiful & the type more into bad boys that sooner or later i'd lose her to someone else who had more money was hotter or a better job especially since again she had a kid. Your friend very well may still like you but have an issue with dating his friends ex especially if you dated the friend because the guy you liked didnt make a move. I always had a dream of love marrieage kids good job & all that but even had a face in my dreams to who that would be with until I met the girl I mentioned & started feeling thinking & seeing forever. It was all very overwhelming & again she had been very hurt in the past & so I thought that for her sake & mine as well as her son's that we should build a good friendship & just let nature take over. I admit my faults & even insecurities but my intentions was always true & even when she let a friend of mine make a play for her behind my back I stepped back if it made her happy but that to this day I remain a friend of hers & she has had several relationships since then & even a son with my former friend. Alot of guys have a saying that they wouldnt date a friends sister or ex because it might hurt the friendship between the two guys. Most fail to live up to that at some point but I have always done so maybe your friend has put aside his feelings that he still has for this very reason also. I have put my feelings for the girl I know aside many times to help her with this or that because in the end for me her happiness is all i care about. I would talk to him & tell him how you feel & ask it it has something to do with the unwritten law that he wont date you because of the ex & then say that he's a big boy & can make up his own mind & if the friend your ex cant seperate the past from the buddy then both need to grow up. As for the troubles with girlfriends he could be a shy guy even insecure which can affect what a woman sees or maybe sees in him after awhile especially if he's been hurt. I know I have changed since I found out about the female friend "hanging out" with my former friend behind my back & the changes in me arent exactly good even if I have tried to learn to open up more I trust even less then I did.

Answer 2

I would say he does still like you. He likely is afraid of you getting in the way of his friendship and so is saying no to anything between you two. I doubt he'll make a move eventually though patience is required. Don't make a move till 1. You are on speaking terms of an amicable sort with his friend that you went out with and 2. That he has definately let his friend know that he liked you since way back ( whenever he actually liked you and vice versa) . using manipulation and subterfuge is permitted to acomplish this ( all IS fair in Love and War). and 3. that he and you both are NOT on the rebound. That is just asking for a failed relationship... After that push the issue if u want. Seduction of the sort where alcohol and throwing your naked body at him IS permitted if you feel like such measures.

Answer 3

Well remind him that your still feeling him. Waite for what will happen. Ask him if he's feeling and just don't want to say anything because of his best friend. Also see if your x is ok with all this because you don't want to start any trouble.

Answer 4

I think he might still have feelings for you. You need to get him alone and talk to him and tell him you still have feelings for him and that you want to try things diffrent from last year and that if you both have feelings then you would not care what people say, you have to listen to what your partener has to say and not your friends.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

probably not.theres a little to much on that burner,move on and find another