Family & Relationships - 8 March 2007

2007-03-08 22:43:24 · 22 answers · asked by lynn 5 in Singles & Dating

my gf finished with me on monday, she said she only wants to be friends. I met my gf at work, outside work we was perfect but wen it got to work days, we argued, cos ofbher work mates spreading stuff about me and making me paranoid by giving me dirty lucks. so it was partly my fault why she finished' lastnite I rung 2 tell her not ring me on my other fone, cos I lost it. she answered and said she wed ring me bk in a bit cos she busy, she sounded down. so she rung hour later so I asked if sh was ok, shevstarted shouting and stressing at me so I put fone down on her. she then txt me twice and rung me 8 times. the txts asking what's up wi me and why I put fone down. shal I txt her or shal I let her suffer bit l0nger? I want her bk cos I like her. previusly I used to txt and ring her loads. ifbshe wants to be friends why wud she bother 8times to ring me? I never ansWered what do I do? she also wrote in one of the txts she will seebme at work 2day but am not going in today plz help how can I get her back? she made it clear she wants friendship so what can I do? I feel she likes me? p
z help I,like her to bits

2007-03-08 22:42:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-03-08 22:42:20 · 26 answers · asked by momo3031 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-03-08 22:42:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have 2 Questions: My man & i want to get married but are not financially stable at the moment, We've told the family we'll wait for 2yrs. Our religion says that if we sleep together we're already married. So we want to get married in God's eyes. Ques 1 - Do we exchange vows just the 2 of us or do we need witnesses? Ques 2 - Should we wait or can we get married.

2007-03-08 22:41:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

ok, so i like a boy and found out he likes me. i am 13 and well i gave him a present on valentines day and he gave me one. it was so sweet but we werent valentines. he has hugged me efore and it felt so good. my hormones are so screwed up though because i want to kiss him and maybe a little little farther. what do i do my hormones are confusing me?

2007-03-08 22:40:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-08 22:40:23 · 9 answers · asked by Plone 1 in Singles & Dating

Many of you may think I'm a stalker after I tell this story, but just to let you guys know, I am alot different now and I am very ashamed of how I was back than. Im here to get the best advice possible.

It was 3 years ago when I was in high school. I was 17 years old and back than I was not that sociable at all and had hardly any friends. So my skills in communication wasn't up to par with most 17 year olds.

This took place in my gym class. I have notice this girl I found very cute and for some reason, attracted to her but I never had the guts to go up and talk to her and the first mistake I have made was just i kept looking at her, this is pretty normal at first when you have a crush on someone but if you keep doing it, it may eventually creep them out and scare them, so this was my first mistake. Although, she didn't seem to notice me doing that as much, maybe she did notice but choose to ignore me and a couple times I did see her whisper something to her friend when I looked at her.

Everyday I would look at her a couple times, figuring out how I can get a dialogue going with her but never had the guts. So one day, I told one of guys I talked to in my gym class about her, so one day, they called her over and I was kinda freaking out about that 0_0.

So she came by and one of guys said "Hey, do you have a boyfriend"? She said " No, why?" Than the guy said "Oh, are you looking for a boyfriend?" she said " No not really"

after that both of the dudes I talked to about her said "Sorry dude". Than I told the girl I had a crush on to "uhh, you can leave now, go go" she turned back and kinda gave me that laugh smile as though she found it a little funny.

So I don't know why the guys had to do that, I felt like it might of be ruined and maybe at that point I should of just let it go. But, I really liked her and I didn't want to give up just yet.

A few days later, I told my friend(the guy I talked to in p.e.) about her again, but only because the semester was over almost and I wanted to find out if she was going to be in p.e. in the 2nd semester. So I asked the my friend to go up and asked her for me because he talked to her a few times before and about me sometimes. She was across the gym so he went to the other side and talked to her for a little bit, when my friend came back she kept looking at me 0_0......

It was really really strange, its like my friend told her something about me and now she kept looking at me like she really liked me or something. I told my friend to tell her that I thought she was the most beautiful girl in that classroom. But than...the next day I RUINED IT!! I BLEW IT and I wish I can travel back in time and fixed what I have done! I have weirded or out and this is how..

The next day, she continued to look at me and I was really really nervous. In fact, everytime her and her friends got close me, it was not intentionally though, I would just walk away because I knew they were talking about me right behind my back, I heard her say "This guy said the he liked me" Than I walked away. and headed to where im suppose to sit down at. she continued to look at me, intill the p.e. class was over and than..thats where it all started to go downhill.

The next day I toughen up and I said to myself "Im going to talk to her this time" but....than...she stopped. She stopped looking at me and everything and a few times I tried to go up to her and talk to her but she would always walk away, sometimes during Lunch I would see her with her friends and I would wave to her, but got nothing in return..nothing..and eventually and I was shocked about this, she told the principal on me.

The principal told me that she didn't feel confortable with what I was doing, he said that needed to stop staring at her and stop trying to pursue her.

At this point I was confused on why she would do this.

And this is where I should of stopped, I should of gotten the message that she didn't like me anymore and I screwed up and only a fool would continue to pursue, but i've always been a fool and said to myself once more "I ain't giving up".

Here is my BIGGEST mistake of all. Although it could of been a thousand time worse and I could of done something terrible instead of doing something flat out creepy.

My next plan was a letter expression my feelings towards her, I was going to write her a love poem pretty much and it took me awhile to put it all together. The first part was an Apology for making her feel unconfortable. This is probably where I should of stopped in the letter if I were to write to her but I didn,t after that I went on on how special she was and how beautiful she is to me and how she makes me feel.

and guess what? I got in trouble with the principal again and guess what? he had the letter I gave her. What do you know. He told me it would best if I was pulled out of that class. The principal said it was nothing serious and he said he just wanted to help me forget about her and move on. I didn't get in trouble or anything thoughtout this whole incident.

and my friend told me that she read the letter I gave her to the whole classroom in one of her other classes.

It was pretty hard for me to move on but I did eventually and along the way, I've met new girls and new people and started to become more sociable as time went on. During the 3 years I have been in a few relationships.

and I've been using myspace for awhile now but than...just recently, I found her profile and to my surprise, she had a boyfriend and her boyfriend looked really familier to me. From that point on, all my feelings for her came back...after 3 years..it came back and of course I've always thought of her from time to time but now....I don't know what to do.

I told my buddies about it and one of them message her "Nothing related to me" saying "Hey I think I know your boyfriend" or something along those lines but she never replied to him, so....she won't talk to anybody she doesn't know and I'd doubt if I tried anything, she would freak out all over again.

I've feel pretty bad about it and I wish I can go back and fix it. I wish I can just explain myself to her. But messaging her sounds like a really bad idea.

But this is where I need help here, what should I do?? and what would happen if I tried to message her?? or do anything? and what would her reaction be if she saw my profile??


I don't blame her, I just wish I wasn't so stupid back than and everytime I look back on it, I get upset about it because I know maybe me and her could of been friends or more. I've made alot of mistakes and I have learned alot these past 3 years.

Other girls have rejected yea, but not because I was a creep, because they just didn't like me, one way or another but I never let that bug me, but for some reason, thinking about this girl really upsets me. And I just wish somehow I can show her that I am no longer that creepy person.

I know what your thinking "Why does it matter"?

I'll be honest, it doesn't matter, its just when I think back on it, it really gets to me and I wish I can't believe I did something so freaking stupid.

2007-03-08 22:40:14 · 5 answers · asked by DarkAaron 1 in Singles & Dating

there are always lots of posts on here critisizing ex wives and 2nd wives and deadbeat dads. do you think most 2nd wives who call the ex fit to burn are actually married to men who the ex would consider a deadbeat dad, but the new wife cant see it because they are blinded by love? If you are an ex wife are you jealous of new wife? 2nd wife are you insecure about ex wife especially where kids are concerned? and how many 2nd wives discourage or encourage dads from seeing and paying for their kids?

2007-03-08 22:38:54 · 10 answers · asked by slsvenus 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Please help?

2007-03-08 22:37:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Cant stand her family would you go with them or tell them all to p.ss off including your grabbing wife.

2007-03-08 22:37:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have special feelings for a guy can he be my special friend?

2007-03-08 22:37:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Our friends viewed us as the perfect couple and our demise was because I am still incollege unsure of what I want to do and he is in the real world. I have battle with uncertainty in my education and the only thing that i new was certain was him. He is a go getter and a be out side man and i have fallen into the miss sleeps alot and lack of ambition. I am working really hard on myself because it was me that inevitable forced us to this situation but up until the night we broke up he was saying I love you like normal and then we decided it wasn't working. We have talked since then and i have realized a multitude of mistakes that I have made by not knowing myself and depending on him to define me. Is there any hope or should i deal with the situation as is? We have talked twice since then and he has said he needs space but I am confused on how to go from looking at wedding rings to this point, his fault and mine. What does this really mean?

2007-03-08 22:35:04 · 5 answers · asked by Rosey83 2 in Singles & Dating

Iam looking for mr right.................but everywhere i look, over the internet, in the club.................around my friends............., they always treat me wrong......................!!!!Iam a good person...........and iam open for everything.............i like to laugh.........and to go out also stay at home and watching a movie..................that is not wrong or is it?????
I dont know what to do ....but i feel very lonley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-03-08 22:35:04 · 23 answers · asked by night_age_germany 4 in Singles & Dating

with her boyfriends parents. She is 22 and he is 17. She thinks she is pregnant and his parents don't like her! She lives in Florida and wants to know if anyone knows the laws. Is this considered sagatory rape, or is it the age of consent law? Could his parents send her to jail? Please help, she really needs the advice!

2007-03-08 22:34:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i've been dating this girl for three and a half months, and i feel so much for her, and care for her a lot, i really feel that i love her. Is it way to soon? or should i just say it?

2007-03-08 22:34:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Married 29 years. Hubby drinking heavy for 5 yrs. He is on shift work and he drinks heavy 2 days a week(on days off). He really changes to the opposite. Shows hate and anger towards me on these times and it is getting worse. He says he doesn't remember the next day and won't believe me when I tell him what he said or did. So then he gets angry with me for saying these things. I know he loves me. Is it just a stalemate after so long together? He asked me the other night if I still loved him. When I think about it I don,t think I do after all the s*** he has loaded on me for so long. I just clam up when he drinks and I feel very insecure. Please reply if you have dealt with similar.

2007-03-08 22:34:00 · 17 answers · asked by jojammum48 4 in Marriage & Divorce

What do u want out of life?
is it a good life,
more money,
happiness or........

2007-03-08 22:33:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-03-08 22:31:41 · 9 answers · asked by jorge t 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife wants to pose for nude photographs with a professional photographer and has asked me what I think of the idea. Until now, she has only posed like that for me and the photos we have taken have always been kept between the two of us. Whilst the idea is exciting for me, and I would definately enjoy seeing the resulting photos, I am uncomfortable about it. This is partly because of her being so intimately exposed to somebody else, and also because of what might happen to the photos after. It is not my place to forbid her to do anything, but she asked me what I thought and I want to give her a considered response without sounding too prudish. Has anyone else been in this situation and have any thoughts?

2007-03-08 22:29:34 · 23 answers · asked by Paul H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

After a year I finally told him that I like me. I did tell him that I need to be left alone for a while cause Im not sure if our relationship is just based on lust or something more. I don't want 2 get physical and I want to take things slow. Its been 4 days since I spoke to him, he dropped me an email saying this...

"Thats the most honest u've been with me.....U did take your time....I guess u were waiting to see all this while if I really like u or not !....silly I told u early on...I find u very attractive....I miss our moments of togetherness.....pleasant memories...
Still I like your discipline...u r probably doing the right thing....if we meet, it would be impossible for me not to want to hold u....and just sink in the warmth of your embrace....though still some part of me desires u physically....I can't lie about that...or help it. but I do understand what you are saying any way I miss you alot." Is just Lust or does he really love me?

2007-03-08 22:28:25 · 4 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Singles & Dating

My spouse recently told me that having sex and getting off while watching porn are the same thing....just a release activity. I found it insulting. I truely don't care if he wants to watch a dirty movie, that's not why I was insulted. So, am I being overly touchy about it? Or did I just royally get dist'ed?

2007-03-08 22:28:20 · 17 answers · asked by Arlene06 4 in Marriage & Divorce

help me i dont know why but everyone i know hates me why why? and what sould i do??

2007-03-08 22:27:04 · 5 answers · asked by dark_star1548 1 in Friends

I posted an ask a few days ago about my ex. She ended things 1 mth ago & I had avoided contacting her to give her space. She txted me a few days ago on the basis she owed me some money & asked if she should call to discuss. I said not to worry about the money. She then said she had a dvd of mine and could bring it round. I suggested to her we chat at some point. We spoke and agreed to meet for a drink.

I wasn't sure how to approach the drink but decided to be quite casual. I got the firm impression she wanted to see me but wasn't sure why.

The drink went well. At first things didn't seem positive, arms crossed etc After a while she opened up and we talked and laughed away.

As I was taking things slowly I ended the meet probably earlier than I would have liked. We went our ways, both said it was nice to see the other & said "see you again soon". She looked sad when we went our separate ways.

What should I read into this? She seemed quite positive but we didn't chat about us

2007-03-08 22:26:57 · 5 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been together for almost 7 yrs now and have been married for 2 yrs. We are high school sweet hearts and are stationed in South Korea right now. We have gone through some hard times this past month and are starting to get back on track.

I really love him and we can only send each other stuff through the internet and we only see each other every other week. What are some ideas of romantic things i can do on the internet, like e-cards or poems or something that i can send him to tell and show him i love him and miss him....

GUYS what would you like for a girl to do?

2007-03-08 22:26:09 · 3 answers · asked by kkds14 3 in Marriage & Divorce

decided to give husband another chance but worried he might cheat again. he had a 2 month affair with a much older woman (him 25- she 40) due to our not having sex during that time. he said he slept with her 4 times total. he confessed everything to me and has since done a total turnaround i just hope its permanent. he has broken off all contact, changed phones, moved, new job. started going to church, agreed to marriage counseling, being better daddy, and agreed that me and him should start "dating" and that he is no longer allowed "out with the boys" until i trust him again how ever long that maybe, that if he wants to go out i must go with him.
do you think some men can change? im so afraid if he cheats again. i will leave him for sure cause i let him now this is his one and only chance but my heart is so broken right now.

2007-03-08 22:23:17 · 27 answers · asked by maylene1852 4 in Marriage & Divorce

a teenager girl loves a girl in her class...love in sense she likes 2 talk with her, stay with her, help her whenever she is in needs help.she aslo miss her very much and every time she think of her....2nd girl is quit aware that she is being liked by 1st girl but still she does not pay much attention to her.
plz suggest what can done so that the 2nd girl start having the same feeling for the 1st girl
(its just a story...but plz answer !!!)

2007-03-08 22:22:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Been looking into this for a show, and there seems to be a gerowing trend of
"30something willow seeks Spike to stake her"
"gay time lord seeks Companion for next incarnation"
"wedge seeks wookie"

where the best one and dating one. I went to jedidating.com but they weantd my mother maiden name and postcode which is v.dodgy in my eyes.lord rings dating got me an advice sheet.
dr.who dating ot an invite to a gay monthly meet in central london. U.K residents only reply please

2007-03-08 22:20:29 · 5 answers · asked by comicbookrob 3 in Singles & Dating

and he's tipsy

2007-03-08 22:18:07 · 15 answers · asked by Ting 4 in Singles & Dating

been with hubby 6 years. we have 2 girls 3 year old and 19 months.

his story:
he cheated on me with a girl who had recentlly broken up with her man. took her out a couple times and slept with her only about 4 times with her nov-jan. gave her a christmas gift of prefume too. first time in a hotel after going to a club cause he was drunk but other 3 times sober in her car. he broke it off with her right after 4th time sex cause he felt guilty and it was making him sick. the girl goes bersek, stalks him, doesnt stop calling, now claims to be pregnant. he says he did not use condom with her cause she told him she was on depo.
*i believe all this except for it being only 4 times since there is 2 months timespan according to him and she claims it was 3 months together and sex like once twice a week according to her......i also hate the fact he gave her prefume. if he had no feelings for her why the gift?


i was told everything by him , a guilt laden confession on feb 3rd. told me everything and said he had been immature stupid and not thinking about me or the kids, but that he had to get it off his chest, and tell me everything. he had tried to tell me a few times before but i had thought he was joking. that he cheated 4 times in a 2 month time span, with the same girl who now has gone physco because he refuses to see her anymore. he has completely broken all contacts with her. he said the first time he was drunk, but had no excuse the other 3 times except stupidity and being weak. he said that she wouldnt stop chasing him and the other 3 times were just quick car sex. he said he was sorry for everything that she caught him off guard at a weak moment (drunk and when he and i hadnt had sex in a little over a month and before that only like once every other week) but that it was no excuse that he is 100% at fault but please dont leave him or take away the kids. that with me and the girls his life has no meaning. he said he was gonna start going to church every sunday. that never again would he go out without me going too, that he'd come straight home from work everyday, be a better father, better husband to give him the oppurtunity to show me he could change. that he know women say all men who cheat will do it again but that some are tulry rependent and to let him show me. to please lets start from 0 again. it seemed sincere. since then he has done a complete 180, he has not gone out once, agreed to all the conditions i set in order for him to have this only chance. he has been a better father to the girls and is treating me better too. he has agreed to marriage counseling, and we our having our first "date night" without the kids of course this coming week. all contacts are broken with new phone numbers new job and new address.

her story: she knew he was married and had kids but had hung out with him so often with her boyfriend and kids she started getting feelings for him. on oct 27 they went clubbing (her bf, him and her) her bf got drunk and while he was home passed out she gave my dh a ******* then she suggested going to a hotel and he agreed. (i never gave him blowjobs and he always begged for them)
they stayed together after that seeing each other whever possible, and he gave her a gift at christmas. that he told her he loved her and she believed him. then in febraury when she told him she was pregnant he got mad cause she lied to him about the birth control. she said she never got it cause he was supposed to bring her to the appt and never showed. he refused to see her anymore saying that it was not his baby. she told him she was gonna do an abortion and he told her not to that he was going right over but never went. then he changed his number, moved out of town, changed jobs and she couldnt find him. that she only looked for me cause she wanted me to know the truth. she thought he hadnt told me. and she also wanted to know what he wanted to do with the baby. i told her he will give her all rights cause he wants nothing to do with it if his. she said thats fine with her she doesnt need him cause shes a professional, a nurse.

* i dont believe parts of this, she showed me doctors papers saying she was pregnant but i found out they were falsified, she works at the hospital as a medical assistant and i found 2 errors on one of the papers. also people around town are telling me that she cant get pregnant that she has 5 kids and has fixed herself. there is another man saying she told him it was his baby. she has left messages on my dh phone saying she will "show him what she is made of if he doesnt come do her" "I will go tell your ****in wife everything" "will not stop until your wife leaves you becuase you are gonna pay for this"
she also has told EVERYONE that knows him or me or her that he left her pregnant and his reputation is completely ruined.


am i wrong to doubt the pregnancy and believe my dh when he says she is only doing this to see us broken up? should i believe him when he says he has no feelings for her whatsoever that it was just our lack of sex and his not being able to say no when she just ofered it up? would you have forgiven him, given him a second chance? would you believe it was only the 4 times he claims??

2007-03-08 22:17:21 · 2 answers · asked by maylene1852 4 in Marriage & Divorce